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If you want to get rid of your children’s procrastination, I think parents can try the following methods:
1. Help your children understand the value of time
A child's procrastination is largely due to his lack of time awareness. Parents should find ways to make their children realize that time is the most precious wealth in the world. They can tell their children some stories about successful people throughout the ages who cherished time. They can also post some famous sayings in their children's bedrooms to remind them. In addition, it is also essential to discuss the harm of procrastination with your children. Parents should clearly point out to their children that procrastination is a bad habit that will be harmful to their lives.
2. Give more praise, encouragement and rewards
Praise and encouragement are more effective in motivating children to do things than criticism and accusation. The more praise children receive, the higher their expectations for themselves will be. The higher it is. In addition, parents should let their children feel that doing things quickly is more beneficial to them, and that it is worthwhile to do things quickly, so that their children will naturally move faster. However, when a child does things faster than before, parents can give appropriate material rewards, such as taking the child out to play, buying the child the toys he wants, etc., which will have better results.
3. Do not blame or scold
In fact, it is not helpful for parents to lose their temper when their children procrastinate. For example, sometimes children are slow to do something. At this time, if the parents continue to get angry on the sidelines, the children will become more and more at a loss and the speed of doing things will become slower. Therefore, blaming and scolding will often have the opposite effect and will only make the situation worse.
4. Use the competition method skillfully
The best way to deal with these "little procrastinators" is to use the competition method skillfully. Children all have a love for competition, so parents may wish to give it a try.
There are three ways to use the competition method:
1. Let the children compete with themselves.
2. Let children compete with other children.
3. Parents and children compete.
5. Let your dilly-dallying pay the price
Only when a child realizes that dilly-dallying will bring losses to himself can he consciously speed up. Therefore, letting children pay for their dilly-dallying and letting them taste the consequences of dilly-dallying is a good way to get rid of children's dilly-dallying problem.
The above are five small methods to help children get rid of procrastination. Parents, if you think it makes sense, you might as well try it!
The first thing is to cultivate children's concentration
We all know that everyone has curiosity, especially children, who are particularly curious. I believe many people have heard the story of kittens fishing.
The kitten in the story was distracted and attracted by other things while fishing, so it failed to catch any fish. Therefore, we must let children have concentration in daily life, so that children may succeed in the future. As parents, we should try our best to arrange a comfortable and quiet learning environment for our children so that they can devote themselves to learning.
Help children understand the importance of time
We learn the importance of time from a young age. When children are still young, they may not understand the importance of time, so we must help Children learn the importance of time.
Let children seize time from an early age and not waste time. This will allow children to do more things in their future lives and let them understand the concept of time, which is very beneficial to their future lives. help.
We can also make our children pay for their procrastination
In many things, we will choose to let our children bear some consequences and bear the consequences of their own choices. Likewise, if your child procrastinates, you can make him pay for his procrastination.
You can formulate some corresponding small measures of punishment, or you can let the children learn lessons from them.
For example, if a child fails to complete his homework at home, parents can try not to rush the child. After arriving at school, the teacher will definitely criticize the child, and then the child will realize his mistake and complete the homework well next time. .
Let the children experience the benefits of speed
We can reward the children with small things after they finish their homework quickly, or we can tell the children that they can play games or watch TV for a while after finishing their homework. class. We can reward children materially, and children will be willing to complete their homework.
In our current life, many parents will ask their children to do some exercises after completing their homework, telling their children that practice makes perfect, but this is not the case. Children will regard these exercises as tasks. If you complete the questions in the same way, you will not be able to appreciate the fun involved. Moreover, some children have already mastered this type of questions after completing them once, and there is no need to practice again and again to become proficient.
Finally, we can let the children make their own plans and complete the corresponding tasks they set within a certain period of time. If they are completed quickly, they can give themselves some rewards, and parents can also supervise them. Children, in this way, children will have a sense of pride and honor when they feel that they have completed the task. I will surpass myself again and again.
The above are some small ways to help solve children's procrastination. As parents, we can use these methods to supervise our children and help our children get rid of procrastination. I hope every child can improve himself as he grows up.
