We love each other and like to be together. Why divorce? Most couples don't want to change themselves and tolerate each other because of their three views. Both husband and wife may be excellent, but they can't live together, and finally this relationship ends in divorce.
Marriage is divorced, but its own problems have not changed, or the original person. It's really hard to find a partner who can completely combine his three views and match his personality and temper. People are like leaves, although there are many, it is not easy to find two identical leaves, which just match.
Most divorced men and women have children, which makes it more difficult to remarry and live a good life. Children are a big obstacle, and everyone is selfish. Although everyone has love, few people can really take other people's children as their own. On the issue of children, there will be great differences, and some people even involve their parents when they get married.
Property is also a disadvantage. The biggest difference between remarriage and newlywed is here. Newlyweds regard property as * * *, while second-married couples regard property as their own, so whoever belongs to it doesn't want to contribute. Both sides are afraid of hardship, because of property, it is hard for husband and wife to think of doing it together, even in a strange strange bedfellows.
With these factors, it is not difficult to explain that there are not many good people who get married second.
There are exceptions. Some lucky people have really found another partner they like, which coincides with him and becomes a harmonious and beautiful couple. This is one in a million, and the probability is low. Most people should change themselves, sum up their experiences and lessons when they are newly married, find out their own shortcomings, try to make themselves better and take marriage seriously. Such people will be much happier and mature after getting married for the second time.
Those who don't want to change themselves, but are as willful and willful as when they first got married, are not much better when they get married.
I don't agree with this view. Many divorced women are doing well. Whether you live well or not depends mainly on your own ability: the ability to control your emotions, the ability to live alone, and the ability to improve yourself. . . . .
First, the ability to control emotions. Divorce is a huge blow in many cases. It is said that marriage is a big deal, marriage is a big deal, and divorce is a big deal. In many cases, people after divorce are depressed, life is boring, they don't know what to do, and even many people will have suicidal tendencies after divorce. . . At this time, if you don't have the ability to control your emotions, these situations are likely to occur. . Once there are all kinds of bad emotions, it will lead to loss of confidence in life, no motivation to work, and a muddled life all day. . Then this kind of life will definitely not be good. . On the contrary, people with strong self-control know how to resolve their depression and live vigorously every day. Such people will definitely start over and find their own happiness. This is "there is no doubt about mountains and rivers, and there is another village." .
Second, the ability to live alone. A large number of divorced women will face financial problems. Most divorced women usually take their children with them, which makes it inconvenient to work. Coupled with their own expenses, they often make ends meet and are stretched. At this time, if the contradiction between work and children cannot be solved well, life will be more difficult. Now it is the impact of the employment environment. The employment scope of women is relatively narrow, and a large number of divorced women have lost their employment advantages. Because many women have children, they will basically be out of touch with society for a long time, which will make it difficult for divorced women to find jobs. In this way, many divorced women really have a hard time.
Finally, improve your ability. It is said that the first marriage failed, so let's analyze the reasons, find out the problems and see how to solve them. After a divorce, a woman should improve her ability of distinguishing right from wrong, discerning her eyes, analyzing and solving problems. . . Even improve their learning ability and working ability. . It doesn't matter if you make a mistake once, it's important not to make a mistake twice. Love the wrong person, we give up, go the wrong way, and we turn back. . If you are wrong, you should learn from experience and avoid making mistakes again. . . We should strive to improve ourselves, like phoenix nirvana and perfect rebirth. .
Based on the above three reasons, I think whether a divorced woman has a good life depends mainly on her three abilities: the ability to control her emotions, the ability to live alone and the ability to improve herself. . . . . If we can do this, then she should be able to live a good life. . .
Really, as the Internet said, divorced women rarely have a good life?
Of course not. Sometimes, the Internet is one-sided. How good or bad your family is is related to your understanding, fate and three views. If you meet the right person, you will not only have a good life, but also be full of happiness and have a very good life. ...
