However, with prejudice, will people be regarded as "flat"?
Every Friday night, Xiao Wu drives his wife to the railway station to visit his sick mother. Ten minutes later, Xiao Wu's sister's train arrived. He took her home to help them with the housework. On Sunday, the whole process is just the opposite. Xiao Wu's sister's train left ten minutes before his wife arrived. One night, his sister had just left, and Xiao Wu was waiting to pick up his wife's car when a station attendant came slowly. He smiled strangely and said, "Sir, you really have a way. Aren't you afraid that they will catch you one day? 」
Lunar halo effect
When getting along with people, we are used to wearing a pair of "preconceived" eyes, putting others in a "frame" and then using this frame to explain this person's role and behavior; He is a good man, he is a bad man, he seems to be having an affair, she likes to take advantage of small things ... we even project our thoughts on each other, so that we often deviate from the truth.
Maybe you've heard the story. ...
There are two women sitting at the same table drinking. One of them leaned his umbrella against the table, and the other was in a daze after drinking, so he picked up his umbrella and left. The owner of the umbrella shouted, "Hello! You took my umbrella. The woman in front looked embarrassed, blushed and apologized to the other party, saying that she forgot to bring her umbrella and took it wrong. This incident reminded her of the necessity of buying an umbrella and a pair for her children, so she went to buy two. On the way home, she happened to be sitting on the same bus with the woman who had taken the umbrella by mistake before. The woman stared at the two umbrellas and said, "I see your grades are not bad today!" " 」
People often have a tendency to judge others, that is, divide people into "good" or "bad" parts.
When a person leaves a "good" impression, people will interpret his words and deeds from the perspective of "good". On the contrary, if a person is classified as a "bad" impression, then all bad opinions will be added to him. This phenomenon is called the "lunar halo effect". In other words, when people see the moon, the surrounding gas field will also be noticed; When a person's "impression" is established, people will automatically "halo effect", linking the cognition of the first impression with the words and deeds of the other party.
How ridiculous can prejudice be?
A young Jew and an old Jew are sitting on the same train. The young Jew asked the old Jew, "What time is it, sir?" The old Jew was silent. "I'm sorry What time is it, sir? " The old Jew still didn't answer, "sir, I'm sorry to bother you!" But I really want to know the time. Why don't you answer me? " The old Jew replied, "son, the next stop is the last stop." I don't even know you as a stranger. If I answer you now, according to Jewish tradition, I must invite you to my home. You are handsome, and I have a beautiful daughter. You two will love each other, and then you will marry my daughter. Tell me, why do I want a son-in-law who can't even afford a watch? 」
Almost every minute, everything, we are making judgments based on the knowledge and experience gained in the past. For example, we often hear (or think) that businessmen are cunning, women can't drive well, men are unsanitary, Jews are stingy, Americans are romantic and so on. After that, we will establish a set of rigid impressions in our hearts and use this "prejudice" to explain or judge the people and things around us. If a man and a woman see a man walking down the street with a flower, the woman may think, "Oh! He is so considerate and romantic. " A man may think, "Oh, my God! I think this guy is finished. "
I remember a story like this: One morning, a gentleman who had just arrived in America was walking in the park and saw some white people sitting on the lawn chatting and sunbathing. He thought to himself, "Americans are really carefree, rich and know how to enjoy life." "Not long after I left, I saw several black people sitting leisurely on the other side of the lawn. The gentleman couldn't help thinking, "Alas! The problem of black unemployment is really serious. These people may live on social welfare. Ace once had such a wonderful metaphor. When you were walking in the street at night, you saw a light on a window. Some people may say, "This must be the mother's prayer for her children who haven't come home yet." Others may say, "Oh, my God, someone must be having an affair. 」
Hazlitt said, "Prejudice is an ignorant child. It is true that there is a deviation between "man" and "ping". Once people have prejudice, they will regard "people" as "flat" and "biased". Most people don't know you, and you don't fully understand these people. In this case, we should not judge others easily, and of course we don't have to care about other people's judgments. Because everyone can button the first button wrong, right?