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Explanation:
1, refers to a person; Treat people and things.
2. solve the problem; Understand other people's thoughts.
3, without losing face, decent.
4, refers to an image, and has nothing to do with the behavior of doing things.
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5, grasp the discretion of things, don't mess around.
6. Do your best to help others.
7. Be able to respect the old and love the young and make others happy.
8. Make others feel that interacting with you can make them happy.
9. Try to meet the needs of others.
10, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
1 1. Love is boundless and good as water.
12, reasonable and kind.
final result
Be a man: be a low-key man; To be a man, you should learn to be steady, not make public, pursue fame and fortune, and let everything go with the flow.
Basic explanation
1.[ Behavior; Manner]: it refers to treating people.
Know how to be a man.
detailed description
1. Good conduct; Treat people and things.
Jie Yuan's "The West Chamber" Volume 4: "It is difficult to be a man now." Li Mingzhi's Notes on History Outline Volume XIII: "Zhong Hui doesn't know how to be a man." Yang Shuo's "Three Thousand Miles of Rivers and Mountains" XIII: "When you meet in spring, you are good, and you feel the psychology of others."
Understand sb.' s thoughts
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Yuan Guan Hanqing's "Tune the Wind and Moon" is the first fold: "Although I am a powder, I only strive not to wear a headscarf and hate those unreasonable women." Ma Yuan Zhiyuan's Tears of Shirts is the second fold: "A pretty soul can't hover without me, I am a person's solution."
3. Lose face and have dignity.
Qin Yuan Fu Jian's "Dongtanglao" is the third fold: "You are a man to take care of me, so I ask you to be a helper!"
Humanism's Interpretation of Being a Man
The Truth of Being a Man-Unlocking the Mystery of Life, edited by Uprising Ruzhu, is a book that expounds the truth of being a man and the mystery of life. This book points directly at the core issues of human studies-humanity and humanity, and is also an innovative masterpiece of human studies. The author points out that being a man is a unique concept in China culture, and there is no corresponding fixed vocabulary in western culture. In order to understand the mystery of life, the author gives a strict definition of being a person: being a person refers to the activity of doing things, treating people and directing yourself to become a certain person in a certain way or concept in any period of time. To put it simply, being a man is to act in a certain way or concept, treat people with things, and command yourself to become a certain person at any time. In this way, we can explain various specific problems in life by being human.
Be a man and do things
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Being a man is for others to see, but doing things is for yourself, because others only look at how you are, and rarely look at how you do things, so there are many people in the workplace who are incompetent but occupy high positions. This kind of person is not really incompetent, but his ability to be a man far exceeds yours. Nowadays, a large number of people don't like asking for help from others and feel embarrassed. Or colleagues around you please their superiors, which will also cause discussion among colleagues. Please pay attention. Don't talk about others in the future. You should feel a sense of urgency. Maybe the next boss is the colleague you are talking about now. You can have a look if you don't believe me. I remember when I was in primary school, a classmate liked being a monitor very much, but he never showed it. But when the head teacher drew up a candidate, he talked about this person behind his back. Why is this happening? Because he is very concerned, his heart is extremely unbalanced. Of course, a monitor was nothing at that time, but you were born in society and still look like this. Then you may always be just an employee in the company. Why don't you convey your opinion to your superiors? Everyone wants to be a manager, of course, it does not rule out that some people like to be managed, but if you don't disclose your thoughts to others, how can others know what you are pursuing? It's a little confusing, but every word wants to remind everyone that being a man is better than doing one thing. Some people have worked hard all their lives, and finally they will retire. The boss just found out, Lao Wang! Why don't I give you two years and one meter so that you can retire and enjoy the rest of your life? And some people can be promoted from clerk to metre in a year, but Lao Wang spent most of his life. Is it worth it? Of course, after we do our life well, we will also do what our superiors tell us. People who don't trust you like this and don't want to promote you! This is just my personal opinion. What I have seen, felt and learned from books is a mess, unlike a writer! Please forgive me!
