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Wei Xiaobao went from a brothel to a palace, from a street punk to a "popular" official. He was successful in his youth and prospered in his official career. He was promoted to an official position nearly ten times in a few years after he debuted. Moreover, Xiaobao was mixed with gangsters, was good at eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, and was corrupt. However, Emperor Kangxi doted on him, and his colleagues and superiors not only attached him as a "little hero", but also were not jealous and obedient. He wears many hats, stepping on several boats. Wei Xiaobao's character, I really can't compliment him, but some of his ways of doing things are still worth learning from under the market economy.
Keywords: loyalty, knowing how to play dumb and understand the times
Wei Xiaobao loyalty:
Although Xiao Bao has many bad hobbies: love women, love money, like to show off and gamble, Xiao Bao is loyal. What is "righteousness"? Righteousness is commitment, righteousness is trust, and righteousness is the basis for the survival of Jianghu people. Money can be lost, friends can offend a few, but not all. The circle of friends is to protect the network and human capital. In the dangerous rivers and lakes, they are where Xiaobao lives, and the relationship between friends is "righteousness", that is, "relying on parents at home and friends when going out". Xiao Bao is using friendship to weave a network of relationships for himself. This network has big officials in the palace, and Xiaobao is very intimate with them. There are brothers and friends in the Jianghu. So when Xiao Bao was in trouble, everyone came out to help him. Xiaobao understands that "we can make a living in the Jianghu, steal and kidnap, and nothing will harm us, but we can't offend our friends" and "we have to forgive others." So when he makes a profit, he often gives some to his brothers, and these brothers often help him.
Xiao Bao has a sense of proportion:
He should be self-interested first, and secondly, he should not go too far every time. Xiao Bao is comfortable everywhere, just because he is familiar with the rules of the game. According to his words, "everyone has a mouth to eat." Eating more and eating less can be discussed. In order to eat well, you can also take it by surprise, but you still have to give people food. Although we can't talk about friendship, we should make friends, appropriately expand our circle of friends and expand our human capital.
Wei Xiaobao knows how to play dumb:
A tree attracts the wind. I have read in some books that the author advised some powerful girls to be stupid, just like the heroines in some Taiwanese and Korean dramas. Although they are stupid, they have won the love of many people, and often they can win over smart rivals, because most boys prefer their girlfriends to be stupid, not stronger than themselves. Xiao Bao can play the fool. His best trick is to exaggerate his "illiteracy", which makes him approachable and can calm the inferiority complex of rednecks, or make trouble without reason. In front of Kangxi, he kept saying "Birds give birth to fish soup" (Yao Shunyu soup), "Like a dragon (a tiger) adds wings" and "Nothing can be caught up with" (it's too late to catch up with a horse). After Kangxi came to correct it, he also took the initiative to let Kangxi teach him the background and stories behind idioms, giving leaders enough face and giving them more guidance. It's not good to be stupid blindly. You need to add some explanations and take the opportunity to play. "I'm not as smart as you" doesn't mean "not smart".
Wei Xiaobao knows the times:
"He who knows the times is a wise man". Jin Yong's Ling Huchong didn't want to take the position of Wulin leader, and Zhang Wuji was a mess as a leader, and neither was Chen Jialuo. Xiao Bao was almost elected as the emperor of the Han people by great thinkers such as Gu Yanwu and Huang Lizhou. He also simply, I am no match for Kangxi, I can't do him. Xiaobao can adapt to different environments, which I think is also a manifestation of understanding the times. Xiaobao can adapt to the environment and play with others on different occasions. Jin Yong also said: "The person who is best at adapting to the environment is not necessarily the person with the highest morality. Regrettably, noble people often fail in the competition for survival. " Life is changeable and the social environment is complicated. This requires us to practice the ability to adapt to different environments, and we can be comfortable in various situations.
besides, Wei Xiaobao has the ability to kiss up. "Wear everything, don't wear flattery" is Xiaobao's motto in life. In fact, I think, on some occasions, flattery is what the society now advocates to praise others more. Of course, there is a big difference between the two. Therefore, we should avoid annoying flattery, and praise others with more sincere words, and become real friends with others, instead of being evil friends.
in a word, if you know how to deal with people and stick to the way of dealing with people, you will be comfortable in society and successfully walk through your life.