For marriage, everyone is an individual and different. Two people forming a family is both a combination and a contradiction. Some love is sincere, love is thorough, and love never leaves. Of course, some people, because of different views, love has become a terminator, which means that they broke the fate and parted ways. Sometimes they suffer because of their children and themselves. ...
Of course, out of the sky, there is true feelings in the world, and the sun is always after the storm. Take a step forward and happiness will still call you. ...
I can tell you with real examples: divorced women can still live well after reorganizing their families.
1, my cousin's son, because he doesn't agree with his wife and has no emotional foundation, belongs to the kind of flash marriage. He was 36 years old that year. He has no children, but he has a house. Later, he remarried. The wife has a daughter, 13 years old and goes to junior high school. My little nephew regards the girl as his own.
Later, they gave birth to a boy, fat and strong, and his parents-in-law took care of him. My cousin died suddenly before she got married. Now that the child is over three years old and there are four people in the family, there is no sign of reorganizing the family.
Xiao Xia and Xiao Jin are classmates, and Xiao Jin is Korean. When my son was three years old, he was separated because of different national habits, and his son went to the man. Later, Xiao Xia remarried. She is 32 years old and her husband is 42 years old. Her husband also has a son who went back to his ex-wife. They remarried and gave birth to another son, and now the younger son is also in college.
Husband and her children often come to her house. We all know each other, and the three children get along well. The happiest thing is that my son has brothers and sisters and often comes and goes. ...
Xiaowen in my community is married to Xiao Hao, who is divorced, and has no children after divorce. I gave birth to a son, two years old this year. They play with the children in the community every day and are very happy every day. The woman is a teacher and the man is a finance. Their children were brought up by their parents-in-law in the countryside and bought them a house. ...
Therefore, happiness will not fall from the world itself. Regardless of the first marriage or remarriage, families need to operate with love, respect and care for each other, and respect the old and love the young. Be considerate of each other, and you will live well.
If a woman is divorced, don't refuse marriage, and boldly pursue your own happiness! Tomorrow will be better ...
Compared with those who are happily married, they are not good at all. It is not so easy for a person to struggle for life, take care of himself, and raise and educate his children alone, and often pay attention to one thing and lose another. Sometimes after a busy day and a tired day, it's already eight or nine o'clock at night when I get home, and the room is deserted. My son is hungry and can't wait. Sometimes he just heats some old meals, sometimes he makes a bowl of instant noodles or takes a takeaway. Dragging my tired body, I cooked a bowl of noodles and put some hot sauce ... If there is anyone at home, there is at least a bowl of hot rice.
A person who has a child and then looks for the happiness of marriage is unwilling to think about it. Find someone with children, for fear of being unfair to two children. People are always selfish, right? Find someone who has no children. You should also consider having a baby for him. You should also consider that you have to pay a lot of time and energy for this child. You should also consider your physical condition and the financial situation of both sides.
Don't divorce, don't divorce, men and women are the same. Life is really hard.
I envy those who are happily married. In the sports ground where people exercise, an old man stands beside the old lady who is exercising and silently holds an umbrella for her. ...
If life can be repeated, you must find someone who loves you and loves you when you get married.
As far as I know, most divorced women have a bad life, and only a few, even a few, have a good life. Husband and wife live alone, and most families are dominated by men and women. Most women depend on men economically, because women usually don't have the economic ability of men, and once a woman divorces, her children usually follow her mother, so it is very difficult to support themselves and their children with women's income. In order to live a good life, women can only make money desperately, but they are too busy making money to take care of their children. Can they live a good life by working hard every day?
When a woman divorces, the first thing she faces is economic problems. If she wants to live a good life, she can only focus on making money. It is too difficult for a woman to earn money to support her family. Many ordinary women see her aging rapidly in a short time because of fatigue and mental stress after divorce. You can imagine how stressed she is. Most women have a bad life in this situation. Not good at all
Few women live a good life after divorce. First of all, they have no financial difficulties, easy work and strong independent living ability. Before the divorce, they were not dependent on men financially, and there was no pressure for a happy life after the divorce. Of course, in this case, such high-income women live better.