Learn to be a man
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Man is the most advanced of animals. Of course, we should be good people. People can walk upright and have fun. People have joys and sorrows, and people also have ups and downs. They constantly weave our beautiful life and let us find the source of life. Man is a combination of sensibility and rationality.
keep faith
Have you ever been touched by others? Have you been in contact with anyone? There are so many things around us that we should be fascinated by the world. Why be a man? There is no need to rummage through everything to find the answer, such as affection, love, friendship, brotherhood and so on. These "feelings" are enough to surround you and let you find the value of being a man. Zhu said: "Sages talk a thousand words, but only teach people to be human." . Life is irreversible. I hope you and everyone will cherish this unique life and learn to be a man.
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It is not difficult to do things.
Being a man is the hardest.
Being a man is the premise of doing things.
Being a man is the foundation of life.
Learning to become a talent is the theme of life.
Success in life is the greatest success.
Personal dignity is the noblest.
Diligence and enterprising are the greatest.
Real society
Will abandon laziness and cowardice
Will spit on vanity and bow down.
It is calm to be a person without desires and demands.
Only when you do things can you be confident, calm and comfortable.
Self-esteem and respect for others will appear mature.
Only by doing things can you feel at ease, be noble and be free.
Growth is more important than success.
The process of growing up is the process of being a man.
Learn to be a man
Be sure to succeed.
Cann't be a man
It's only a temporary success
As a person
Learn to be a man all your life.
Show human dignity
Experience the happiness of being a man.
Recognize the value of being a human being
won't forget
I am a capital "person"
-Excerpt from Collected Works of Life
To be a flower-like person is not necessarily gorgeous and charming, but it must be fragrant;
Being a tree-like person is not necessarily leafy, but it must be tall and straight;
To be a mountain-like person, you don't have to be tall and majestic, but you must be solemn and upright;
People like water are not necessarily magnificent, but they must be clear and transparent.
-Excerpt from "Being a Man"
The way to be a man
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First, a summary of life:
Man and environment interact with each other. People should live in the world dialectically and deal with problems with the concepts of dynamics and movement, connection, contradiction, change and development. The cooperation between individuals and society, that is, the beneficial and effective cooperation between individuals and national social groups, can promote the rise of people's happiness index. The goal of life is nothing more than this. Therefore, on the one hand, we must understand that it is not enough to rely on our own efforts, but also the functional guarantee of social groups and political parties.
(A) Physical exercise and training awareness
1). Is it first important for people to have a healthy body? Good health is the foundation, and the body suffers less. Health is indeed a kind of happiness. There are many books about health preservation methods for reference.
2). People's consciousness can be expressed by "IQ" (including IQ, IQ and EQ), and there are many books to read, which can be briefly summarized as follows:
a)。 Exercise IQ:
Without a scientific mind, it is still difficult to become an outstanding talent who knows how to innovate and create scientific development. Including the ability to feel, perceive and represent things, as well as the ability to judge, reason, analyze and summarize concepts.
b)。 Sports quotient:
That is, people's will qualities, such as determination, consciousness, self-control and tenacity, have always had noble courage and fighting spirit, strong will and know how to persist. More people should inherit this excellent quality. It is difficult for people with low will and quotient to undertake big tasks.
c)。 Exercise emotional intelligence:
Emotional quotient (EQ) largely determines the success of one's family and career. Whether it is relatives, friends or strangers, people have to experience many different partners in their lives. Why are some near and some far? Of course, it also includes self. Including the emotional reflection of value, emotional memory, emotional strain, emotional sensitivity and emotional rational thinking ability. Of course, there is also a very important point: love for mankind, love for the motherland and love for society. Without this feeling, being a man is first and foremost inferior (you can cherish and care for your family and friends, don't other people's family and friends and everyone's family and friends deserve your love? It is equally worthwhile and equally important. )
(2) Protecting the environment
Even if we do a little bit, we can protect society, protect the country, protect the earth and protect mankind. Environment is where people stand, and its foundation is nothing more than skin.
2. Be a man, specifically:
1, be a man with a plan. A man without a plan is like a puppet with a elm head. Life lacks autonomy and is given to others.
morality
Arrange and manipulate. Of course, there is no harm in scheming here, not calculating other people's hearts, not playing tricks and cheating. To be an upright person, there is no room for a little haze in your heart. Such people are pure people. On the contrary, people who specialize in politics and deception will eventually suffer the consequences.
