Choosing friends is the first meaning of life. "

Zeng Guofan believes that in life, we must use the strength of others to do our own thing.

Zeng Guofan is good at establishing his own network resources and knows how to manage interpersonal relationships.

Good interpersonal relationships and rich network resources mean that the more opportunities you get and the more resources you can use, the greater the possibility of success.

Zeng Guofan said: Choosing friends is the first priority in life. The success or failure of life is related to the merits and demerits of friends, so don't be careless!

Choosing friends is the most important thing in life.

The success or failure of a person's life is closely related to whether the friends he makes are outstanding in talent and good in character. Therefore, we have to be careful in choosing friends!

Zeng Guofan knew the importance of choosing friends, and always attached great importance to making friends, especially those with both ability and political integrity.

Zeng Guofan's good friends played an important role in his life and career.

Some of them gave him advice, some admired him, some promoted him, and some did their best in times of crisis, which set off his career from all angles.

In terms of self-cultivation, there are Tang Jian, Woren and others; In the study of classics, there are Wu Zixu, Shao Huixi and others; In terms of artistic creation, what.

Everyone has stunts, which is worth learning from Zeng Guofan.

These people also have a common feature, that is, they all have lofty aspirations, and they are not willing to be mediocre and mediocre all their lives.

Their enterprising spirit is a great encouragement to Zeng Guofan.

It is conceivable that Zeng Guofan lived in such a circle of friends and made great progress every day. This is the key for Zeng Guofan to finally stand out.

In Zeng Guofan's circle of friends, there are almost no people who are far less ambitious than him.

Zeng Guofan not only asked himself to stay away from incompetent and mediocre people, but also asked his younger brothers to do so.

Zeng Guofan opposed his younger brothers going to Hengyang to study, mainly because there were too many friends there and the reading atmosphere was very bad.

Zeng Guofan believes that most students studying in Hengyang have average grades, no great ambitions, no progress in reading and like to wander.

If his younger brothers are influenced by them, they will also become vulgar, so he resolutely opposes his younger brothers going to Hengyang to study.

Facts have proved that Zeng Guofan's point of view is correct.

According to Zeng Guofan's suggestion, Ceng Guohua and Ceng Guoquan went to Changsha, the provincial capital, and made rapid progress with the help of Luo Zenan and other tutors.

This shows how important it is to make friends with talented people and stay away from mediocrity. If there are particularly vulgar people in your circle of friends, remember to clean them up immediately!

02

Learn to save face.

Zeng Guofan said that if you give someone a face, they will give you two faces. If you hurt one point, you lose ten points. When dealing with people, you have to love face.

Give someone a face and they will give you two faces; If you hurt other people's faces, they will hurt you very much.

Between two people, just say you owe money. If one party humiliated the other, the two families would immediately become enemies, let alone make friends.

When dealing with people, you have to love face!

Zeng Guofan seems to be an unsmiling, calm and rigorous gentleman image in the eyes of modern people. In fact, this represents his mature personality.

Zeng Guofan was talkative, pushy and sociable in his early years.

China had the admonition that "disaster comes from the mouth" and "talking too much will lead to loss", but when he was young, Zeng Guofan liked to speak frankly, "talking too much every day", and he often got red in the face with others. Not to mention this, he also has the problem of "short discussion", which often hurts others' face and offends others.

He himself knows that "sharp words are boring" and has made up his mind to reduce contact, but it is difficult to change.

Whenever friends have arguments, Zeng Guofan often insists on his own opinions and argues, "just to overwhelm others and gain fame."

China people have a glorious tradition of saving face since ancient times.

As the old saying goes, "Don't slap people in the face, don't expose them" gives people face. One is to avoid unnecessary troubles, and the other is to give you face in your later life. This will make many difficult relationships easier and make many difficult things smooth. Why not do it?

03

Don't take advantage of others.

Love takes advantage, which is the taboo of making friends.

A person always likes to take advantage of others, and it will inevitably become notorious over time. Who else wants to have something to do with this?

Amin dynasty Yang Jisheng once wrote in his son's will:

"Better let people, don't let people; I would rather be tolerant than be tolerated; I would rather suffer others' losses than let others suffer mine; It is better to be popular than to be angry with me. If people are kind to me, they will not forget; People who have enemies with me will soon be gone. "

This is not only a proverb, but also a bitter medicine, and it is also a thorough understanding of human nature by a dying old man.

Zeng Guofan also said that everything should not take advantage of others. I'd rather people use me than me.

Zeng Guofan believes that people who were kind to me in the past all had other intentions, ranging from hundreds to thousands, but they were all bait ears.

If I become a governor or study politics in the future, ignore them. If I'm unfriendly, pay attention to them. Even if I still have ten, I can't satisfy their desires.

Zeng Guofan was in Beijing for eight years, and he never accepted others' kindness easily and refused to take advantage of others.

It is based on this philosophy of "not taking advantage of others at all" that Zeng Guofan can be rigid without desire, refuse the temptation of interests everywhere, and finally become a generation of famous ministers.

Human feelings are debts. If you take advantage of others, you owe them half a favor.

Only those who do not take advantage cannot suffer, and those who take advantage must suffer.

The world is balanced. According to the Book of Changes, yin is half yang, and neither can be more nor less.

As long as this is more and that is less, you have an advantage now, and other things will be returned sooner or later.