Divorced women are really hard. As the internet said, it is basically correct. Nobody wants a divorce. Divorce is really impossible. There is no other choice. As for whether they live well or not, it depends on how fate arranges them. Divorce is a blow. It's really hard for a woman to have no stable income after divorce, and it's even harder to remarry, because after getting married once, they know what they want and what they want, and their awareness of self-protection has increased a lot, so they won't pay easily.
It is even more difficult for divorced women to remarry. There is a simple reason. Men with good conditions will not find a second-married woman, because all men know that it is difficult for a second-married woman to live wholeheartedly and have a certain purpose, mostly for the sake of children, and it is difficult to integrate into a family again. Most unmarried men don't easily find second wives, and no one wants to raise children for others, so they may draw water with a sieve. Men with poor conditions, even women who are married for the second time, are looked down upon, because they know that a man can never be too poor, and it is better to live by himself.
For women, especially divorced women, you can live without a man, but you can never live without money, so it is very important for women to stand on their own feet. Your ability and economic income determine your future life. Women are realistic, so are men now. You have no steady income. Now that there are children, especially boys, basically no man dares to take over easily. This is a very realistic main problem. What is said online is not unreasonable. It's all real things that happen to people around you, not groundless.
The so-called poor, with low income, need to bring a child. Needless to say, everyone can imagine what kind of life it will be, and there is no need to listen to others. It must be difficult to live alone and raise a child. I want to remarry and I can't find the right person.
Therefore, before getting married, women should strive for a stable job and income, so as to be the safest in life. No one lives better on their own, only they are the most reliable, and only the money in their pockets is the most credible. Women must remember this.
Opinion: Not necessarily.
Analysis: If you are not good, you should mainly look at your own mentality and whether you can face up to your emotions. So as to seek change.
If a person has been trapped in past emotions, unwilling to come out and afraid to face up to his heart, how will he live in the future?
Suggestion: Instead of being stubborn, try to start changing.
If you meet the right person, you will have a good life, and if you meet the wrong person, you will have a bad life. Marriage, both sides must understand and tolerate each other in order to survive!
Most divorced families, whether men or women, have a bad life, but they all live well. This question mainly depends on your location advantage, personal ability and material foundation.
In fact, you have no ambition in life, and you can't live without being lazy and sloppy.
There are many reasons for their last divorce, such as: disagreement on three views, disagreement on personality and temper, that is, one or both sides are strong, and some are violent at home. Involved in derailment, gambling, poverty and other factors, the relationship broke down and eventually went to divorce.
After divorce, most people will not correct their personality and thinking. It is not easy to find a perfect object that suits you. If you have poor financial conditions, you can only make do with it. Most people are looking for divorced people.
It's not easy to start a family again. In fact, it is not easy, because both sides have children, and family Mao Dun often happens. Although it is said that we came together for love, everyone loves their children. Since we come together for sex and life, we can only smile on the surface and remain enemies at heart. The reason for the disharmony between face and heart is really helpless. Some of them also involve trivial matters left over from the last marriage, which sometimes makes people miserable.
The biggest problem of remarriage is property. Both men and women, the more property they have, the greater the right to speak. Although the first marriage regarded the property as * * *, the second marriage regarded the property as its own. Although I don't want to contribute, I'm afraid of suffering, but one party has a temporary psychology, which can also be interpreted as the situation in Strange Bed and Strange Dream.
As for the real situation? In fact, there are good ones, there are big gaps, and so on.
If you really want to find a person who matches you, you must completely position yourself, change your previous thinking and temper, and sum up the reasons for your marriage failure. How to change it?
You will become smarter after reaching the conclusion, you will move from youth to maturity, and your second marriage will be happier than your first marriage.
If you don't sum up the experience and lessons of your marriage failure and be willful and don't make any changes, your second marriage is not much better, and you may break up again.
I hope you can live a better life and stop suffering. I hope you really grow up, mature and happier!
