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As the saying goes: "If you have four things at home, your life will be in vain." This sentence is really relevant.

What four things do you have a hard time with at home? There are many opinions. According to the common saying among the people, I think there are four things that affect the life of a family:

A unruly wife, a rebellious son, a profligate man, and it is difficult to cook on the stove. Not to mention all of these four situations, life will be difficult for everyone in the stall.

First, live a life where the husband sings, the wife follows, and the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious. If you marry an unreasonable daughter-in-law, you will inevitably bicker and quarrel all day long, making the neighbors uneasy, and there will be no peace inside and outside. How can you live this day?

Second, there is a treasonous son in the family, beating the father and scolding the mother, but in the end there is no reward at all. It is just raising a white-eyed wolf, and all the hard work of the whole life has been wasted. Isn't the whole life's work in vain?

Third, as the number one grown man in the family, he does not do his job properly. He fails to do big things and does not do small things. He idles around all day and is drunk and dreaming. How can we live in such a family life? If a woman marries such a man, her whole life will be in vain.

Fourth, there was no gas in the past, and cooking and heating relied on stoves. If the stoves did not work well, they would smoke when lighting a fire. The house would be filled with smoke. Food is the most important thing for people, so if this kind of thing happens, life will be very confusing.

Of course, in addition to these four emotions, there are many negative factors that affect family life, such as drug abuse, gambling, love affair with women, violence, etc. As the main member of the family, you will feel that your life is in vain. .

As the saying goes, "If you have four things at home, your life will be in vain." This sentence is very reasonable. Although there are not many words, it is rich in connotation and reflects the wisdom of our ancients. Which four are they?

1. Improper family tradition. Family tradition is a barometer of a family's prosperity and decline, and a good family tradition is a family heirloom. The ancients said: "Morality is passed down for more than ten generations, farming and reading come second, poetry and books come third, and wealth is passed down for no more than three generations." This shows how important family tradition is to the management and development of a family.

Abnormal family tradition mainly means that the family has no integrity, no filial piety, no morals, good food and lazy work, greed for pleasure, selfishness, unscrupulous means to achieve goals, etc. Under the influence of this family tradition, it is difficult for children to become successful. Nowadays, many of our parents blindly spoil their children, causing their children to develop the bad habit of being self-centered, thinking that I am the best in the world, and that the tiger's butt cannot be touched. This is also a typical unhealthy family tradition. Some time ago, it was reported on the Internet that a female teacher was molested by a student. The teacher slapped the student casually. As a result, the parents came to the school to act violently and asked the school to deal with the teacher seriously. This parent did not find the reason from his own child, but died. Hold on to the teacher's "slap". If your child is slapped by a passerby on the street for this behavior, how should you deal with it? How can parents like this educate their children well? There is a saying that "strictness is love, lenience is harm".

2. Discord between husband and wife. If there is a way, the family and everything will be prosperous. There will never be peace in the family if there is discord between husband and wife. Not only will the husband and wife suffer, but it will also affect the children. The harm and impact on the children is huge. The children will grow up without love and lack a harmonious family environment, which will lead to loneliness and low self-esteem. , severe cases can lead to autism and depression, which will kill the child and destroy the hope of the family.

3. Brothers turn against each other. As the saying goes, "Brothers working together can cut through metal" and "Brothers fighting tigers, father and son go into battle." Brothers turn against each other and bully others. This phenomenon is more common in rural areas. Brothers compare themselves with each other. They are always afraid that your family is better, better than mine, or richer than mine, and they will undermine each other and cause internal strife. There are three elderly rural families who belong to three brothers. They are all in their 70s. Their children all work outside. Two are sisters-in-law and one is brother-in-law. Logically speaking, the three of them should huddle together for warmth and keep their guns to the outside. But these three heroes (The old man) took the opposite direction, fought with each other, and did not interact with each other. The mixed wall in front made the only way to the three houses very narrow, and no one from the three houses went to talk, making each trip equivalent to I took the driver's license test once.

4. Engaged in bad habits. Once one of the three bad habits of "pornography, gambling, and drugs" is contracted, there will be no peace in the family. Some people will lose their lives and money, some will lose their wives and children, and some will lose their families. There is such a 30-year-old young man who does not have a serious job, lives by cheating, and does not find a wife. He hangs out in a mahjong parlor all day long. If he has money, he will play a few games. If he has no money, he will wander around there. People who don’t know better think it is A thug hired by a mahjong parlor. With such a person in the family, what hope does the family have?

To sum up, it does make sense that "if a family has four things, a busy life will be in vain". I hope that more families will stay away from these four things, and that every family will have a happy future!

The so-called "if a family has four things, it will be a busy life" means that if a family has four conditions, then the family is designated to be ruined. Even the gold and silver left by the ancestors will sooner or later be ruined. Light.

These four are: unhealthy family tradition, disharmony between husband and wife, quarrels between brothers, and bad habits.

Improper family tradition: Everyone’s character and conduct formed in childhood basically come from the family. If a family does not have a good family tradition education, there is a high probability that the offspring will also be incompetent when they grow up. People who are lazy, greedy and slippery will eat nothing.

Discord between husband and wife: The most important thing in a family is the husband and wife. The so-called harmony makes money. A little stumbling between husband and wife is not a big deal. Just let it go. I am afraid of treating the spouse as an enemy. Complaints against each other, and even domestic violence and murder, not only cause serious internal friction to the family, but also cast a shadow on the young minds of children and affect their lives.

