"People outside the city want to rush in, and people in the city want to escape."

When you see this familiar saying, you must guess where it comes from?

Yes, it comes from "The Besieged City" by Qian Zhongshu, a famous scholar in modern China.

Revisit this novel known as the "New Scholars" and understand the real reason why Fang Hongjian played so few good cards. These lessons are worth learning from in our lives.

1. Deceiving himself and others, having no real ability

Fang Hongjian was born in a feudal squire family, and was lucky enough to receive funding from his father-in-law to study abroad. But after he went abroad, he didn't really study.

Going to school depends entirely on your mood. If you're in a good mood, go take a few classes. When I'm in a bad mood, I just wander around and live a lazy life.

After four years of this, I changed universities three times. Seeing that he was running out of money, he used an Irish scammer to get a fake diploma "Doctor of Philosophy from the University of Credence in Germany", thinking of going back to give an explanation to his family and his father-in-law.

However, after returning to China, because of his fake diploma, he had no real ability. Whether he was teaching in school or working as a clerk, it was not easy for him to get around.

However, Fang Hongjian always put himself under the pseudonym of Doctor of Philosophy and did not seriously reflect on himself.

Life requires real skills. If you don't suffer the hardships of study, you will definitely suffer the hardships of life.

In the final analysis of life, you must be responsible for yourself, keep improving, and keep growing, so that you can truly successfully overcome life's problems and not be dragged forward by life.

2. Not understanding the world and offending others

As an adult, Fang Hongjian was not understanding the world and encountered many obstacles in his life.

While teaching at Sanlv University, this situation occurred frequently. There were incidents where the shortcomings of history teacher Han Xueyue were exposed, and there were incidents where the principal questioned his academic and professional abilities, and he was full of complaints, which led to tension in the relationship.

Also, when meeting with a blind date, the dishonorable way of dealing with others is vividly displayed. On the one hand, he played mahjong with the elders of his blind date, and after winning money, he spared no effort to urge the other party to settle the account quickly, losing the sense of being a guest; on the other hand, he mocked the blind date, Ms. Zhang, with ill intentions.

After a blind date, Fang Hongjian completely annoyed everyone in the Zhang family.

Fang Hongjian did not know how to put himself in someone else’s shoes and be worldly, so he could only ask for trouble.

In fact, the best way for people to get along is to show empathy. Only by learning to be tolerant and accepting, respecting yourself and others, and being affectionate with others can you be accepted by others.

3. Love vanity and be bound by face

Fang Hongjian loves face very much.

When he and his wife visited Zhao Xinmei in Hong Kong, they unexpectedly met Su Wenwan.

Miss Su was well-dressed and kept mocking Sun Roujia for her outdated clothes. However, Fang Hongjian worked hard to create a courteous and courteous image. He saw his wife being ignored and insulted by others, but he did not dare to say a word.

After Sun Roujia gave up the promotion offer from Sanlv University, she entered the personnel department of the cotton mill. This could have alleviated the pressure of life, but for the sake of face, Fang Hongjian asked Sun Roujia to give up this high-paying job and stay at home to raise her husband and children.

There are many people like Fang Hongjian in life.

Those with low incomes borrow money to buy luxury goods and make themselves fat; those with little knowledge often brag and show off.

The lower a person's level is, the less confident he is and the more he values ??face.

Life is long, and if you always use external appearance to cover up your inner emptiness, it will only be a dream in the end.

4. Write it at the end

Fang Hongjian received help from his father-in-law to study abroad, but he played a good hand to pieces, which is very disappointing.

Fang Hongjian’s failure had a lot to do with himself.

If a person wants to live the best version of himself, he must get out of the inner siege, understand the importance of hard work, get rid of laziness, take the initiative to learn skills, not be vain, understand and respect others, and continue to practice Only by yourself can you win the splendor of life.

Everyone is welcome to leave comments. I hope we can all take responsibility for our own lives and live a brilliant life.