I am not sociable by nature. On most occasions, I either find the other person boring, or I am afraid that the other person will find me boring. But I don't want to endure the other person's boredom, nor do I want to try to make myself interesting. That would be too tiring. I am most relaxed when I am alone, because I don’t feel boring. Even if I am boring, I can bear it myself without disturbing others and without feeling uneasy.

——Zhou Guoping

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"I think the more people are restrained by society, the lonelier they will be. Since loneliness is inevitable, why not correct it? Accept it mentally. The way to solve loneliness is to enjoy being alone. After all, the person you spend the most time with is yourself."

This is Kan, who plays Liu Lian in "The Sudden Holiday". Kiyoko's lines in the play, and every segment she summarizes, reveal the flavor of life, which is thought-provoking, classic and incisive.

I really like her in the play, a single woman who doesn't play by the rules, but I think she lives a free and easy life, with a wild attitude, and lives up to the attitude that contemporary people want.

We seem to be watching her experience, but in fact we are not. We think more deeply about ourselves from her and look for our own shadow.

Durian, also known as Liu Lian, has been told by her mother that she has no father since she was a child. Until her mother passed away, she never knew who her father was?

Her mother’s departure left her completely an orphan. What impressed me most was that after she got drunk, she mistook her mother’s favorite flowers for her mother. She released her suppressed emotions in the flowerpot and shouted to her mother loudly. Crying about his loneliness until he burst into tears.

She does herself in her own way and lives for herself, not for others. She has no parents, no bread and no love, but she is still strong.

A person still has a long way to go, but she is not very negative, but lives very transparently. For her, in the end, people are lonely and have to Learn to be alone with yourself.

In her experience, she lost a lot one after another, including her mother, her job, the opportunity to raise cats, etc. In the end, even her friend Zhuzi had to leave her, and she was still alone in the end.

In fact, in a person's life, we will meet all kinds of people, but after all, they are just passers-by in our lives. No one can accompany you forever.

After all, in his life, there are countless passers-by, no one behind him, and he walks alone on a long road.

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I never knew how to get along with others and always tried to be gregarious. It wasn’t until I entered college that I realized that being alone was also a required course in life.

In the past, I always felt that it was awkward to do something alone. I always liked having someone to accompany me, so that I would not look out of place.

Care about the eyes of others, for fear of becoming a different person in the eyes of others.

Now I feel that time alone is a pleasure, I cherish it and enjoy it very much.

Everyone who meets them for the first time will quickly stick together, no matter what the situation is, without exception.

I believe that many students, when they first entered college, traveled together with their roommates. However, this state of affairs did not last long, and soon they began to travel together in twos and threes.

Maybe you are still trying to be gregarious, or maybe you are walking alone on the road of loneliness like me, but in the end you cannot escape the fate of being alone.

It is said that being stubborn is not sweet. Instead of trying to be gregarious and squeeze into a circle that does not belong to you, it is better to learn to be alone.

I like my bed very much in the dormitory. When the curtain is drawn, it seems that I am isolated from the outside world and only have my own little world.

I enjoy being alone, without having to worry about others, just me, truly being myself.

I used to desperately want to squeeze into a circle that didn’t belong to me, but I found that in the end it would only make me more tired. Life is already very difficult, so why would I add more trouble to myself? .

If you can’t fit into the circle, just let it go. You deserve better.

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Learning to be alone, accepting solitude, and enjoying solitude is the most comfortable state for a person.

Being alone is the norm for people, eating alone, going to the library alone, going to the classroom alone...

In fact, for a person who is not good at communication, a talent It is the most comfortable. There is no need to consider others. All the disturbances have nothing to do with you.

Show yourself in your own world, release your nature, and enjoy your time alone.

Some people are suitable for communication, on the contrary, some people are more suitable for being alone. We should find our own way of life, which can not only explore ourselves and improve our own efficiency, but more importantly, be comfortable.

There is a kind of loneliness that is just for you to reach the top and meet a better version of yourself.

Instead of trying to be gregarious, it is better to give up low-quality social interactions, learn to be alone, and enjoy the tranquility that solitude brings.

Article: Meng Yu

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