I came across a rather speechless news. A man invited 23 colleagues to a wedding banquet and received a gift of 4,389 yuan.

Afterwards, a colleague reported the man for seeking improper benefits. The man returned the gift money as required by the company, but the matter did not end there, and the company asked the man to resign.

Not to mention whether this gift of less than 200 yuan per person is considered seeking improper benefits, let’s just say that someone did such a disgusting thing on a happy day. How much hatred and hatred is there? It's a bit too generous.

It seems that modern people's emotions are always so full and impulsive: good things are so good that they are intimate, and bad things are so bad that they are irresistible.

When the close enemies turned against each other, the pain was unforgettable; when the tit-for-tat confrontation with Dai Tian was unforgettable, the fight was so painful that both sides suffered losses.

Instead of doing this, why not leave three points blank when getting along with others?

Su Shi once said, "The simplicity and distance are scattered, and the beauty lies beyond the pen and ink." This sentence means that the excellence of Chinese painting lies in the blank space.

A painting without white space will lose its vitality and make people feel crowded and boring. If you don't leave any blank space when getting along with others, you will lose your grace and make people feel that the layout is too small.

1. Don’t leave any room for enmity with others

In life, it is inevitable to have conflicts with others, either because of fame and fortune, because of conflicting ideas, or because of incompatible auras. Make grudges.

It can range from cold eyebrows to cold looks and disgust. More importantly, it is a confrontation of words and tit-for-tat.

If the person with the grudge is a straightforward person, and after a big fight, they just leave each other alone and just pay it off. If the person who has a grudge has a gloomy mind, he will resort to the tactics of stepping on someone from behind and stabbing him in the back.

In the end, either both sides will suffer, or everyone will betray and leave.

Since the unit restructuring last year, head teachers can hire teachers independently.

My colleague Xiaoyou lost her job because her professional skills were average and she often took leave. Her classes were assigned to other teachers.

Xiaoyou has no class tapes and is quite complaining about several class teachers and the teacher who took over her job.

She used the last few classes before the handover to slander the teacher who was about to replace her in class, pointing out that the other teacher was operating in secret, which resulted in the students having a very bad first impression of those teachers.

Not only that, she also made nonsense in the parent group and in front of the school leaders, saying that she was being isolated and targeted. It brought several head teachers and teachers of the same subject into disrepute.

But facts speak louder than words, and several teachers targeted by Xiaoyou soon proved their innocence. On the contrary, it was she who did things too badly, offended a lot of people, and her own reputation was also ruined. Things were even harder at school.

Looking at the recruitment for the next semester, no matter how hard she ran, no head teacher was willing to hire her. None of the teachers in the same subject took her anymore. Her aggressiveness succeeded in forcing herself to become a loner.

If Xiaoyou can handle this matter with a more humble attitude and a gentler way, even if she may still lose her job temporarily, at least she will leave herself some room. As long as her professional skills improve, there is still a chance she can return to teaching.

The wisdom of our ancestors tells us, "Leave a thin line when doing things so that we can meet each other easily in the future." This is really a wise saying.

When you have a grudge with someone, leave some leeway and don't do things to your heart's content. It is a sign of good manners and it also gives you a way out.

2. Don’t be wary when making friends with others.

If making grudges with others is out of necessity, then making friends with others is mostly done willingly.

The two of them either have a similar spirit, hit it off like old friends, or hate each other after meeting each other too late. In short, they have become good friends.

Making friends is always a pleasure. Having friends who treat you sincerely doubles the pleasure. But treating others with sincerity does not mean that you can have no reservations or be defensive.

People who don’t know how to defend themselves when making friends with others are often wounded all over by those with ulterior motives.

This is old news from a long time ago.

A woman has a best friend with whom she has a good relationship. This lady showed her heart to her bestie and was completely defenseless. When her best friend encountered difficulties and came to the lady for help, she did not hesitate to lend her hundreds of thousands of dollars.

My best friend was very grateful when I borrowed the money, but after I borrowed the money, I never mentioned repaying it.

