People cannot always be in a good mood. Since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. A mentally mature person is not a person without negative emotions, but a person who is good at regulating and controlling his emotions. So, how to be good at regulating and controlling your emotions?

The first is consciousness control. When angry emotions are about to explode, you should use your consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself that you should remain rational, and you can also use self-suggestion: "Don't get angry, getting angry will hurt your body." A well-educated person can generally control things.

The second is self-encouragement. Use certain philosophies or famous quotes to comfort yourself and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will make you feel better.

The third is language adjustment. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions. If you are sad, reciting funny sentences can relieve your sadness. You can also regulate your emotions by using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestions such as "controlling anger," "forbearance," and "calmness."

The fourth is environmental constraints. The environment plays an important role in regulating and restricting emotions. When you are emotionally depressed, taking a walk outside can help regulate your mood. When you feel unhappy, go to the casino and play games to relieve your boredom. When you are feeling worried, the best thing to do is to watch funny movies.

The fifth is comfort. When a person pursues a certain goal but fails to achieve it, in order to reduce his inner disappointment, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox saying sour grapes when he cannot eat them. This is not a self-deception, it can be very beneficial as a way to relieve your emotions occasionally.

Sixth is transfer. When anger rises, consciously changing the topic or doing something else to distract your attention can relieve the emotion. Playing ball, taking a walk, and listening to pop music can also help divert unpleasant emotions.

Seventh is catharsis. When you encounter unpleasant things or grievances, don't bury them in your heart. Tell your close friends or relatives or cry loudly. This kind of venting can release the bad emotions accumulated in the heart and is beneficial to maintaining physical and mental health. However, the object, place, occasion and method of venting must be appropriate to avoid harming others.

Eighth is humor. Humor is a special emotional expression and a tool for people to adapt to the environment. Having a sense of humor helps people maintain a positive and optimistic attitude toward life. Using humor to deal with many seemingly annoying things can often make people's unpleasant emotions disappear and make them feel relaxed immediately.

The ninth is to go into nature. The beautiful mountains and rivers of nature can often shock people's hearts. When you climb a mountain, you will feel your mind broadening. Looking at the sea, you will feel a sense of detachment. When you walk into the forest, everything feels so fresh. This kind of good feeling is often an inducer of good emotions

There are many ways to deal with emotions, and staying mindful is the most important and key. Most people's confusion and pain are caused by their lack of awareness, their inability to see themselves clearly, and their inability to understand others, so they are confused and restless. But looking at yourself is also the most difficult thing to do, because your ego is so big that it is difficult for you to let go and become humble. It’s also because we don’t know how to cultivate our minds and nature and look for ways to calm down.

The source of negative emotions can be negative experiences, or it can also be said to be negative inertia. The events that evoke your negative experiences are just borrowed catalysts.

If the emotion exceeds the scope of one's control, the best way is not to release or suppress it, but to do nothing. Learn to calm down first, because when the negative energy is too great, it will be released indiscriminately. You may not even be able to bear it yourself, and it may easily affect others. Suppression is absolutely impossible, because the source of the problem is suppression.

When you are upset, you must first calm down, take care of your emotions, don’t agree with them, don’t judge them, let them appear, put your feelings where your heart is, no matter if your eyes are still teary or your breathing is messy. The heart is the largest emotional control center. To stabilize your emotions, you must start from the heart and learn how to center your mind. As for the method, everyone has to find it on their own. There are many, many Dharma-doors. The key is not the Dharma, but your intention and willingness. Believe that you have the ability to go all out and the sky is brighter.

Everyone has a different path to cultivating their mind. There is no need to compare, just go on your own.