Have a little ingenuity and draw wisdom from life. Never experienced the baptism of society, never experienced the tempering of life, such people are always simple and natural, without the slightest intention. Being wet in the world for a long time and having more experience will naturally produce scheming, so scheming is also the concentration and refinement of life.
It is also the need to protect yourself from harm to keep a little scheming in dealing with people. The scheming is not used to harm people, but to protect yourself. As the saying goes, harming others is not good for yourself. Human feelings are warm and cold, the world is cold, and things in society are complicated. In the face of such a world without any hidden secrets, how can we properly safeguard our own interests?
2. Be principled. Be a man of principle. A gentleman does something and doesn't. It is difficult to be a person, and it is even more difficult to be a good person, because being a good person has principles and moral standards, and requires patience and modesty. Principles can be the starting point of self-improvement in life, grasping moderation, not seeking the best, just seeking better, being happy in continuous progress and making contributions to society.
3. To be a responsible person, you should have a sense of responsibility, shoulder morality, and take due responsibility for work, friends and family; The same is true of financial management, taking other people's money,
Eliminate disasters for others. No matter what "wealth" you earn from part-time and full-time, you must pay a decent return and have a clear conscience.
4. Be a person with plans and goals, have plans and goals, know how to correctly analyze yourself and analyze the future; The same is true of financial management. You can't make money and spend without a plan. There is no "moonlight" if you have a plan, and you will not be empty-handed if you are white.
5, will choose friends, be honest with people, understand that a hero has three gangs, and friends have many ways. Once you choose a friend, you should carefully cultivate and be honest with each other; Just like financial management: don't put all your eggs in the same basket. Funds, stocks, government bonds, securities and gold are all "friends" who can accompany you all your life. You should be accurate and patient.
6, be a man, enough is enough, don't be eager for quick success, don't be hot-headed, and shoot when it's time to shoot; The same is true of financial management. Don't compare with others at will, curb blind consumption, live within your means and don't waste money.
7. Be a man if you want to be able to afford it. Don't be timid and worry too much. The same is true of financial management: the money that should be spent needs to be spent. The key to financial management is how to use and allocate money to make yourself happier, instead of being too frugal and stingy and suffering from kindness.
8. If you want to work hard, you must know how to use the resources around you and strive for a broader space for yourself. After all, individuals are weak, of course, you should also learn to use various "relationships" to achieve great things. So is financial management. We should seize every opportunity, pay attention to the details of life, and constantly explore the potential power that can bring extra income or harvest, so as to turn small money into big money and small profits into big profits.
9. Be open-minded, be open-minded, be informal, and have a broad vision; Financial management should be aboveboard, don't be careful about others, and don't hurt everyone's kindness for petty gain. You know, intangible wealth is more important.
10, a man should know how to give up, know how to give up, give up, don't let yourself get stuck, understand that letting go of the past and always grasp the present and the future; Financial management, but also feel at ease, "spin a thousand silver, all come back!" Those who can win must also afford to lose. To understand that there are gains and losses in business, there is no need to punish the confidence of today's efforts for yesterday's investment failure.
1 1. Good at coping with changes. In fact, for a person, there are too many changes in life, work and study, and changes happen all the time, that is to say,
Change is eternal, whether we are afraid of it or not. Don't feel sorry for the broken glass, and we don't yearn for the "cheese" in memory. It will only be the helplessness and wishful thinking of the "White-headed Maid Xuanzong". What we need is to find a way that suits us, get rid of comfort, transcend fear and move at random. Life will not depend on someone's wishes, change will come at any time, so we should face it positively. If we can adapt to the change as soon as possible, we can do better. When we face changes, we will be afraid and at a loss, which is normal. As long as we can treat fear seriously and scientifically, it can even help us avoid real danger. We don't have to refuse change. We can completely change our attitude towards change, enjoy change in change, embrace change and welcome change.
