I often hear people joking that young people today rely solely on koi carps for their promotions.

In the TV series, the heroine gets an offer in ten minutes and becomes the project leader in 24 hours.

Netizens expressed jealousy with red eyes: "I hope good luck can happen to me."

Occasionally, you will hear stories like this:

Randomly Helping organize the documents on the leader's desk, he was regarded as a person who was organized, able to endure hardships and observed, and he immediately became a department manager from a young secretary.

Luck comes simply and crudely, and the logic is full of loopholes.

Chicken soup like this is regarded as a life-saving straw, and many people use it to relieve anxiety.

Sorry, there are no miracles in life

Some time ago, a two-minute Japanese short film hit the Internet.

The protagonist is a young girl who is taking a bus to the interview location.

At this time, an old man wearing red socks and black leather shoes got on the bus.

Because there was no seat, he could only hold the armrest.

The heroine stood up and offered her seat to him. The old man looked at her with relief and nodded repeatedly.

Arriving at the interview site, the heroine was surprised to find that the interviewer was also wearing red socks and black leather shoes.

Could it be that... he was the one who gave up his seat?

As her eyes slowly moved up... the heroine was quickly disappointed - she was a complete stranger.

The interview ended and the heroine failed.

She walked out of the company a little frustrated, and a cleaning lady came up and stopped her.

It was the grandpa on the bus.

At this time, several people hurriedly ran up from behind and shouted:

"President, why are you still doing cleaning work!"

The heroine suddenly turned around: Could it be that he is the president of the company?

Before she could regain her hope, the staff pushed the old man away and ran to the real president aside.

It turned out that I was overthinking it... The heroine smiled coquettishly and prepared to leave.

At this time, the president shouted in the direction of the cleaning grandpa: "Brother, stop making trouble, go home quickly!"

Could it be...

Reality Another slap in the face - the president's brother just happened to be standing behind the old man.

The reversal in the play is still going on, but the result is without exception: the old man has nothing to do with all the executives.

Only then did the subtitles slowly appear on the screen: Miracles rarely happen.

The short film may seem exaggerated, but it is undeniable that many people take chances when applying for jobs.

Imagine that even if you are not capable enough, you can still overtake in other ways.

There were two contestants in a certain talent show.

They claimed to have been street singers, but they were misunderstood and even regarded as beggars.

Despite this, they persisted in their dreams and firmly believed that as long as they did not leave any regrets, that would be enough.

The speech received a lot of applause and also moved the guests present to tears.

Suddenly, judge Han Hong interrupted them: "Have you performed enough?"

Seeing that the two still wanted to refute, Han Hong listed their various experiences.

It turns out that the two have been in the entertainment industry for many years, but they are not strong enough to be remembered by too many people.

Faced with the ironclad fact, the two people had no choice but to walk off the stage amidst the criticism from the audience.

Reality is not like movies and TV dramas. If you blindly take advantage of opportunities, you will often "lose your wife and lose your troops."

If you improve your abilities steadily, it will be easier to create miracles.

When the casting list for "Mulan" came out, many people raised questions:

Why was Liu Yifei, who looked so weak, chosen among more than 5,000 actors?

Disney officially gave the reason.

They once set the following standards for actors playing roles:

Be able to learn martial arts, understand English, and have star appeal.

And Liu Yifei happens to have them all.

The opportunity that seemed to come easily actually came from her years of accumulation.

Beauty blogger Li Jiaqi, known as the "Lipstick Brother", set a sales record of "selling 15,000 lipsticks in 5 minutes."

When asked about his experience, he admitted that he had worked as a cosmetics shopping guide for three years and knew the consumer psychology of women and the characteristics of cosmetics well.

Li Jiaqi talks about sales experience?/"Like the Intelligent Manufacturing Bureau"

Most of the sales miracles he created came from the experience accumulated in the past.

There are no miracles in life. Even if there are, they must be the decoration of strength.

"Miracle is just another name for strength."

At every stage of life, we cannot escape hardship

In our subconscious, life seems to be a There is a turning point, after which the future is smooth.

There are many similar descriptions in movies and TV dramas:

After all the hardships, he and the heroine came together and lived happily ever after.

After struggling to find a job, he has reached the pinnacle of his life.

Even the teachers who taught us in middle school also like to say, "Work hard for three years in high school. If you pass the exam, you will never have to worry about it again."

Talk about "from now on" Edge is a technique we often use to motivate ourselves.

Sometimes, they do serve as a spur.

But more often than not, it has negative consequences.

"China Youth Daily" once conducted a survey and found that 54% of high school students have high expectations for college.

Freedom, romance, relaxation...the imaginary university is like sunshine, taking away a trace of fatigue from their study life.

It’s just that the greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment.

Another set of data shows that among those freshmen, only 0.2% feel that the school fully meets their expectations.

The remaining 99.8% of people were disappointed to varying degrees after enrolling.

The words "It will be easy in the future" are certainly inspirational, but they are not in line with the reality of life.

You cannot escape hardship at every stage, which is the real state of life.

In the Korean drama "Romantic Physique", screenwriter Zhenzhu's work was noticed by a famous writer and he was recruited as an assistant.

She was greatly surprised and vowed to her family that she would become a big shot from now on.