Procrastination is laziness. Procrastination is a habit, and a bad one at that. This habit has a great impact on people's life and study, and even affects their whole life. Therefore, children’s procrastination must be treated early and promptly. How to treat procrastination in children? Focus on the following aspects.
Parents set an example and do not procrastinate or be lazy. Parental procrastination can seriously affect children. For example, if a child is doing family work while the parent is playing on a mobile phone or computer, what will the child be thinking at this time? Will you be willing to do your homework? If parents say to their children: Children must not be playful! Hurry up and do your homework! Will the child's mind be balanced at this time? The child may even ask you why you don't do things? Are you still playing with your mobile phone? Another example is that in the morning, the parents ask the children to get up early, but the parents sleep in bed and don't want to get up. Is it strange that the children don't follow your example? Parents are their children's longest teachers and mirrors for their children. The ancients said: Those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black. That is to say, a person's thoughts and behaviors will affect the people around him, not to mention you are a parent? Therefore, parents must set an example, starting from themselves, quitting their own bad habits and setting an example.
Establish a sense of time and cherish time.
Children procrastinate because they have no sense of time. To help establish a sense of time, you can post a schedule in the child's bedroom and strictly require the child to live and study according to the schedule. Get up early and put a small prepared alarm clock in the child's room. When the bell rings, the child must get up immediately, so that the child's sense of time can be initially established. Let the child realize the preciousness of time again. For example, if you ask, how many math problems can the child calculate orally and how many words can he write in one minute? How many rope jumps can you do in one minute? Yesterday has passed, will it come back? Can yesterday’s time be bought back with money? At this time, we take the opportunity to tell our children that time is the most precious wealth in the world and time is life. People often say that an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, but an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time, which emphasizes the preciousness of time. At this time, the teacher emphasized that children should not waste time, but should cherish time, study hard against time, and get rid of the habit of procrastination and laziness. This not only initially establishes the children's concept of time
, but also allows the children to realize that time is precious and understand why time should be cherished. At the same time, it is very helpful to help children get rid of the habit of procrastination. big effect.
Show more respect, encouragement and praise. If a child sleeps late again, don't blame him at will. Don't hurt his heart. You must respect his personality. When he makes progress in changing his bad habits, you should encourage or praise him more. For example, you can do homework much faster than before, eat faster, and no longer sleep in in the morning. You are such an obedient child! I hope you continue to work hard! By encouraging children, children can be moved. When doing things in the future, children will consciously remind themselves not to be lazy and to do things as quickly as possible.
I was surprised when I read the title. This is procrastination in children, and it is serious illness in adults "grandparents". In this family, if a child is used to such bad habits, his parents must be his role models and classmates. Grandparents must be model workers in the family. They can be called the three virtuous sons in the palace. They are also the biggest killers of children and grandchildren. They describe the bad habits of children and grandchildren as procrastination and avoid the important ones. They are just a fig leaf and cannot face the reality. Poor hearts of grandparents all over the world. Don't let your bad habits lead you to become useless when you grow up.
The sapling grows from a small branch to a crooked branch
The gardener repairs it properly
The young tree grows into a pillar of wood
Pampering neglects responsibility and cultivates burning wood
Grandpa Pang Shou teaches principles
Children should learn slowly when they are sensible
They have never had procrastination
This kind of practice will never work.
For the above reasons, we can adopt corresponding solutions: 1. Patiently train children’s life skills, such as brushing teeth, dressing, packing their own stationery, etc. Give more encouragement and praise during this process. 2. If it is a child's innate temperament, accept it sincerely, and then give it a few more minutes within the normal time to cultivate the child's attentiveness while being slow. This reduces the time for repetition and can still keep pace with the faster children. 3. Let your children do interesting things, or do interesting things. 4. Give your child an alarm clock to let him know how long one minute, three minutes, and ten minutes are and how many things he can do. Finally, give them time control and bear corresponding responsibilities if they are not completed. 5. Don’t force your child to do what you want, but find ways to guide him to do it independently.