Later, the lady needed money herself and urged her best friend to pay back the money. Her best friend actually blocked all her contact information and disappeared from the world.

Later, the lady found her best friend after several twists and turns. The best friend said confidently: "You lent me money of your own free will. I don't have any money now. What can I do?" She even accused the lady of disturbing her. own life.

The lady had no way to collect her debt, so she collapsed and cried in the street. The former best friends naturally turned against each other.

This lady is certainly worthy of sympathy, and the behavior of her best friend is indeed disgusting. This lady has good intentions and treats people with sincerity, which is certainly not wrong. But the process of borrowing money was a bit sloppy.

If there was a third party as a witness when borrowing the money, or if the best friend wrote an IOU, even if the best friend maliciously defaulted on the loan, she would still have proof and could seek legal recourse, so she would not be so helpless.

As the old saying goes, "You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others." I deeply believe it.

Being sincere to others is a virtue, but not knowing how to defend yourself is recklessness. Being on guard when making friends with others is a sign of wisdom and vigilance, and it is also a way of protecting yourself.

3. Compete with others for benefits, and do not give up three points of benefits.

If keeping three points of caution is self-protection when making friends with others, then letting three points of benefit is to have a long-term perspective when competing for benefits with others.

The Internet song "A Few Liangs of Broken Silver" sings, "This world is so vast, so put the word profit in the center." Interest relationships are indispensable between people.

There is a kind of shrewd person who charges an exorbitant price when selling things, sits on the floor and pays back when buying things, always wants to get the big share when sharing profits, always wants to hide away when working hard, and always thinks of his own best interests in everything. ation, but are such people really smart?

In the eyes of these smart people, the rich man Li Ka-shing is probably a fool. Because when he deals with others, he always likes to give benefits to others.

Li Ka-shing often said that when doing business with others, he would only get six cents of profit and let others earn two cents more. It seems that he has suffered a loss and let others take advantage of it.

So, is Li Ka-shing really stupid? Of course not! He is a businessman, and a very successful businessman. If he was stupid, how could he have the status he has in the business world today?

Allowing others to benefit others may seem like a not very smart approach, but it is actually great wisdom. Although he only gets 6 cents profit from each business, everyone who works with him knows that doing business with Li Ka-shing will make a lot of money. So naturally more people came to him for cooperation.

If he does every business deal in order to get higher profits and squeeze the profit margins of his partners, then every partner who has worked with him will end the business. I would never want to cooperate again.

If things go on like this, his path will become narrower and narrower, and he will even find it difficult to move forward in the business world. How can he have the big foundation he has today?

Li Ka-shing won more cooperation opportunities by giving up two more profits. His network of contacts became wider and wider, and his business grew bigger and bigger. It has also won a good reputation in the circle. This is the correct way to compete with others for profit, and it is also the way Li Ka-shing behaves.

There is a saying, "Suffering a loss is a blessing." This sentence does not teach us to be a good person and suffer the consequences of being dumb. But when the benefits are present, don’t think about taking all the benefits and allowing others to get a third of the benefits.

It seems that he is at a disadvantage, but he has accumulated connections and developed a strong structure. This is the true saying "Suffering a loss is a blessing."

04. Write at the end

The paintings left blank are more intriguing, the stories left blank are more fascinating, and the life left blank is more exciting Diverse.

Zhuangzi said, "An empty room creates white space, and good fortune ceases." When a person is alone, leaving blank space is for introspection, and when getting along with others, blank space is for wisdom.

When you have a grudge with someone, it is open-minded not to do things absolutely, but to leave a little room. When making friends with others, do not be hasty and gullible, and be alert. When competing with others for profit, do not waste money but give up the advantage. This is the pattern.

Only by opening your mind can you be tolerant, by staying alert can you prevent dangers before they occur, and by building a bigger picture can you convince others with virtue.

In life, if you can have all three things in place, how can you get people to betray their relatives and abandon them, meet unkind people, and be desperate?