Xiaoming was born in a family with excellent economic conditions. His father is an executive of a listed company with a good income. For this only child, he is also willing to spend money. Food, clothing, housing and transportation, as well as educational resources, are first-class choices. However, Xiao Ming felt strange to his father, even a little scared, and resisted contact with his father alone.
It turns out that Xiao Ming's father is busy with his work, often flies to various places for business trips, and occupies a high position all the year round, with a strong personality. In the limited time with Xiao Ming, he is always required to obey unconditionally. After a long time, Xiaoming's personality has some problems. He was taciturn in front of his father, but he became a bully at school and always got into trouble.
In fact, many children who lack their father's company will have psychological problems like Xiao Ming, which need parents' timely attention, prevention and guidance.
What psychological problems may happen to children who grow up without their fathers?
1, sensitive mind, too worried.
Children grow up without their father, and their hearts will be full of insecurity. Especially when you see the intimate relationship between other children and their fathers, you will inevitably feel that you are not loved by your father. After a long time, you will develop a sensitive personality, accumulate a lot of negative feelings of inferiority in your heart, and always worry too much when thinking about problems.
2, grumpy, emotionally unstable.
Children have a natural need to be close to their parents and long for their companionship and love. If the father is absent from the child's growth for various reasons, then in order to attract his attention, the child will deliberately make trouble to attract his attention. Slowly, you will become emotionally unstable. I only know how to lose my temper when I meet something, but I don't know how to face it rationally.
3, to avoid responsibility, not to take responsibility.
Men usually have a completely different perspective and thinking from women in education, which can give children a broader way of looking at problems. If a child grows up without a father's reference, he is likely to lack a sense of responsibility, and he only knows how to escape when he encounters difficulties, but he has no responsibility.
How should parents prevent and guide?
1, increase the proportion of male education.
In the traditional family relationship, most men are responsible for making money to support their families, while women take care of their families. We should appropriately increase the proportion of men's roles in parenting education, so that parents can participate more in their children's education. Let children be infected by men's thinking, learn their father's logic in daily life, and help children cultivate strong, independent and responsible excellent qualities.
2. Set goals and cultivate models for children.
Fathers can help children learn to set goals, guide them to establish the ideals they want to achieve, and encourage them to work hard for their goals. Different from women's delicacy and thoughtfulness, men have more gender characteristics in the pattern and can look at the problems in children's growth more rationally. Children are not judged by their grades, and they are not afraid to get their clothes dirty. Instead, it pays more attention to the sense of experience in the process and helps children broaden the pattern.
3. Broaden horizons and cultivate children's creativity.
Fathers can take their children to outdoor activities and experience the scenery of nature in their spare time. Take children from a male perspective to broaden their horizons, cultivate their sentiments and adjust their emotions. You can also encourage children's thirst for knowledge, take them to do some practical activities and cultivate their creativity.
The education of children is definitely not the responsibility of the mother alone. The difference between men and women also determines the dimension of children's education. Both parents should work together for the growth of their children, and neither side should be absent from their children's education. When the child is found to have the above abnormalities, it is necessary to reflect on it in time, increase the father's accompanying education time, and guide the child to grow up healthily.