Finally, do not often say to your child or in front of others, "You are too slow, why are you moving so slowly?" This will strengthen the child's slow movement characteristics, and he will develop according to our evaluation. Furthermore, scolding and scolding cannot solve the problem. We cannot rely on loud voices, let alone beating and scolding. We can praise and encourage the child's little progress. Every time the child moves a little faster, we must praise it in time. In this way, the child's behavior will be positively reinforced, and the habit of dawdling will gradually be changed. How to change a child with procrastination?
If you like to procrastinate when doing things, it will not only affect the efficiency of doing things, but also easily miss good opportunities. It is a bad phenomenon for a person, whether in studies or in life.
What are the reasons why children delay doing things?
Generally speaking, there are three reasons why children like to procrastinate:
Psychologist Dr. Lin Wencai divides people into four types based on their natural temperament: optimistic, The melancholic type, the aggressive type, and the calm type. Among them, the calm type is a typical child who always does things half a beat slower than others. This is a person's nature.
Solution:
Although this type of child does things a little slower, he is very careful and cautious. He will even notice details that adults do not notice sometimes. My 4-year-old Xiaobao is a typical example. One time when we went out to eat, when he saw that I forgot to bring the kettle, he remembered to remind me.
For this type of child, parents should be patient with their child. If we know that it will take a little longer for him to do something, then we should reserve more time for him and just give him appropriate encouragement. , they can usually persist in getting one thing done.
Under what circumstances do children usually become afraid of difficulties? ---Unable, unwilling, or often frustrated or criticized, then when he encounters something, he will easily feel fearful and unwilling to cooperate.
For example, when children in kindergarten do homework, if parents always criticize their children for not being able to do math or write when accompanying their children to do homework, the child's interest in learning will naturally be greatly reduced. Originally, the child did not need the guidance of adults, so he was denied this. The next time he did his homework, he might be slow to pick up the homework book, play with the eraser after writing for a while, ask for a pen and other small movements. In the last 10 minutes It's normal to do things that can be done within 30 minutes.
Solution:
Pay attention to observe the children carefully to see what the reason is. If they don’t know how to do it, give them help and teach them.
If it is reluctance, understand the reasons behind the child's reluctance to do things.
Criticize less, encourage more, be patient, and give big praise as long as you make a little progress.
In a family, if one of the parents likes to procrastinate in doing things, the children will naturally imitate it and form a habit.
Solution:
Parents should lead by example, improve their own efficiency, and even try to compete with their children to let them see their own changes and progress.
Finally
First, make sure that the children can correctly understand time. If not, then teach the children first so that they have the most basic concept of time. When the children are If you don't know the time, you can't tell the difference between 5 minutes and 50 minutes.
When doing something, clearly tell the child how long it will take to complete it, and if it can be completed, give a certain reward. If it cannot be completed, it should be punished accordingly.
Changing children's behavior requires constant efforts, persistence and encouragement from parents. Only in this way can children make big changes. Procrastination refers to the failure of self-regulation and the behavior of postponing what you plan to do even when the consequences can be expected to be harmful. But I think that the procrastination behavior of most children does not reach the so-called "symptoms", but is just a practice born out of curiosity about something unknown. The world is colorful, and there are many strange things in the eyes of a child. He wants to understand, want to know the answers, and wants to know more. In this way, he will focus on one thing and ignore what may be the right thing to do. Changing this behavior can start with the following points.
1. As a parent, you must patiently explain to your children what should be done immediately and what can be done later. Moreover, you must be well-reasoned and never get angry easily. 2. You can use the things or things that your children like very much to guide them so that they can make a choice immediately. For example: do it right away, tell a nice story or buy a small toy, etc.
3. Some reward and punishment measures can be established, such as: what will be the reward if you do it immediately, what will happen if you do it later, what will be the punishment if you don’t do it, etc. Children's "procrastination" is not terrible, but their health habits are not easy to break. Therefore, getting rid of bad habits is extremely beneficial to the healthy growth of children in the future.