Refuse to compare and start from a young age

"Comparison" is actually a kind of comparison. Since children are still young, they understand that comparison means they like to be consistent with others. But as the children grow up, As we get older, we have a new definition of comparison. Parents must pay attention to their children's comparison mentality and provide correct guidance to their children. The content of this article is to refuse comparison and start small. Refuse to compare and start from a young age 1

1. Parents set good examples

Children like to imitate. If parents themselves love to compare, their children will also imitate. In daily life, parents should not instill too many material thoughts into their children, and should only pursue material pursuits in moderation. In addition, parents should not say too many brand names in front of their children, and should not belittle others and elevate themselves to prevent psychological impact on their children.

2. Let children have confidence

Confidence is a sign of inner strength. People who like to compare will always lack self-confidence. Starting from the root cause and making children confident, this can keep children away from the bad habit of comparison.

Parents should be good at exploring their children’s strengths, praise them more, and don’t always praise other children. Even if they want to praise, they should explain to their children that they are the best in their parents’ hearts. Praise from parents is a great encouragement to children. If parents criticize children all the time, children will lose confidence.

3. Let children compare with themselves

To let children learn to compare with themselves, parents should not let their children care too much about the gap with others. We must strive to improve ourselves. As long as today's self is improved compared to yesterday's self, it is worthy of encouragement. If he does this, he will be an excellent child.

4. Don’t blindly follow the trend

Blindly following the trend will only lead to impulsive consumption. Therefore, sometimes comparison is just an act of blindly following the trend, which can only satisfy temporary vanity.

Sometimes a child wants something very much. At this time, parents have to think carefully. If the child really needs this thing, they can buy it. If the child does not need this thing, they must learn to refuse it and follow it. The children analyze the pros and cons together. Parents should pay attention to guiding their children to think rationally and not buy things they don’t need.

Blind comparison is really a very bad behavior, so parents must help their children correct it when they are young. Refuse to compare and start from a young age 2

1. Avoid pampering your children too much.

Many parents believe that no matter how poor they are, their children cannot be poor. Therefore, all the children's requirements are met without any principle. As a parent, I have inadvertently compared the materials I give my children with others, thinking that my children should also have what other children have. Parents want to improve their children's status and increase their children's self-confidence in this way. The fact is that this kind of comparison in raising children has already had an impact on the children. Therefore, as parents, we must provide moderate and reasonable material conditions for our children, and do not blindly and overly pamper them.

2. Create a healthy external environment.

The environment has a great impact on us, especially for children who are underage and have limited ability to distinguish right from wrong. It has a direct impact. When the classmates around a child are all comparing themselves to each other, the probability of the child learning to compare will also be greatly increased. Therefore, schools and parents should join forces to create a healthy and progressive learning environment for students.

3. Lead by example.

Parents are their children’s first teachers and the ones they learn from and imitate. Many parents like to compare in life. When they see other people buying new houses or cars, they want to buy them themselves. Parents' words and behaviors will have a subtle impact on their children. Therefore, as a parent, you must first learn to adjust your mentality and control your desire to compare.

4. Avoid an excessive desire to win.

Children all have a competitive heart, like to be in the limelight, and have a strong competitive spirit. But if a child's desire to win is too strong, it is easy for him to forget about himself when he succeeds and blame himself when he fails. Therefore, parents should help their children establish a correct concept of winning and losing, and do not criticize their children severely after they fail to do something.

5. Know the size and know how to say no.

You must know how to say no to children’s unreasonable demands. Blind satisfaction will only make the child's demands intensify. However, as a parent, you cannot say things like: "Our family is poor" and "can't afford it" to your children in order to prevent their children's comparison mentality. This will cause the child to have an inferiority complex and cause a psychological shadow to the child.