In life, people often make trouble without reason, and they have to be reasonable. On the contrary, some people hold the truth, remain silent, and get three points for reasoning, which makes them look graceful and gentle and gentlemanly. The former is often a cynical loser in life, while the latter has an open-minded winner. It can also show a person's tolerance and profound cultivation.
One lives chattering, and the other lives naturally and smartly. Reasonable, unreasonable and forgiving are generally in the right and wrong field, in the debate. If it is a major issue of right and wrong, it is natural to talk nonsense without losing principle, and even devote yourself to the pursuit of truth. But in daily life, including work, there are often some unprincipled problems, and it is not worth fighting for a small fur problem. If you have to say something, no one will give up.
A woman spat on the road because the wind blew a lot of phlegm on a young man's pants. When the woman saw it, she quickly apologized and took out a paper towel from her bag to wipe it, but the young man refused in anger and said, "lick it for me!" " The woman repeatedly handed over: "I'm sorry! I'm sorry! Shall I wipe it off for you? " But the young man insisted on not letting her lick it. If this argument continues, there will be more and more people watching the fun in the street. Some of them began to fight with each other, and no matter how a woman said "I'm sorry", young people could not forgive her. Finally, the woman was furious and took out a stack of money from her bag, about one or two thousand yuan. She shouted on the spot, "Listen, everyone, whoever can settle this guy on the spot will get the money!" As soon as the voice fell, two strong men flashed out of the crowd, and they punched the adamant young man. The young man who was just arrogant was kicked to the ground, I don't know the southeast and northwest. When he stood up to look for the woman, the woman also left. It can be seen that you have to forgive others, but also forgive others, and you should not go too far, otherwise you will eventually suffer.
It's natural for you to feel guilty when you have done something wrong to others. You can apologize to others and say something when they are angry. On the other hand, some people did something sorry for themselves, and others also apologized. As long as nothing happens, don't make trouble without reason. You must take revenge, even deliberately. If this is the case, it is unreasonable, and it may be illegal and criminal because of "excessive defense"! China's traditional virtue stresses "forgiveness" and "putting yourself in the other's shoes". Forgiveness is actually a virtue.
An old man was knocked down by a girl riding a bicycle who rushed out of a roadside alley. The girl complained loudly to the old man who fell on the road: "You don't look when you walk!" " Passers-by don't like it, and they accuse the girl one after another: "Don't say that you knocked down the old man. Even if you are not responsible, shouldn't you help the old man to see where he hit?" The girl had to help the old man up and whispered, "I'm sorry." The old man stood up, exercised and said, "It doesn't matter if it hurts a little. You must be careful next time! "! Let's go before we hit the place "Look, how nice.
Now, the social rhythm has accelerated, people are impetuous, and their words are full of anger and thorns. If they are unreasonable, they will get three points! If people can stand tall and have an open mind, they can understand and forgive others. But some people can't help asking, what should I do if I spare him and I feel uncomfortable? Yes, if you forgive those who offend you lightly, it is inevitable that everyone will feel uncomfortable, but if everyone wants to be happy and comfortable, then you will see a group of selfish people fighting for their own interests.
Once, a master who came back from studying in America applied for a job in a trading company. He not only has a high academic background, but also has excellent eloquence and strong professional ability, and he has repeatedly made a name for himself at the conference. But whenever he hears other colleagues propose some immature projects, or sometimes offends him, he always swears rudely. In his mind, there is nothing wrong with this! Because all this is "a great teacher makes a great apprentice", if it weren't for others' mistakes, they wouldn't be angry. However, his attitude made him a lonely bird among his colleagues. Before long, he chose to leave the company.
Of course, it is not because of his poor ability, but because of the pressure of interpersonal relationship. Until he left his job, he kept asking himself, "Am I wrong? Is my temper unreasonable? "
There is a famous saying: "unreasonable people are a shortcoming;" People should be hard, and reasoning is a blind spot. "How well you speak! In daily life, give each other a step, say less and forgive others. Otherwise, you will not only be unable to reduce the "enemies" in front of you, but also alienate more friends around you because of timidity. Is it worth it? I believe you already have the answer in your heart. Leaving some room for those who offend us is a virtue we should learn and a "habit" we should cultivate. If you are unreasonable, you will make the other person desperate, and sometimes even arouse the other person's will to "survive". "And since it is" survival ",it may be" unscrupulous "and cause some harm to you.
Gong of the Han Dynasty was very poor when he was young, and later became a prime minister. But life is still very frugal. There is only one meat dish for eating and an ordinary quilt for sleeping. When Ji An, the minister, saw him like this, he took part in a book for Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, criticizing that the palace ranked third, with a considerable salary, but only covered with ordinary quilts. In essence, he is putting on airs and fishing for fame in order to defraud the reputation of frugality and incorruptibility.
Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty asked Gong Sunhong, "Is everything Ji An said true?" Gong replied, "Ji An is right. Among the Manchu ministers, he has the best friendship with me and knows me best. He really hit the nail on the head when he accused me in front of everyone today. I'm in the third place, just covering the quilt. My living standard is the same as that of ordinary people. I really pretend to be honest in order to catch up with my reputation. If it weren't for Ji An's loyalty, how could your majesty hear such criticism of me? " Hearing this, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty felt humble and respected him even more.
In the face of Ji An's accusation and Emperor Wu's inquiry, Gong Sunhong chose not to argue, and all admitted that it was a kind of wisdom. Ji An accused him of "name fraud", and no matter how he defended it, onlookers had preconceived that he might continue to "cheat". Because Gong Sunhong knew the weight of this accusation, he took a very clever move, that is, he admitted that he was seeking fame without making any excuses.
In fact, this is to show that you are at least "not cheating now." Because "no cheating now" has been recognized by both the defendant and the bystander, the weight of the charge has been reduced. Gong Sunhong's genius lies in praising his accusers and thinking that he is "loyal". In this way, the emperor and his colleagues had the impression that the palace was indeed a "prime minister with a gondola in his stomach." Since people have such a mentality, Gong doesn't need to argue whether he pursues fame and gain, because his behavior is not a political ambition, nor a threat to the emperor, nor a harm to his colleagues. It's just a hobby to clear his name, which is harmless. When the other person is unreasonable and knows that he is wrong, your "reason" obviously takes over. You might as well leave him some room, he will appreciate you and may repay you in the future. Even if I don't repay you, I'm unlikely to be your enemy again.
Spare a man a way and hurt a wall. Many friends, many roads, many enemies and many walls. Everyone who sets his mind on it knows the truth of "be lenient with others and be lenient with others". If you neglect others, you will hurt them or even destroy them, which is unfriendly.