Mother's letter to seed of love's son is a farce;
Mother's good son. In fact, I have long known your relationship with Xiu and Yu. Every time you tell me about them, you have a happy expression on your face. I understand that you cherish this friendship. And I have been paying attention to your development. Besides getting along with my classmates sincerely, I often guide you to concentrate on your studies. I talked to your father about it, and we also think there is no need to make a mountain out of a molehill, let alone be afraid of everything.
In my opinion, there is pure friendship between men and women. Mom always thinks that the relationship between you is not beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends. At your age, it is normal for men and women to have a good feeling. You must remember that when you first showed your mother a letter from Er Qiao, I reminded you how to reply to her: Take care. You also promised me that you would never fall in love. At that time, my mother admired your reason and believed that you could handle this relationship well. So, my mother wrote "Son, that's how love letters are written". I made my attitude clear in that article. I don't mind you dating the opposite sex, but you must grasp it.
But, what about this? Degree? Is it easy to grasp? My mother is engaged in education. How many students have witnessed the tragedy of puppy love? Some of them have affected their studies in order to let go of their feelings; Some even committed suicide by hunger strike because of lovelorn love; There are other reasons? Once the sea was difficult for water? Never get married Of course, there are also examples of using love as a learning motivation, but the success is very small.
Once the seeds of love germinate, they will grow wildly. It is impossible to let it wither after germination. How cruel is it to kill with the help of external forces? So, when you get back the apple that Er Qiao gave you at Christmas, I firmly believe that you were not moved by it. I don't mean to blame you. Your relationship with Er Qiao has undergone subtle changes, which should be after your first game. You told me yourself. Tell me, what does Er Qiao want? Like what? Become? Love? . Later, you offered to make up lessons at the English teacher's house. At that time, I didn't know that Er Qiao lived in an English teacher's house. Your father and I have never interfered in your choice. But two days later, I learned from your mouth that when you and Er Qiao do homework together at the English teacher's house after school every night, I am a little worried. In fact, your feelings have changed at this time. Although you don't admit it, you know best. After class begins, you often run to Er Qiao's seat at the back of the classroom. You didn't even do this when you were on duty. Er Qiao left school and let Er Qiao bite you on the back while doing homework at the English teacher's house.
Ryle, in the eyes of mom, you have always been an excellent child. Of course, mom won't change her old view because of your little problem. These days, you have been complaining that the teacher and I have put your relationship with Er Qiao in danger, which has caused great burden and pressure on your mind. I don't think your teacher and I are wrong. Mother was called to school by the teacher. Your teachers are all surprised: I know your relationship with Er Qiao. Why don't you stop earlier? When I talked with several of your teachers, I also said that this matter is normal and there is no need to take any severe measures against you. That's because, I believe, teachers and parents remind you out of love for you. Because you are young and immature. You can't really shoulder the responsibility and obligation behind love. I don't know, can you understand the hard work of teachers and parents?
Child: We didn't interfere with your relationship with Er Qiao before, because at that time you were really pure friendship. Today, when Er Qiao clearly shows his love to you, it shows that your friendship has changed. We don't want you to sublimate from friendship to love. So, the teacher and I told you a lot of truth. I don't know if you listened. You and Er Qiao are in a period of ignorance, and this seed of love must never sprout. Once love takes root, it goes without saying that your 14-or 15-year-old child is a mature young man. How many of them can really put it away freely? Otherwise, how can so many people lament? Can't help it?
It's not that we are cruel, it's not that we are cold. It's that your relationship has reached a critical point. Son, you have been defending yourself, because Er Qiao will transfer back this semester, but you didn't have the heart to hurt her and didn't refuse her. Now the fact is that Er Qiao didn't go. Son, shouldn't you make a decisive decision? The middle school entrance examination is just around the corner, and just three months are fleeting. If you are stuck in the mire of feelings, it is you who suffer. I don't think you want to ruin your future in this early relationship, do you?
You should stop, son. Mom believes you.
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Mother's letter to seed of love's second son:
Originally, it was just a tacit understanding. It was just a congenial relationship. Because of a feeling, I suddenly had a passion. But the stirred heart will be calm eventually, so why let it roll when it is not ready? I suggest that you maintain a vague and mutual respect.
The friendly eyes and encouraging eyes between each other are worth remembering all your life. The unspoken beauty is worthy of your life. Emotional flowers will only blossom and bear fruit at a certain time, but now you are still in the spring, not the autumn harvest season. ......
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Mother's letter to her puppy love son: Dear son:
When you see this topic, you will be very strange, and you may even blame your mother in your heart: Why did you tell me this topic? Am I puppy love? My good son, please don't worry, you don't have puppy love, and my parents believe in you!
The reason why my mother mentioned this topic to you by writing is because I saw many students with good grades on the Internet. When she was in junior high school with them, she was in the top five in her class and was a student of school 10. Because of their excellent results in the senior high school entrance examination, they went to District No.1 Middle School for free. But after high school, my grades plummeted because of puppy love. He only got 496 points in the college entrance examination last year. Now, he has to go back to high school to make up lessons. He regretted it with them, but everything became a foregone conclusion. What's the use of regret? Seeing them depressed, my mother will think of you in the future. Now you are in the golden age of middle school. My parents really don't want you to make the same mistakes as them in the future. Plus, last week, you explained to your parents what happened between text messages and classmates of the opposite sex. My parents know that your grades are not satisfactory now, and I think it is necessary to talk to you about this topic. I hope you can learn from them and master your own life direction. Son, can you understand the feelings of your parents?