Wish you a better life!
Any controversial topic, through the network magnifying glass, will appear in front of everyone the multiplication of geometric series. Since 20 10, the number of divorced couples in China has increased year by year, reaching the peak this year in 20 17, with a total of * * * 4.374 million divorced couples, which decreased slightly in 20 18 and 20 19, and remained at about 4 million couples.
With the increase of the number of divorced women, it is not surprising that more and more divorced women have a bad life.
The so-called accessibility bias refers to the possibility of judging events according to cognitive accessibility. Generally speaking, if a person keeps saying something in your ear, you will be more inclined to believe it.
We know that dog biting is not news, but man biting dog is. With the rise of self-media, many creators on the Internet will pursue more controversial points or things with the dark side of human nature in order to cater to the public and gain traffic. The bad life of divorced women can not only make male chauvinists complacent, but also arouse the indignation of feminists and even arouse the superiority of the people who eat melons, killing two birds with one stone. Naturally, someone reported it online.
When everyone is talking about this matter, the deviation of availability will naturally affect your cognition, making you feel that divorced women are living in dire straits, but it is not necessarily true.
With the rapid development of Internet industry in China, it is becoming more and more common to obtain users' preferences and accurately push related content based on big data.
Suppose you browse the related content of divorced women many times in a certain period of time, the system will default that you like this kind of content and will continue to push it to you.
When you are surrounded by a large number of similar content pushes, it is natural to doubt life.
Is it necessary to lead a bad life after divorce? That depends on your personal cognitive level and viability. There is a famous saying on the Internet: Money earned by luck will eventually be lost by strength. It means that you may get money that doesn't match your ability because of luck. Due to the lack of cognitive level, we can't take good care of this wealth, but squander it at will, and one day we will return to our original shape and become a poor man again.
When it comes to marriage, it is actually the same. If you don't know how to run a marriage, even if God gives you a good marriage, you can only divorce in the end and spend the rest of your life lonely and desolate.
Therefore, if you want to remarry happily, you must improve your understanding of marriage, exercise your love ability and learn the skills of managing marriage. I believe that in the end, marriage will not disappoint everyone who makes up his mind.
A happy life is always a combination of cognitive level and material conditions, both of which are indispensable. Your survival ability determines your material conditions.
The so-called viability refers to the ability of individuals or groups to survive in the world. It can be considered as the ability to make money in a narrow sense here.
Good earning ability can make you get more money, improve your material conditions and realize a happy life in the world.
Preparation for remarriage It is not terrible to experience a failed marriage. The terrible thing is that you didn't sum up the experience of failure and fell into the same pit again and again.
By summing up the experience of failure, you can clearly know what kind of partner you need and how to get along. After remarriage, running a marriage will naturally get twice the result with half the effort, and mom will no longer be afraid of your unfortunate marriage.
Remarriage and family reorganization must properly solve the children's problems, otherwise it will be like a hidden time bomb, which may hurt the children, themselves and even all the members of the reorganized family.
Therefore, before remarriage, we must fully consider the needs of children and eliminate their psychological hidden dangers as much as possible. After remarriage, we must continue to give our children high-quality love.
Please remember that you have the right to pursue happiness, but children also have the right to get the complete love of their parents.
This move is mainly to prevent people with ulterior motives from taking advantage of each other's eagerness to step into marriage again and making money by using the meaning of marriage.
Of course, even if there is no bad purpose, it is not too harmful to do a good job of property notarization before marriage. On the contrary, defining money before marriage is also conducive to the rational distribution of the same property between husband and wife after marriage.
After the failure of marriage, it is easy for some people to remarry for a simple purpose. They may just want company, they may just want someone to lean on, they may just want to have sex, and so on.
Defining the purpose of remarriage helps to manage the expectations of remarried partners. And reasonable expectation can evaluate the new spouse more objectively, so as not to always lose hope and affect the relationship between husband and wife.
A person's value should not depend on others. Whether he is happy after divorce depends more on the individual than on the state of marriage.