The meaning and meaning of "No poison and no husband" are as follows:

The general idea is: A person who does not hate his enemies is not a gentleman, and a person who is not cruel to his enemies cannot be a real man. Today's meaning is roughly that if you want to achieve great things, you must use ruthless means. But the original intention is not that, but to make the man a little "poisonous".

Word definition

The general idea is: A person who does not hate his enemies is not a gentleman, and a person who is not cruel to his enemies cannot be a man. Today's meaning is roughly that if you want to achieve great things, you must use ruthless means. But the original intention is not that, but to make the man a little "poisonous".

Origin of the word

1. The second excerpt of the drama "Wangjiang Pavilion" by Guan Hanqing of the Yuan Dynasty: "Bian Hao said, 'Hate the small non-gentleman, and the non-toxic husband'."

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2. The first excerpt of the drama "Autumn in the Han Palace" by Ma Zhiyuan of the Yuan Dynasty: "Teaching him to suffer for the rest of his life is exactly the same as 'hating a small man who is not a gentleman, and a husband who is not poisonous'."

3. Chapter 98 of "Jin Ping Mei Ci Hua" written by Lanling Xiaoxiao in the Ming Dynasty: "As the saying goes: 'If you hate a small person who is not a gentleman, you will not be a husband if you are not poisonous'." "

4. The sixth chapter of "Qing Zhongpu" by Li Yu in the Qing Dynasty: "[Fu] hates small non-gentlemen, and is not a poisonous husband." ”

Word controversy

Because the idea expressed in the saying “Hate the small is not a gentleman, and the innocent is not a husband” is incompatible with orthodox Confucian moral thought.

Therefore, many defenders of Confucian culture try to replace "poison" with "degree" through homonym replacement. In order to match "degree", they also replace "hate" with "quantity", and "hate small non-gentlemen, no poison". "Not a husband" became "a gentleman who is too small is not a husband, and a man who is too generous is not a husband", emphasizing that a real man must have tolerance.

Perhaps it is because the vitality of "no poison is not a husband" is too strong, and the word "degree" has never been able to Replacing "poison" resulted in the proverb "A person who is small is not a gentleman, and a person who is not poisonous is not a husband", which has been passed down to this day. He was a very accomplished monarch of Qi. He was the first of the Five Hegemons of the Spring and Autumn Period and the first overlord of the Central Plains. However, before he succeeded, he also experienced many twists and turns, and even almost died at the hands of Guan Zhong. When the Duke of Qi was a prince, there was a political riot in the State of Qi. Guan Zhong protected the young master Jiu and fled to the State of Lu, while Bao Shuya protected Duke Huan of Qi and fled to the State of Ju.

Not long after, Gongsun Wuzhi, who was in rebellion in the State of Qi, was killed, and the king of the state was killed. He wanted to be re-elected, so Guan Zhong escorted Prince Jiu back to his country, and Bao Shuya also escorted Duke Huan of Qi back to his country. Just in case, Guan Zhong took the lead in blocking the way of Duke Huan of Qi and others, and shot an arrow into Duke Huan of Qi's belt. Duke Huan of Qi escaped the disaster by pretending to be dead.

After Duke Huan of Qi became the king, he did not ask Guan Zhong to settle the score. Instead, he appointed Guan Zhong as the prime minister. With the help of Guan Zhong, he finally became the overlord of Chuzhuang. He was also one of the Five Hegemons of the Spring and Autumn Period. Once, King Zhuang of Chu hosted a banquet for his ministers. After three rounds of wine, King Zhuang of Chu asked all his favorite concubines to attend the banquet to add to the fun.

One of his favorites was present at the banquet. Ji was pouring wine for everyone, but at this moment, a sudden gust of wind blew, and all the candles at the banquet were extinguished. A minister actually pulled the concubine of King Chuzhuang. She probably had too much to drink and she quickly broke away. He came and took off the tassel from the man's hat, and then complained to King Zhuang of Chu, claiming that as long as he lit a candle, he could catch who was teasing him.

Who knew Chu Zhuang. However, King Zhuang ordered not to light the candles and asked everyone to pull off the tassels on their hats before lighting the candles again. The minister made a mistake while drunk, but King Zhuang of Chu did not pursue it and allowed the man to escape the disaster with his magnanimity. , and felt grateful to King Zhuang of Chu.

Later, when he fought against Jin, he always led his army to the front, fought bravely, and took the lead in repelling the enemy, and finally won. King Chuzhuang was surprised at first, but the man said that he was the one who made the mistake while drunk that day, and he often hoped that he could repay King Chuzhuang with all his heart, so he defeated the Jin army and the Chu country became strong.

Magnificent people always get unexpected gains, while narrow-minded people often harm others and themselves.

For example, Zhou Yu in "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", because of his narrow-mindedness and jealousy, repeatedly tried to harm Zhuge Liang, but ended up harming himself. Before his death, he lamented, "How can Liang be born when Yu is born?"

It can be seen from this that "A small person is not a gentleman, and a small amount is not a husband" is indeed a famous aphorism!