Unexpectedly, reality slapped her in the face soon.

After entering the company, Zhenzhu found that the writer was picky and often scolded his employees. He would be scolded if he was not careful.

Work overtime every day, and even have to carry luggage when going to work.

If you muster up the courage to fight, you can only get pie-like advice from writers.

The gap between fantasy and reality makes it difficult for Zhenzhu to accept.

After working for two years, she finally couldn't bear it any longer and would talk back to the writer from time to time, making the other person unable to step down.

As one can imagine, Zhenzhu was quickly fired.

Although it is just a drama, it truly records the state of mind of some people when they first enter the workplace.

I was hopeful and full of expectations, thinking that I would be able to achieve great things from now on.

Later I discovered that it was just the beginning of another ordeal.

At the opening ceremony of Tsinghua University, Professor Yu Xinjie compared life to a marathon: “Always running, always growing.”

The moment you run very fast, you can’t run fast. The representative was successful.

Only by enduring fatigue and maintaining speed at all times can we win the final championship.

This may also be the true nature of life.

There is no one-and-done shortcut, nor is there a turning point where "it will be easy once you walk through that road."

Keep running and not slack off, this is the normal state of life.

A deeply affectionate person may also be a scumbag

Growing up, I have heard not only chicken soup about life, but also many "famous aphorisms" related to love:

"The person who loves you only has eyes for you."

"Even if you say a word casually, he will remember it in his heart."

After hearing more , it is inevitable to regard this affectionate look as a model of true love.

In the Korean drama "Romantic Physique", Han Zhu met such "true love".

She was once the campus beauty of a university and was regarded as a goddess by many boys.

Whenever she appears at the badminton court or coffee shop, she will be surrounded by boys like stars holding the moon in their arms.

Han Zhu, who is so popular, is now with an ordinary boy.

He has an ordinary appearance and low academic qualifications, but he is very attentive to Han Zhu.

When they first met, he boldly walked up to Han Zhu and asked her seriously about her preferences.

Even if he was rejected, he still persisted: "As long as you answer, I will leave."

Han Zhu replied casually: "A boy who likes to be funny."

He signed up for a comedy troupe and pestered his seniors to learn drama.

Even if he is often reprimanded, he does not care.

Han Zhu was gradually impressed by the boy and secretly went to watch his performance.

The acting is very poor, but there is intention hidden in the eyes, and he even looks a little cute because of his clumsiness.

She believes that the boy is sincere to her.

Not long after, Han Zhu became pregnant unexpectedly.

As a last resort, she had to drop out of school, get married and have children.

Unexpectedly, right after giving birth to the child, the boy filed for divorce.

"This is not the life I want. I want to be happier."

Han Zhu asked in disbelief: What about my happiness? "

"Why do you ask me about your happiness? "

If the first half of the plot describes the beauty of love, here it reveals its true side.

In many chicken soups, "I only have eyes for you", " The feeling of "willing to give everything for you" is pursued as true love.

So much so that many people morally kidnap their partners: If you don't pay for me, does that mean you don't love me anymore?

Excessive devotion can indeed reflect a person's deep affection, but without a sense of responsibility to back it up, deep affection can easily fade away.

Just like the boys in the play, their persistence in pursuing the heroine is indeed. It is sincere, and the determination when abandoning the heroine is also sincere.

If you regard short-term affection as true love, it is easy to misestimate the weight of emotion.

American Psychology. After years of research, Sternberg proposed a very famous theory of love - the triadic theory of love.

It is said that love consists of passion, intimacy and commitment, and each part is indispensable. /p>

There is only intimacy and commitment, and there is no meaning in being together.

There is only passion and intimacy, and the relationship will not last long.

The desperate dedication emphasized in Chicken Soup. Many times it's just out of "passion"

Only when we get along for a long time in the future can we see whether it is true love

Chicken soup is delicious, but it is also poisonous

There is a term in psychology called the "placebo effect"

That is, the treatment given by the doctor is ineffective, but the patient's symptoms are relieved because he believes it is effective.

The poisonous chicken soup flying on the Internet seems to have given us a dose of placebo

It can add a layer of filter to life, making us believe that everything will get better tomorrow.

But the reason why it is called "poisonous" is because people who believe it incorrectly will have hallucinations and blind optimism.

How many people are waiting for love in the illusion created by chicken soup——

"One day, you will meet someone who understands you, and he will not dislike your little things. Temper, accept your willfulness and laziness, and love you without reservation."

As everyone knows, those girls who blindly believe in love and risk everything for love often lose miserably in the end.

How many people fantasize about a little bit of luck in a workplace where they should strive for strength——

“A compliment from your boss is 100 times more important than your hard work: Emotional intelligence in the workplace vs. Hard work is more important!”

But they don’t know that a truly visionary leader will never promote a person who only “flatters” and has no strength.

A lot of chicken soup is just under the banner of optimism, making the current situation worse.

Haruki Murakami once said that novelists are professional lie makers.

In this era of pursuing traffic, the poisonous chicken soup carefully prepared by jokers has deceived many people.

Many of the "poisonous chicken soup" that have received countless clicks are actually just routine sentence patterns and shocking vocabulary.

It does nothing but temporarily numb your pain.

Seeing the cruelty of reality but still loving it is a required course for adults.