12, be good at seizing opportunities. We live in such a fast, changeable and innovative era. Everyone may face a completely different situation from the past, so people often feel that their goals are changing. All kinds of external strong changes and internal conflicts interact, which makes people feel at a loss in all kinds of changes. First of all, ask-what has changed in my goal? Then I was at a loss because I was not used to the new life state, and I couldn't handle it correctly and fell into confusion. If you are always immersed in the pain of "loss", the dilemma of "decision" and the helplessness of "disappointment" in all kinds of sudden changes, then life itself will become an obstacle. Life is a big maze for us, and you will stay in a corner and settle down. After a long time, as you get older, you will be "too lazy to change" or "have no courage and passion" to change and pursue. We should pursue our goals in real life. Goals do exist and are constantly changing. We should actively create harmonious interpersonal relationships and sincere cooperative partnerships with full work enthusiasm, positive and optimistic outlook on life, strong sense of competition and service, and strive for a better tomorrow!
With the rapid development of social science, our competition is becoming more and more fierce, and competition is everywhere. Our current goals may be removed at any time. How can we keep our current goals? Only by adhering to the ideological line of emancipating the mind and seeking truth from facts, finding the goal of keeping pace with the times and constantly innovating, doing a good job, constantly learning and understanding new knowledge, mastering new technologies, meeting competition and challenging the future, can we not be eliminated.
13, keep a low profile
When we are alive, we often have the idea of explaining something. However, once explained, I found that anyone's explanation is so pale and weak, and it will even get darker and darker. Therefore, being a man needs no explanation, so he becomes a wise choice. So in today's society, getting along with people, I think the key is to learn to keep a low profile!
Being low-key is a character, a gesture, a demeanor, a cultivation, a mind, a wisdom, a strategy, and it is the best gesture. People who want to succeed must tolerate others, and then be accepted, appreciated and worshipped. This is the foundation of human existence. Being a low-key person is an excellent gesture to strengthen the foundation of the world in society. Being a low-key person can not only protect yourself, blend in with the crowd and live in harmony with others, but also make people accumulate strength, sneak quietly and achieve a career without showing signs of dew.
Learn to be a low-key person, that is, don't be noisy, pretentious, insincere, involved in right and wrong, suspicious and jealous. Even if you think you are brilliant and better than others, learn to hide others. Complaining that you have no talent is only superficial.
To be a low-key person is to look at everything in the world with a peaceful mind. Practice to this state, you can from beginning to end, not only can make people happy when they are humble, but also can make people suffer when they are prominent.
14. Adjust the role
Being a man naturally plays a certain role, first of all, children, then teenagers, young people, parents/husbands' wives, grandparents, other people's friends, some roles in work and so on. We must first understand the rights and obligations of each role, even if it is superficial activities, and then clarify our real identity and strive to be a person who conforms to our identity. Of course, role identities usually change by leaps and bounds, or are mixed identities and occasions. We must know how to distinguish it in order to make it appropriate and appropriate in different space and time.
15. Concerned about current affairs and politics
Don't be blind. You should have a clear understanding of your environment, such as the collective, society, the world, the universe and what happened. If you don't understand, you must learn. People are inseparable from their surroundings. Only by interacting with the environment scientifically can we settle down first and then develop.
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No matter your family, collective or society, caring for the environment makes your living space clean and sanitary, reduces pollution and ensures health, which is also the happy enjoyment of being a human being. Interaction with the environment includes concrete (actual resources) and abstract (information). Without resources, people can't meet their normal needs; Without information, it's like a blind man touching an elephant, not bad.
Resources: Resources are precious, otherwise, we don't need to transfer water from South to North, build factories to develop manufacturing industry and keep doing research ... Non-renewable energy has been in crisis, so we must save on use and prolong service life, even though the country is still developing new energy sources, such as solar energy. If nuclear fusion energy is realized, the energy crisis can be fundamentally solved.
Information: The people who read this manuscript are those who understand the importance of information and those who search for information. Not everyone is born with knowledge. If he is ignorant, even the best material will be buried. Relatively speaking, knowledge is also a kind of information, and the treasure house of knowledge is extremely rich, depending on whether you have studied it or not. There are also current politics, surrounding things, logical relations and so on. It is better to consider and weigh the decision comprehensively. For military wars, information is analyzed in time.