References: The Duke Of Mount Deer Jin Yong's
"Roasted Wei Xiaobao" and Zhang Zhixiong's
Wei Xiaobao's philosophy of dealing with people
Who is Wei Xiaobao from the cat's eye? The son of Wei Chunhua, a brothel in Yangzhou, his father doesn't even know who it is, let alone himself. However, it is such a street punk who can blend in with the celebrity around Emperor Kangxi, deputy commander of the Xiaoqi Camp, commander of the imperial guards, Count Lu Ding, who is also the master of the heaven and earth society against the Qing Dynasty and regaining sight, the Bailong envoy of the Shenlong Sect who colluded with Russia, the China child in the eyes of Russia, and even more enviable are seven beautiful wives ...
On the surface, Xiao Bao's success mainly lies in: unreasonable troubles. Importune, rhetoric, cunning and clever, but I think the most important thing is loyalty, for Kangxi, for the brothers of Heaven and Earth, even for his wives. On the other hand, it is exquisite to do things in all directions, just as modern leaders often say: "Learn to play the piano", and they are comfortable in the Qing government, Qingmu Hall and Shenlong Church.
For Kangxi, Wei Xiaobao helped him to do seven major things. First, except for Ao Bai, he understood Kangxi's great worries. The second is to bombard Shenlong Island and solve the internal problems of Russia. The third is to expose the fake empress dowager and certify that the palace is peaceful; The fourth is to make a contract with Mongolia and Tibet to avoid Kangxi's worries about playing Wu Sangui; The fifth is to eradicate Wu Sangui; The sixth is to attack the Zheng family in Taiwan Province and successfully recover Taiwan Province; Seventh, sign an agreement with Russia to solve the peace in the north! It can be said that everything is a big thing, and it is not surprising to become Kangxi's confidant.
As an official of the Qing Dynasty, he always used his position as a cover for the Heaven and Earth Society. When Kangxi ordered the killing of the members of the Heaven and Earth Society, he risked his life to save the brothers of the Heaven and Earth Society, and even killed Duo Long, the commander of the Xiaoqi Battalion. When Kangxi asked him to lead the Qing army to kill the Heaven and Earth Society, he would rather stay on a desert island than go out. Of course, when heaven and earth would let him assassinate Kangxi, he always tried to get away with it, which was his loyalty. I just had two feet on both sides, and I didn't please both sides. Finally, I was forced to take my seven wives to Dali to live in seclusion!
To his wife: The first person I met was Mu Jianping, the princess of Muwangfu, who was carried into the palace with a big pig. At the beginning of the juvenile's love affair, the two wives screamed and finally became true wives; Then there is Fang Yi, a woman who lied to him countless times and almost killed him several times. He didn't abandon her, but always treated her well. Then there is Shuang'er, who is good to him. Looking for a wife is like Shuang'er, gentle, kind, smart, cute and beautiful, and Xiaobao will naturally not give up; Princess Channing, the standard fiery woman with a little abnormal taste; Su Quan, the wife of the founder of Shenlong Sect, a woman who was not beautifully dressed, was forced by Wei Xiaobao ...; Ceng Rou, a gentle and beautiful girl, as the name implies; Finally, A Ke, a woman who seems to be the most difficult to handle in Wei Xiaobao's eyes, is the daughter of a generation of beauty Chen Yuanyuan. The beauty makes people bubble in their bones. Xiaobao's classmates will not let go of their death, even if they will kill him as soon as they meet, and there has always been a Zheng Ke-yi in the middle. In this way, he still insists on pursuing it. How many can he do it?
So it's no accident that Wei Xiaobao can reach his point. His loyalty and his improvisation made him successful!