Why is it better to live shamelessly?

There is such a passage in "A Generation of Masters": "People live in the world, some people live as faces, and some people live as linings. Only Lizi can win real face. Many people care about face and feel that face is bigger than the sky. In fact, life is for yourself, not for others. Shameless people are more likely to reap results, whether it is learning or making money. What they want doesn't care about other people's eyes at all. If they strive hard, they will certainly get the desired effect. Thin-skinned people are not like this. They are hesitant to do things, afraid of being judged by others, living in internal friction and entanglement, and people become very sensitive.

Six ways to teach you to be shameless.

0 1, strengthen yourself and become stronger inside.

Firmly believe, listen to your inner voice carefully, don't change your mind easily if you want to do something, ignore the whispers of others, and be a strong person inside.

Please yourself, don't cater to others

Many girls are thin-skinned and embarrassed to refuse others, and some even become ingratiating, always catering to others' preferences. After knowing this, before doing anything, learn to please yourself and ask yourself if you are happy. Try if you are happy, give up if you are unhappy, don't take other people's preferences as your own needs, and always put "I" first. I have a friend who is a little flattering, doesn't know how to refuse people, and often helps colleagues for free. He didn't say he was tired, but his colleagues still thought it was right. He didn't even thank him. Later, she slowly learned to refuse. At first, she was a little embarrassed to speak. After a long time, it doesn't matter, she lives much more freely.

03. Put down your face and dare to sell yourself.

Li Ka-shing has a wise saying: "When you put down your face to make money, it shows that you are sensible. When you earn back your face with money, it means you have succeeded. When you can make money with your face, it means that you are already a character. " To make money, you must put down your face and dare to sell yourself. You will, and so will others. Introduce yourself first and get closer to your goal. Just like when I first started writing, I was afraid to publish articles in public because of my thin face, for fear of being laughed at by others, but later I put down my so-called face. Now there are more than 2000 fans, earning pocket money, which is considered a small achievement.

04, grow up alone and jump out of the evaluation system.

We have lived in other people's evaluation system since childhood, studying, working, getting married, having children and so on. And anything related to yourself will be judged by family, relatives and friends. We should learn to jump out of this system and judge our future life by ourselves. After all, the world does not depend on the will of ourselves or others. What kind of person you want to be, you have to grow up on your own.

05. Accept the blow and hone your will.

I may have been blessed by my parents since I was a child. Many difficulties were overcome by my parents, so we didn't have a chance to show them. Weak-willed people can't make achievements, so they can learn to bear some minor setbacks and blows, constantly hone their minds and become determined people. You can try to go out for an interview, find a job, and change jobs requires other ways to make money, exercise your skills, and announce the people you like loudly. Don't be afraid of losing. Life is an experience. When I was working as a self-media, I also experienced a moment when there were few fans and the data was bleak. I was anxious and found a solution. In this process, my will gradually became strong.

06. Insist on improving yourself.

Learn more, read more, read less nonsense jokes, and put knowledge into your head, so that when you get along with others, you don't have to worry about your knowledge reserve and dare not express your inner thoughts. Also, if you know more things, you will be more confident, people will become emboldened, and your words and deeds will carry more weight. Even if you don't refute, others will give you face. Remember, only by becoming better and stronger can we win back face. Until then, focus on yourself and constantly improve yourself. Time will give you the answer you want.