Interpretation: If you can talk to him but don't talk to him, this is a missed talent; if you can't talk to him but you talk to him, this is saying the wrong thing. Smart people never miss talents or say the wrong things.

Source: From the Analects of Confucius written by Confucius during the Spring and Autumn Period.

Excerpts from the original text:

Confucius said: "If you can talk to someone but don't talk to them, you will miss someone; if you talk to them if you can't talk to them, you will lose your words. Those who know how to talk will not lose people, so Don't be shy."

Confucius said: "The wise are happy in water, and the benevolent are happy in mountains." Confucius said: "Is benevolence so far away?

Vernacular translation:

Confucius said: "If you can talk to him but don't talk to him, you will miss a talent; if you can't talk to him but talk to him, this is It's the wrong thing to say. A wise person never misses a talent, nor does he say the wrong thing."

Confucius said: "The wise love water, the benevolent love mountains; the wise are fond of movement, and the benevolent are fond of tranquility; the wise are happy. The benevolent will live long."

Confucius said: "Is benevolence really far away from us? I think benevolence will come naturally." The deeper understanding is: benevolence is inherent in people. Because of our nature, being benevolent depends entirely on our own efforts and cannot rely on external forces.

Extended information:

Appreciation:

Confucius mentioned two concepts, one is "losing people" and the other is "losing words". Confucius believed that it should If you say something to someone but don't say it to him, you are sorry for that person, which is a mistake; if you say something to someone instead of saying something to him, it means you have misjudged the person you are listening to, and it is a mistake of speaking. Whether a person makes a mistake or fails to speak, all involves the problem of not seeing the person to whom he is speaking.

If you don't speak when you should, you will lose someone. , his brother Xiao Changmao was the prince. Emperor Wu of Qi advocated frugality and hated luxury and corruption, but the prince Xiao Changmao was fond of luxury. The palaces he lived in were all exquisitely decorated, and the pavilions and pavilions were extremely gorgeous.

He also liked design. He made rare things, and used peacock feathers to make clothes, inlaid with gold and jade, which were dazzling. Xiao Ziliang had a good relationship with the prince and knew what the prince was doing, but he did not tell his father. Later, someone reported the prince's whereabouts to Emperor Qi Wu. Emperor Qi Wu was very angry and blamed the prince. To Xiao Zhaoye, the grandson of the emperor, Xiao Ziliang finally died in depression.

In history, there are many people who dare to directly remonstrate. In many cases, these people did not meet the wise king, but still insisted on remonstrating. Their fate. They were killed or demoted. For example, Guan Long Pang Jin Jian was killed by Xia Jie, Bigan Jin Jian was heartbroken by King Zhou, and Han Yu was demoted for opposing Ying Buddha's bones. They all made the mistake of not seeing clearly what they said. Therefore, speaking has become an art, and it depends not only on the occasion and timing, but also on the object.