17. The small bureau obeys the overall situation.
As long as people have needs, there will be differences, contradictions and unfairness. People, people and groups, groups and groups are inevitable phenomena. Some friends above explained how to protect their own interests. There are always big and small interests, and there are differences between the local and the whole. In this way, if the ministries fight for each other or retreat and do nothing, it will inevitably affect the overall situation. The late Qing Dynasty is an example, and the indecent and unreasonable journey continues. There will be no peace in a country that is constantly at war. Of course, at that time, there was no understanding today, and only a few people were willing to sacrifice their own interests and were still arguing about the national system. In today's society, it is extremely wrong and will not succeed if we can't recognize the problems of the overall situation and the small situation, evade responsibility and fight internally. Such as how to survive in the company?
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According to what you need to learn, you don't have to be appointed by any company or individual to do your own work. The society needs every screw, and it is also trying to organize, coordinate and maintain the normal, orderly and good operation of the state machine. If you don't get on the bus, you will be left behind. When you become a successful student, you can't just take advantage of yourself, enjoy the moon and have fun. Some people in society are actually very capable, but they are either for themselves or passively isolated. The geese leave a voice, and someone leaves a name. Why don't talented people try to get ahead or die? For young people, conditions are much better now. Even if it is of great use and small use, we should give full play to our abilities and find a point for ourselves.
19. Love peace and feel life
This is not empty talk. China has also experienced many wars, and each time it was miserable. At present, the world is not very stable. Conflicts continue in the Middle East. If we live there, why should we worry? The contradiction between big and small in other parts of the world is increasingly apparent because of differences in national interests. Therefore, peace is very precious.
Here, you can chat leisurely, relax, study, work, eat a good meal, have time to educate children, exercise, watch the news, buy lottery tickets, do business, have a place to reason, have friends to help you, have the internet available, and have the opportunity to read this manuscript. ...
In short, there are many ways for people to face everything in the environment, their specific reactions and behaviors, and their interactions, that is, scientific summary and theory (you can refer to many books), but it is true that the world is vast, profound, great and unknown. No matter how successful you are, you will be buried in the long river of history. If you are unsuccessful, you will still be an individual. Anyway, in the long river of history, everyone first has his own position and has a certain contribution. Different positions reflect different values. We are only trying to reduce the reaction that prevents the society from moving forward, but on the contrary, we are pushing the society forward, because the descendants of mankind, including you and me, must not stop abruptly and stagnate. We are born as human beings, and life is priceless. It is the greatest pride for human beings to persist in developing into the present world.
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(A) the formula of the word "modesty"
The word "modesty" is the only word in the world. If you are arrogant and conceited, you will only lose the foundation of your life and end up alone and criticized.
1, don't be arrogant
Don't get carried away.
Don't boast if you have the ability.
4. Ask for advice.
(2) the formula of "light"
If you are too strict with people, you should be friends when you make friends. It seems unnecessary to put the word "light" first. Looking down and thinking on the bright side, life will be suddenly enlightened and full of flavor.
Just as "plain is true".
1, a friend of a gentleman is as light as water.
2. Look down on life and treat life well.
3, indifferent to ambition, don't blindfold for fame and fortune.
4. Reduce desires and satisfy the mind.
(3) the formula of "frugality"
People who don't know the word "frugality" don't know how to succeed, and any successful career lies in the accumulation of bits and pieces; People who don't understand the word "frugality" will only lose success and lose to others excessively.
"Frugality and morality" is a good training for people to do things.
1, starting from saving living expenses
2, "poor and generous" is not desirable.
3. Beware of unusual frugality: stingy
4, don't dye the road, Xiu De.
(4) the formula of "sub"
Be a person with personality and give yourself a little confidence! The road to success depends on yourself, and the bright future comes from self-reliance, not giving in to any authority, and recovering self-esteem with your own efforts.
Men make their own decisions!
1, self-reliance and success.
2. Unique life.
3. Challenge authority with yourself.
4, self-confidence-let you southeast and northwest wind.
(5) the formula of the word "reason"
Born in a country of etiquette, be a polite person. Polite people will be human, popular and have many friends. Polite people will do things, pay attention to image, be educated, don't make enemies, and everything goes well on the road to success.
1, treat people with courtesy
2, polite, polite people don't blame
3, pay attention to etiquette dress, give a good impression.
