Carnegie pointed out that comfort can give warmth, light and strength to unfortunate people. It is a virtue to comfort the unfortunate. It is your duty to give sincere comfort to friends and relatives when they encounter misfortune.
There is no need to talk too much about the illness when visiting the unfortunate people who are seriously ill. The doctor has explained and explained the relevant medical knowledge, and you don't need to say anything more. If the other person is already burdened with the mental burden of focusing on illness, the burden will increase if you talk too much.
You should talk more about what patients care about and are interested in, so as to divert their attention and reduce their mental burden.
For those unfortunate people who are discriminated against because of physical defects or birth or family background, some of them are born deficient because of unfortunate reasons. When comforting, we should tell more success stories of celebrities with similar situations, and encourage the other party not to give in to fate and resist the ideological influence of fatalism.
Comfort the unfortunate bereaved, and don't rush to discourage the other person from crying. Strong grief, like a boulder, accumulates in my heart. The longer it lasts, the heavier it becomes. Let it vent and release, but it will help to quickly restore psychological balance and calm state. You should pay attention to listening to each other's memories and crying, and talk more about the advantages and contributions of the deceased before his death. When a person is frustrated, he needs people's sympathy very much. For example, if a child fails in the college entrance examination, some parents just blame: "
What a yellow fish head! Nothing! I don't think you are cut out for reading at all. You'd better sweep the garbage! "
There are also some sympathy and comfort, and actively enlighten: "This topic is wrong, right? It's okay. Dad failed in the exam when he was young. Sum up experience and take the exam next year. Or study while working, and self-study can also become a talent. "
Obviously, the former attitude can only make children more miserable, while the latter attitude is correct.
It is wrong to blame and pity those who are frustrated. "Oh, you are really unlucky!" "Your life is really bitter!" This will only make the listener more disheartened and unable to work hard.
At the beginning of the language, we should pay attention to timely comfort for emergencies such as birth, aging, illness and death. Things not only lost their meaning.
Exploring righteousness, and it will make the other person's calm heart evoke sad memories, which is very inappropriate.
Of course, it doesn't mean that they must comfort each other when they are emotional. When a person's emotions are out of control, anyone's comfort is hard to hear and can only add fuel to the fire. It's better to talk to him when he calms down and wakes up.
Sometimes, lies are not all bad.
For sick patients, they can only tell their families the truth of their illness, but for themselves, it should still be a serious illness. If the lie really aroused his love for life and strengthened his will to fight against the disease, it would be possible to make life last longer and even defeat death.
A good lie, of course, has a good intention, that is, it has the courage to alleviate the mental pain of the unfortunate and help them come back to life. When the patient knows the truth later, he will only be grateful and won't complain. Even though I am dubious and even know that this is a lie, the reasonable person still feels warm and relieved. Tell the truth when you know it will aggravate the other person's mental pain. If it is not bad, it is stupid.
Comfort him, sometimes swap places, and make yourself a comforted person.
There is a middle-aged cadre in a factory. Because of a quarrel with the factory leader, the factory leader decided to transfer him from his post without authorization. This matter is of course very sad for this cadre.
In this way, I am afraid that any words of comfort will not help. At this time, a colleague saw the state of restoring psychological balance and calm. You should pay attention to listening to each other's memories and crying, and talk more about the advantages and contributions of the deceased before his death. When a person is frustrated, he needs people's sympathy very much. For example, if a child fails in the college entrance examination, some parents just blame: "
What a yellow fish head! Nothing! I don't think you are cut out for reading at all. You'd better sweep the garbage! "
There are also some sympathy and comfort, and actively enlighten: "This topic is wrong, right? It's okay. Dad failed in the exam when he was young. Sum up experience and take the exam next year. Or study while working, and self-study can also become a talent. "
Obviously, the former attitude can only make children more miserable, while the latter attitude is correct.
It is wrong to blame and pity those who are frustrated. "Oh, you are really unlucky!" "Your life is really bitter!" This will only make the listener more disheartened and unable to work hard.
At the beginning of the language, we should pay attention to timely comfort for emergencies such as birth, aging, illness and death. Things not only lost their meaning.
Exploring righteousness, and it will make the other person's calm heart evoke sad memories, which is very inappropriate.
Of course, it doesn't mean that they must comfort each other when they are emotional. When a person's emotions are out of control, anyone's comfort is hard to hear and can only add fuel to the fire. It's better to talk to him when he calms down and wakes up.
Sometimes, lies are not all bad.
For sick patients, they can only tell their families the truth of their illness, but for themselves, it should still be a serious illness. If the lie really aroused his love for life and strengthened his will to fight against the disease, it would be possible to make life last longer and even defeat death.
A good lie, of course, has a good intention, that is, it has the courage to alleviate the mental pain of the unfortunate and help them come back to life. When the patient knows the truth later, he will only be grateful and won't complain. Even though I am dubious and even know that this is a lie, the reasonable person still feels warm and relieved. Tell the truth when you know it will aggravate the other person's mental pain. If it is not bad, it is stupid.
Comfort him, sometimes swap places, and make yourself a comforted person.
There is a middle-aged cadre in a factory. Because of a quarrel with the factory leader, the factory leader decided to transfer him from his post without authorization. This matter is of course very sad for this cadre.
In this way, I am afraid that any words of comfort will not help. At this time, a colleague saw this situation and said to him, "if it weren't for your help, how could I be where I am today?" What shall I do once you leave? "
The young cadre used to frown and be unhappy. After listening to my colleague's words, I immediately put away my sad mood and said to him, "No, you are already independent. In order to meet the needs of work, the factory leader transferred me. I hope you can give full play to your strengths in the future ... "
Because of this colleague's wit, the dull atmosphere is virtually relieved, and the really distressed people are comforted.