Psychological suggestion
From a psychological point of view, it is the psychological process in which individuals exert influence on themselves through language, images, imagination, etc. This concept was first proposed in 1920 by the French physician Coué, who famously said, "Every day I get better and better in every way." Self-suggestion is divided into negative self-suggestion and positive self-suggestion. Positive self-suggestion unconsciously affects our will, psychology and physiological state. Positive self-suggestion allows us to maintain a good mood, optimism and self-confidence, thereby mobilizing people's inner factors and exerting their subjective initiative. . The "Pygmalion effect" in psychology is also called the expectation effect, which is about positive self-suggestion. Negative self-suggestion will strengthen the weaknesses in our personality and awaken our inferiority, cowardice, jealousy, etc. hidden deep in our hearts, thereby affecting our emotions.
At the same time, we can use the guidance and suggestion of language to adjust and relax psychological tension and relieve bad emotions. Psychological experiments have shown that when an individual sits quietly and silently says phrases such as "furious", "thundering", "I'm so angry", the heartbeat will increase and the breathing will speed up, as if he is really angry. On the contrary, if he silently recites sentences such as "smiling", "joyful", "making people happy", then he will also have a happy experience in his heart. It can be seen that verbal activities can arouse people's pleasant experiences as well as unpleasant experiences; they can both cause certain emotional reactions and inhibit certain emotional reactions. Therefore, when we encounter emotional problems in life, we should make full use of the role of language and use internal language or written language to give ourselves hints to relieve bad emotions and maintain psychological balance. For example, meditate or write the following words on paper with a pen: "calm down", "think before you act", "control anger", "calm down", etc. Practice has proven that this kind of suggestion has a wonderful influence and regulation effect on people's bad emotions and behaviors. It can not only relax overly tense emotions, but also be used to motivate oneself.
Attention diversion method
Attention diversion method is a self-regulation method that shifts attention from stimulating situations that cause adverse emotional reactions to other things or other activities. When you are in a bad mood, you should shift your attention to things that interest you, such as: going out for a walk, watching movies, TV, reading, playing ball, playing chess, chatting with friends, changing The environment, etc., can help calm down your emotions and find new happiness in activities. This method, on the one hand, stops the effects of bad stimulation sources and prevents the generalization and spread of bad emotions; on the other hand, it achieves the purpose of enhancing positive emotional experience by participating in new activities, especially activities that interest oneself.
Moderate catharsis method
Excessive suppression will only aggravate emotional distress, while moderate catharsis can release bad emotions, thereby relieving tension and relaxing. Therefore, when encountering bad emotions, the easiest way is to "vent"; venting is usually done behind the scenes, among close friends. This may take the form of using excessive words to criticize, abuse, or complain about the person you are angry with; or you may express your perceived injustices and grievances to your close relatives and friends. Once you have vented your feelings, your mood will calm down; or you may use sports. You can vent your anger through exercise, labor, etc.; or you can go to the open mountains and forests, set a false goal, scream loudly, and vent your grievances. It must be pointed out that when using the cathartic method to regulate your bad emotions, you must strengthen your self-control and do not vent your dissatisfaction or unpleasant emotions casually. You must adopt the correct method and choose the appropriate occasion and object to avoid unexpected adverse consequences.
Self-comfort method
When a person encounters misfortune or setbacks, in order to avoid mental pain or uneasiness, he can find a reason to explain or justify that suits his inner needs. . For example, find a high-sounding reason for failure to comfort yourself, or find a reason to emphasize that everything you have is good, so as to dilute the inner uneasiness and pain. This method is very beneficial in helping people accept reality in the face of major setbacks, protect themselves, and avoid mental breakdown. Therefore, when people encounter emotional problems, they often use words such as "victory and defeat are common in military affairs", "a blessing in disguise", "bad things turn into good things" and other words to comfort themselves, which can get rid of worries, ease conflicts and eliminate conflicts. For the purpose of self-motivation, summarizing experiences and learning lessons from anxiety, depression and disappointment, it helps to maintain emotional peace and stability.
Communication Adjustment Method
Some negative emotions are often caused by interpersonal conflicts and interpersonal communication barriers. Therefore, when we encounter something unpleasant, unsatisfactory, or have troubles, it is much better to take the initiative to socialize and talk to relatives and friends than to be alone, thinking wildly and feeling sorry for ourselves. Therefore, when you are emotionally unstable, finding someone to talk to can have the effect of easing, comforting, and stabilizing your emotions. On the other hand, interpersonal communication also helps to exchange ideas and emotions, enhance one's confidence and courage to overcome bad emotions, and treat bad emotions more rationally.
Emotional sublimation method
Sublimation is to change the motives and desires that are not accepted by society and make them conform to social norms and the requirements of the times. It is a high-level treatment of negative emotions. Catharsis is to guide negative emotions in a direction that is beneficial to others, oneself, and society. Ruyi's classmate was in great pain due to a broken love, but he did not feel depressed because of it. Instead, he turned his attention to studying, determined to be a strong person in life and prove his ability.
If the above methods fail, don’t be discouraged. If possible, go to a psychologist for consultation and talk. With the guidance and help of a psychologist, you can overcome bad emotions.