(6) the formula of "positive"
Be an upright person, be a person with sound personality and be respected. Being a selfish person, doing things that deceive the heart and preventing talents from being capable, has no chance of success.
1, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
2. Jealousy is a taboo in Fang Zhengzhi.
3. Not cheating is a pleasure in itself.
Second, the image-building formula
-Teach you an elegant personality
(7) the formula of "ambition"
Give yourself a lever enough to turn the earth.
Make a wish for your life, set a goal, set an idol, and cultivate a sense of down-to-earth success. Make sure first, and then date successfully.
1, do what you can, and be determined.
2. Make up your mind first, and there is hope only if you make up your mind.
3. Cultivate a sense of success: aspire to be king.
4. Set up idols and change yourself.
(8) the formula of "time"
Be punctual in life. Modern people can't create their own image without the concept of time. Arrange time reasonably, use time effectively, be punctual, cherish time and not delay.
Remember: time is money.
1, one second is worth ten thousand dollars.
Don't neglect your spare time.
3. Stealing other people's time is tantamount to murder for money.
4, according to the importance, more effective use of time.
(9) The formula of "diligence"
If you work harder, you will have more chances of success. Numerous facts have proved that the shortcut to success is diligence. Don't just talk and don't practice, don't be lazy, be diligent, reward hard work by heaven, reward hard work by heaven!
1, the shortcut to success: diligence
2, more efforts, more opportunities.
3. Diligence in action is better than diligence in words.
(10) the formula of "truth"
Be a down-to-earth person and do things. Anyone with his hands in his pockets can't climb the ladder of success. Leave a true image, add a solid foundation for your success, proceed from reality and be responsible for yourself.
1, dedication, the success guarantee of doers
2. Do every job well.
People who put their hands in their pockets can't climb the ladder of success.
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1. Morality is the norm and criterion of people's behavior, and there are objective standards of right and wrong, good and evil. This is an unwritten law, but it is different from the law. It mainly depends on education, public opinion and people's conscious understanding. -Mao Yisheng, bridge expert
2. To make people truly educated, they must have three qualities: profound knowledge, thinking habits and noble sentiments. Not much knowledge is ignorance; Not used to thinking about whether it is rude or stupid; Without noble sentiments, it is vulgar. -Russian literary critic and philosopher Chernyshevski
Virtue can be divided into two kinds: one is wisdom and the other is behavior. The former comes from learning, while the latter comes from practice.
-Aristotle, ancient Greek philosopher and thinker
4. Happiness from evil virtue can still hurt us in happiness; The pain from virtue can still comfort us in pain.
British geneticist Goldon.
Being polite is not always a sign of wisdom, but being impolite always makes people doubt its stupidity. -Randall, English writer
6. Politeness is the first important thing for children and teenagers to form habits, so we should pay special attention to it. British philosopher John Locke
7. The most important thing in life is politeness, which is more important than the highest wisdom and all knowledge. -herzen, Russian philosopher and writer
8. Politeness is the most beautiful flower in noble character. -Winter, English painter
Punctuality is the greatest courtesy. -Louis XIV, the return of the French king
10. Politeness is the desire to regain courtesy and respect. -La Rochefoucauld, French writer
1 1. When encountering setbacks and difficulties, we need to keep an optimistic and healthy attitude. Zhou Haizhong
12, when a person greets the light with his work, the light will soon shine on him. -Feng Xuefeng
13, to make a person's limited life more effective, that is, to prolong life. -Lu Xun
14. No matter how noble or poor you are, it is your parents' business. You should try to create your own world. —— Fang Haiquan
15. Even if we don't move, time is moving for us, and the passage of days is enough to take away what we want to keep.
16, life is like a trip, and the ideal is the route of the trip. If you lose the route, you have to stop moving forward.
17, people can survive only if they have material things; One must have ideals to talk about life. Do you want to know the difference between life and life?
18, only by combining with this world can our ideals blossom and bear fruit; Without this world, ideals cannot bear fruit.
19. My ambition and ideal for my career is to take "truth" as the starting point, "goodness" as the course and "beauty" as the ultimate goal.
20. The happiness and happiness of human beings lies in struggle, and the most precious thing is to struggle for ideals.