Besides? Puppy love? There is nothing to avoid this topic. It's just a normal physiological and psychological reflection of adolescence, influenced by TV, internet and books. Any sane person will have a good impression on the opposite sex at this age. As Goethe said:? Which girl doesn't love spring and which boy doesn't? Many celebrities in history are also puppy love. What happened to Jia Baoyu, Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai in a Dream of Red Mansions? Love triangle? Only fourteen or fifteen years old; Nie er falls in love in middle school; Goethe was only 14 or 15 when he fell in love with the opposite sex, so he must have never let it go? Puppy love? Equate it with poor quality and moral corruption, and don't treat it as evil.
However, this does not mean advocating puppy love. You know what, son? Although puppy love is beautiful, it is as bitter as green olives. Moreover, once this immature feeling breaks out, it will bring great harm to you in "Seeds of Love", which is embodied in the following aspects.
First, puppy love? Affect learning. I am addicted to love and the fantasy of love all day, so that I can't devote myself to my study, which leads to neglect of my studies, decline in my grades and even weariness of learning.
Actually, yes? Puppy love? On the court, there are many, many people whose endings are more tragic than him. I remember seeing such a news that there was a top student whose best subject was mathematics. When he was a sophomore, he won the second place in the national mathematics competition, so he became famous and received five letters from female students at once? Courtship letter? One of them is the backbone of the entertainment circle he has long been obsessed with, like this? Break the water with one stone? , make his heart waves rolling. After several sleepless nights, he finally failed to refuse a girl's pure feelings. So, quietly exchange greetings, two boys and girls fell in love, so he was distracted in class, and sometimes his homework could not be finished, especially the contradictions and troubles in love haunted him and interfered with his normal study. They often find time to chat, even skip classes and go out to play, eat out and go to Internet cafes. In this emotional turmoil, the top students in mathematics have been on pins and needles, and their grades have gone from bad to worse. Seeing that the college entrance examination was coming, he tried to restrain himself from rushing up, but it was too late. Even if he tried his best, he couldn't settle down. Finally, I failed in the college entrance examination. Seeing that his classmates were ecstatic to receive the admission notice from the university, his heart was full of remorse, his heart was full of complaints about the girl, and he broke up sadly. Imagine that if the top math student had grasped himself, he might have been sitting in the classroom of the university and become an enviable student. It can be seen that puppy love is unrealistic, and the result of puppy love is like a green fruit, which will not have sweetness. If it is meaningless to spend energy in falling in love at this time, it will definitely leave a lifelong regret for yourself, as the famous writer Liu Qing once said: Although the road of life is long, only a few steps are often at stake-especially when people are young. He and you have reached the critical point of life. Don't regret not taking these key steps all your life.
Second,? Puppy love? Harmful to physical and mental health. American scientists' research shows that young people who fall in love before 17 years old can't cope with the emotional troubles caused by their first love, which will lay the groundwork for mental illness in the future, especially for boys. This is because middle school students are in the transition period from adolescence to adolescence, with immature body and mind, insufficient knowledge and experience, limited social experience, low ability to choose and evaluate life and things, and unable to deal with all kinds of disputes in love. Once you are lovelorn, your tender heart will be greatly hurt and your spirit will be completely crushed. And it is easy to fall into pain and trouble because of lovelorn love or cause lifelong regret because of emotional impulse. What's more, it will be made by? Love too much? However, I can't extricate myself, and I can't sleep at night. Over time, I have some psychological obstacles and mental diseases, which have affected my physical and mental health to some extent.
Besides,? Puppy love? The success rate is small. After all, junior high school students and senior high school students are still children, with active and extreme thinking and unstable emotions. So this kind of love is often a temporary emotional impulse, unstable and short-lived. Some people have done such statistics: the probability of junior high school students falling in love is 0.0003, that is, 1 000 junior high school students fall in love, and only 3 can succeed; When high school students fall in love, the probability of success is 0.002, that is, 1000 high school students fall in love, and only two succeed. In other words, falling in love in middle school has far more failures than successes. Even if they get married in the future, life will be full of ups and downs and contradictions. Zijun and Juansheng in Lu Xun's Regret for the Past are a good example. Zijun and Juansheng really love each other. They broke through many obstacles, came together and established a life of * * *, but in the end, they broke up. Not because of the intervention of a third party, nor because of personality differences, but because they lack economic foundation. This kind of marriage that can't solve the problem of eating is like a castle in the air, which will eventually collapse.
Children, every stage of life has different happiness themes. They enjoy the care of their parents in childhood, experience the enrichment of learning in adolescence, indulge in the romance of love in youth, embrace the glory of their careers in middle age and enjoy family happiness in old age. The theme dislocation of different age groups will probably be a tragedy. Dear son, what if? Puppy love? Really come to your side, then let it open in your heart, thank it in your heart, and bury it in your heart! Now, what you can do is to strive for a better future with your efforts. At that time, you will definitely taste the sweetness and happiness brought by mature love! Remember: don't pick autumn fruits in summer.