Someone asked on the headline: Moms, what are the best parenting books you have ever read? When I saw this question, I went to the bookshelf, rummaged through the organized rows of parenting books, and picked out a few books that I liked the most and that touched me deeply.

1. "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Cohen

This book is the parenting book I have read over and over again. I read it in the library and bought it again. This book, especially every time I have a conflict with my children, I always turn to this book and reflect on the state when I am angry.

The translator of this book, Xiao Wu (child educator), has said on many occasions: It is easy to love an obedient child, but it is more difficult to love a child who is not so well-behaved and docile. But it is precisely loving those children who are not easy to love that develops our true love, and doing those things that are not easy to do exercises our abilities.

When the children grow up day by day, the chips of our love seem to increase day by day, especially when the children go to school. Sometimes words blurt out, but we don’t realize it, and we love our children conditionally again and again, “Just do whatever you want...just do whatever mommy does...?”

One day at the dinner table, the children and I Confess: Mom, you have changed. You were so kind and gentle before. Since entering the first grade, you don’t love us as much. You don’t understand our family as before and are always dissatisfied.

When the children said this, I had mixed feelings. I read this book again in the evening. Although the progress is not big each time, the author Cohen also said: "This is difficult, but it is still worthy of our all-out efforts."

Educator Yin Jianli said: "Unconditional parenting" is a state, Not a set of methods. The methods are limited, but the realm is infinite. Parents, please read this book, it will bring you "infinite" methods and power.

2. "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne

This book is not a book on parenting, but if you understand the secret in the book - the law of attraction, we can get along with our children It will be more wonderful and happy. "The Secret" Rhonda Byrne reveals the powerful golden rule that runs in the universe and governs life, and clearly explains how to use this rule to create a happy and happy life.

The law of attraction, everything in your life comes because of you. Have righteous thoughts in your mind and always believe in understanding your children. We use a magnifying glass to see a child’s strengths and improvements, and a microscope to see his shortcomings. How can we not have a harmonious relationship with our children if we always have this awareness? This is true not only for our children, but also for our partners, parents, parents-in-law and friends around us. Especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As the younger generation, if we always practice righteous thoughts, we will eventually reap a different kind of scenery. Only when the elderly and children are happy can everything in the family and everything be prosperous. The so-called difference of one thought can lead to a thousand miles of misunderstanding. All good things are what we think about.

Although this book is not a parenting book, it is worth reading in depth.

3. "Little Doudou by the Window" by Kuroyanagi Tetsuko

The first time I encountered this book was one night a few years ago, casually in a I read it on the website, so I held my palm-sized mobile phone and read it voraciously late into the night. I wondered how the principal (Sosaku Kobayashi) in the book could be so respectful and understanding of children. In the early morning of the next day, I placed an order on JD.com and bought the paper book. Whether online or in the library, if I encounter books I like, even if I have read them, I will buy them back.

It can be said that this book is also a memoir of Kuroyanagi Tetsuko, she is the little Doudou in the book. A child who was expelled from school in the first grade because of his naughty nature. Many children like this book, they like the curious little Doudou, and they may also envy Little Doudou for having a principal who understands children so well.

What children read in this book is childishness. What we read is the educational philosophy of Mr. Principal, how to educate the special children in Ba Academy, a little Doudou who was dropped out of school, decades later Became a famous Japanese writer, famous TV host, and UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador. Of course, all this has a lot to do with the author's parents, who are also mentioned in the book. Her time in Ba Academy was very important in her life.

4. "Reading Handbook" Jim Trillis

In 1989, Jim Trillis was named by the International Reading Organization as the person who made the most contribution to the promotion of reading in the 1980s. One of 8 people. "Reading aloud Handbook" is a summary of Trillis's decades of research and practice on children's reading guidance.

There is a small poem in the introduction to the book to share with you: You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you'll never be richer than me - I have a mom who reads to me.

Letting children love reading and always being with books is what every parent hopes for. If you haven't read or told stories to your child yet, haven't guided him into the door of reading, and don't know how to do it, then this book is the best choice. It will first give you a serious wake-up call and let you know the difference between children who study and those who do not study in a few decades. Next, I will tell you the methods: "stages of reading aloud", "reading aloud essentials and reading taboos", etc.

At the end of this book, there is also an appendix of nearly ten pages of reading list, recommended by: Ajia, Wang Lin. There are picture books and text books, which also provide a good reference for parents who don’t know how to choose books for their children.

5. "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Luxemburg

When we shed the hidden mental violence, love will naturally reveal itself.

In 2006, Dr. Marshall Luxemburg received the Bridge to Peace Award from the Global Village Foundation. He discovered a way of communication, according to which talking and listening can make people connect with each other and live in harmony. This is non-violent communication.

This book has a Douban score of 8.4. I think it is also a book recommended by many people. We get along with our children day and night every day, and we don’t know how much “violent communication” we use. Often when the children do something wrong, we can nag them endlessly. This book will tell us how to improve this situation. It is also a book worth reading again and again, and it will take many practical exercises after reading it.

6. "Discovering Mother" Wang Donghua

The hand that moves the world is the hand that rocks the cradle.

It is not unreasonable for Meng’s mother to move three times. Mother is an indispensable role in the growth of a child.

This book is a monograph on mother education that the author has worked hard on for ten years. From the perspective of a mother, the author makes serious and in-depth reflections on some core issues of human society, and puts forward a series of major propositions related to the fate of the entire human race.

This book also involves early childhood education. The younger the children, the earlier parents will start and the direction will be clearer.

Mo Yan commented: This is a very interesting topic, telling about the various confusions of "mothers" from physical to psychological. In Wang Donghua's narrative, many things that we think are common and normal in reality turn out to be They are all shocking and thought-provoking.

7. "A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher" by Yin Jianli

This is my first parenting book. I was very lucky to encounter it very early. When I read it for the first time, I was very shocked by her educational philosophy of "intention without trace". On the second day after reading, when the children picked up dirty fallen leaves, cigarette butts, and a small branch from the ground, I no longer stopped them. Instead, I leaned down to observe and study with them. I know how to relate to children from their perspective and feel their pain and fear during injections. Making children love reading all depends on the impact of this book on me.

There is a chapter in the book where the author plays Santa Claus and delivers gifts to children every year. We have also practiced this in our lives. From Christmas when our children were two years old until now, every year we play Santa Claus and deliver gifts to our children, and the next morning is their most surprising moment. As the book says: It lies in this surprise, which is another level of more valuable enjoyment.

Of course, many valuable ideas in the book can be practiced in life. This book is also the teaching notes of education expert Yin Jianli. It contains refreshing family education principles, as well as many simple and practical operating methods. Secondly, it tells you how to teach your children to be a good person, and teaches you how to cultivate a self-conscious, self-reliant, and self-reliant child. children.

Yin Jianli also has two other books, "Free Children are the Most Conscious" and "The Most Beautiful Education is the Simplest", which are also good.

The above books are my favorite among the parenting books, and they can also be said to be the books that have touched me. Hope this helps the questioner. It is also good to have many parenting books at home, such as "The Secret of Childhood" by Maria Montessori, "Emile" by Rousseau, "Educational Essays" by John Locke, etc. But when the children entered primary school, I read less books in this field. I will continue to read and learn in the future. Each age group of children will have a different style, and I have to keep up with their rhythm.