When I was a child, I stubbornly believed that being good to myself was icing on the cake, and being good to others was a timely help. However, in the farce of life for more than ten years, I found that everything was wrong. In several years of wind and rain, I constantly strive to satisfy my expanding desire. Finally, I found that my expectations were getting higher and higher, and I was unhappy. I always take care of myself, and always worry about my little things when others need warmth most. The result has never been icing on the cake, never done at all. Bing Xin said: "Love is on the right and sympathy is on the left. We walk on both sides of the road of life, sowing seeds at any time, blooming at any time, and decorating this path with seasonal flowers for a long time." It is a pedestrian who is covered with branches and leaves and walks on thorns. He does not feel pain, tears or sadness. " I think, oneself and others are two roads. Although it is not completely symmetrical, it must be strikingly similar after integration and sorting, but it is just the order of experience. So, I tried to change myself slowly. When I raised money, I gave something I liked. At that time, there was less vanity and more satisfaction in my heart. When checking out, I asked the anxious stranger to pay first. At that time, I lost a little impatience and patience. When it rains, I move my umbrella to pedestrians who are soaked to the skin. At that time, my heart was a little less lonely and a little warmer ... After all this, I found that "icing on the cake" can be compared with "sending charcoal in the snow". Tagore said: "The best things don't come by themselves, they come with everything." I think that's the reason. Self and others constitute the whole society, so I gradually understand that being kind to others means being kind to myself, and being kind to yourself means being kind to others. So icing on the cake, giving charcoal in the snow will make the flowers bloom the most brightly. I once heard a story: God told a young man that he could realize a dream for him, but on one condition, the dream would be realized twice for his neighbor. The young man thought hard for a long time. He said, "Please cut off my leg." Comparing with others is indeed a common bad habit in society, and it is also an obstacle to his icing on the cake and offering timely help. As the contradiction says, "Life is like this. Life is in a hurry, so we must make the society harmonious and beautiful, and the icing on the cake goes hand in hand with the timely delivery of charcoal.