This is just a selfish and prejudiced mentality of some people, so they use this wrong view to summarize the entire current situation!

In fact, people’s hearts have had this kind of ideology since ancient times, so many sayings and sayings have been spread!

For example; when people go to higher places, water flows to lower places! That is to say, it has been said through the ages that "it is better to seek for others than to seek for yourself", and it is also said that "the poor live in the busy city and no one cares about them, the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives" etc...!

These are all good examples. Selfishness versus greed, tolerance versus open-mindedness are the mentality and behaviors that are different from others!

That is to say, benevolence is in the eye of the beholder and wisdom is in the eye of the beholder! It is impossible to generalize at any time!

"The poor live in the busy city and no one cares about it, the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives" is a good explanation of interpersonal relationships. Whether it is relatives or friends, everyone's social status determines their own value, and the degree of wealth and poverty delineates Scope of communication. Therefore, whether any relative is reliable depends on whether you are strong enough!

Answer: First ask yourself, can your relatives trust you?

1. Don’t be Marxist-Leninist towards others and liberal towards yourself.

2. First ask yourself, can your relatives trust you? Do you want to be relied upon by your relatives?

3. Think about everything from someone else’s perspective, and everything will be easily solved!

In one of the cases handled by Lawyer Zhu, a company employee died on the job. The employee was a bachelor, had been divorced for many years and had not remarried. He had two children with his ex-wife. According to the deceased's account, the worker's parents died young, and his relationship with his ex-wife was not as good in his early years. The children lived with the woman and had little relationship with the worker. He had never visited the deceased for many years. After the deceased's death, his unit transported his body to the funeral home and made arrangements for condolences. At the same time, he notified the deceased's family as soon as possible. After receiving the news, the family members of the deceased rushed to the company as soon as possible and made a fuss, demanding an explanation from the company. The company responded that it had purchased relevant insurance for the deceased, and there would be absolutely no problem in making reasonable and compliant compensation as long as the relevant procedures were followed. However, the family members of the deceased insisted on receiving huge compensation immediately and used various irrational means to cause trouble. In the next few days, the family members made noises in the company every day, while the deceased lay alone in the funeral parlor without any relatives or family members to see him off for the last journey.

After multi-party coordination, both parties reached an agreement. The company paid a one-time payment of nearly one million yuan to the deceased's close relatives. What is even more sad is that the family of the deceased quickly cremated the body of the deceased the next day after receiving the huge compensation without any condolence ceremony. The dead come and go in a hurry in this world. Colleagues of the deceased lamented that the deceased was worthless during his lifetime and no one asked about him for many years. After his death, he used his life to leave a huge fortune to his family. In the eyes of the deceased’s relatives, there was only wealth and no family affection!

This society is like this! This is a fact! You should always remember.

The most reliable person in the world is yourself. Mountains will collapse if you rely on them, water will flow if you rely on them, and you will run if you rely on people!

It means that it is better for relatives to rely on neighbors than to grow their ambitions on their own.

In today’s society, it is not absolute that any relative is unreliable. Because everything is the result of interaction. If you help others, others will help you in return.

In a competitive society, it is easy to spend money but hard to make money. Everyone is very busy at work, everyone has a lot of housework, and everyone has a difficult life. It would be good if you can handle your own or your family's affairs clearly, live a good life, and not cause trouble to your loved ones. Except for natural disasters and force majeure factors that may cause you difficulties and require the help of your relatives, you do not need the help of your relatives at all in your daily life. You live your life on your own, so why should you rely on others?

There is an old saying that helps the urgent but not the poor. Others help you out of love, but they do not owe you or owe you, because others have no responsibility or obligation to you.

If you think about it, you will understand that in this world, you are who you are. No one can bear your pain, your tiredness, and your suffering for you. Even if someone sympathizes with you and helps you, so what, you still have to rely on yourself to clean up the mess in the end.

Remember: when it rains, it will slide down. If you slip, you will climb. There are some people you can look forward to but not rely on. Only by doing a good job and strengthening yourself will others be impressed.

I don’t agree. My relatives are very good. Let me tell you a few examples from recent years:

The year before last, my eldest brother bought a house and asked my husband to borrow 30,000 yuan. We thought that buying a house was a big deal for our family, so we gave it to him because it wasn’t much more than 30,000 yuan. Unexpectedly, he returned it to us a few days later. He said that he just didn’t want to touch one of their time deposit certificates when he borrowed the money. , it expired in a few days, and he quickly returned the money to us. I don’t think he is the kind of person who doesn’t pay back the money once he gets it. It’s quite touching!

There is also my aunt. I gave birth to my baby in the hospital the year before last. My aunt is over 60 years old and took care of me day and night. She basically didn’t sleep a wink during the few days after the birth. Taking care of me with my mom was the kind that really worried about me.

There is also my nephew. Last year, my family bought a car loan. My nephew heard about it and offered to give us the money. Of course, we had no use, but he had such a heart, and we were very touched. !

My niece bought a house last year. Later I found out that she had borrowed a lot of money and was under a lot of pressure. I asked her why she didn’t open her mouth to us? She said: You have just given birth to your second child and bought a new car, so you must be very nervous!

Relatives are like this, they all consider each other. I am very lucky that our big family is in harmony!

In today's society, let alone relatives, even relatives are more "icing on the cake" and less "help in times of need." Interest and money have divided people into multiple circles. Why? Very simple! Rich people, ordinary people, and poor people all have their own speech content, thinking opinions, lifestyles, living habits, pursuit of goals, etc., and they are naturally divided into various groups. This is natural, inevitable, and there is nothing strange about it. ! "Birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together." This is an ancient and modern tradition, and it has only been fulfilled in the times. So I think this way, "It's not that any relative is unreliable," but that reality changes everything, and everyone has to adapt and just let nature take its course!

I agree because this is my true feeling!

There are 5 brothers and sisters in my husband’s family. All family conditions are good. Brother-in-law’s gold stores are all 5/6. The second brother-in-law's conditions are not very good, but he is also a small contractor at the construction site. My brother-in-law’s family has always been engaged in hardware wholesale and construction work! The conditions are pretty good! My younger brother just got married. I still have some financial resources. The more brothers and sisters there are, the sadder it is.

Last year we bought a house. Because the money has been frozen, the deposit for the house has been paid, and the money has been frozen. I asked them to borrow money, but no one got it. I said forget it. Figure it out yourself! Finally, at the end of the year, my husband's business had problems, and one incident after another made people see clearly the hearts and minds of relatives! Relatives are worse than friends.

Finally, I had a massive hemorrhage after giving birth at the end of the year. I originally planned to have a baby of NT$30,000, but ended up spending NT$13.7. Because I need money urgently, I am waiting for money for surgery. My husband called their home crying. No one has money, 10,000. Not even 5,000. In the end, his brother borrowed 10,000 yuan. This is how I got to see my relatives clearly.

What’s more humorous is that when the money we froze comes out, relatives at home come in one after another. They all come to us to borrow money. Or stay for 10 days and a half.

Of course, it is your duty not to borrow. I don't hate you! But why do you have to morally kidnap me when I don’t want to borrow it?

Nothing in this society can be relied on.

Except myself!