Brothers turn against each other: Brothers who work together can break gold. I believe many people have heard of this saying. Men are the future pillars of the family and the host of the small family under the big family. However, if the distribution is unfair, There is a gap caused by factors such as parents' favoritism and other reasons. Small families are separated from the big family one by one, and they never interact with each other until they die. This is also a huge internal friction for a family.

Being addicted to bad habits: Pornography, gambling, and drugs can easily destroy a family. People may have addictions, but they must not be addicted. Once you fall into these bad habits, the first priority is the loss of money in the family, followed by the breakdown of the family. Father and son, husband and wife, and mother and daughter are hostile to each other. Every day, they are not thinking about how to revitalize the family business, but how to break away from the family.

This proverb talks about how to run a family. In running a family, there are things we are advised to do and things we are advised not to do, that is, there are things we can do and things we should not do.

"If a family has four things, a lifetime of busyness will be in vain" is telling the younger generation what they should not do when running a family. To understand the meaning of the entire saying, we must first understand what the "four things" are?

The so-called "four things" refer to bad habits, antagonism between brothers, disharmony between husband and wife, and lax upbringing. So, the meaning of the whole sentence is: If a family has one or more of the following four situations: bad habits, antagonism between brothers, disharmony between husband and wife, and lax upbringing, it will lead to the decline of the entire family, and this generation or generations will Human efforts are wasted.

Taste it carefully, this saying is full of wisdom. Based on experience, or what we have seen and heard, we can easily understand that one person's bad habits, such as gambling, can destroy the entire family; if a couple is at odds, they are always noisy, ranging from insults to fighting. Such an environment is not conducive to the growth of children, which is equivalent to laying hidden dangers for the future of the family. It is not difficult to explain that brothers turn against each other. If two brothers are at odds and compete for family property, both sides will suffer, and the family will be ruined. If the family is not strict, the family will be ruined. A treacherous son brings trouble to the whole family and has no good consequences.

Therefore, you should remember to implement this proverb left by your predecessors, so that your family can prosper.

In fact, many of our common sayings are life prophecies summarized by our ancestors from generation to generation. They are warnings given to us by the accumulation of life experience. There are four things in a family. A busy life and a prosperous life are similar to the two famous sayings about family management.

When I was sensible, my parents often told me that if these four situations occur in a family, you are destined to achieve nothing in your life. Although my parents often say this, I don’t have to think about it at all. When I get married and start a career, , I realized that what my parents said was absolutely correct.

One: disharmony between husband and wife. As the saying goes, everything will be prosperous if a family is harmonious. If there is disharmony in the family, outsiders will bully them, and if a husband and wife work together, they will break their wealth. This all emphasizes the importance of harmony between husband and wife. We can recall, How did we overcome the difficulties when we were in the most difficult times? Success today is always with us. It must be our lover. Life is like two people driving a boat. The purpose of fighting the wind and waves is nothing more than to reach the other side of happiness. Husband and wife The two of them work together and will succeed despite ups and downs. If a husband and wife share the same bed and have different dreams, and quarrel and quarrel, they may have been buried in the ocean.

Both: Brothers turn against each other. Brothers here generally refers to fratricide and lawsuits. Brothers not only refers to brothers, but also includes sisters. We are born from the same roots, why are we so anxious to fight against each other? Nowadays, people will ignore their flesh and blood and family ties for the sake of small profits. In small cases, they will fight, and in large cases, they will go to court. They will not interact with each other until they die, and their parents will be sad and cry, and outsiders will do nothing. Taking advantage of misfortunes, fanning the flames, scheming among brothers, and burning bridges, how can such a family be invincible? I recall that in the days of the Kuomintang, brothers killed each other, which led to Japanese pirates invading China, raping, killing and plundering. How can we ignore the bloody lessons!

Three: The family has bad habits. What are bad habits? Eating, drinking, whoring, gambling, believing in evil cults, cheating, being lazy, disrespecting parents, teachers, heaven and earth, disobeying laws and disciplines, committing the following crimes, and making trouble.

If a family has such bad habits, if it is not stopped, such a family will soon fall apart, and the disaster of prison will follow like a shadow. Even if the ancestors of such a family leave tens of millions of wealth, they will squander it. Empty.

Fourth: lax upbringing. The bad habits mentioned in the third article just mentioned are caused by lax upbringing. It is the fault of parents who do not raise them well. As a parent, you must be upright, so that your children can Taking you as an example, without a good tutor, even if you are rich and wealthy, your children will squander it all. People nowadays are busy making money and neglect the education of their children. This is putting the cart before the horse. An excellent Boy, his future must be bright.

Everyone is pursuing the happiness of life and family, but if we don’t stay away from these four things, happiness can only be like the moon in the water or the flower in the mirror, which is elusive and out of reach.

Human life is like this.

1. When you are born, you are pure and yang, and there is absolutely nothing related to the so-called four things;

2. The first cry, the first wave of the hand begins to broaden the path of life, Space;

3. The first good and the first evil begin to determine the path of life;

4. When good is satisfied, life will gradually become good; evil is satisfied He began to try evil;

From then on, some people wanted to be good, and some people wanted to do evil. Under the same moral standard, there are always friendly and evil people. This is the norm for society.

The so-called four things are the choices of a family. There is no need to lament why "a family has four things", because it is their choice and it is a material existence.

So how to avoid things we don’t want to see? Everything is in your heart, choose...

As the saying goes: "If you have four things at home, your life will be in vain." What does this mean and what wisdom does it have?

There is a rural saying: "If a family has four things, its life will be in vain." What does it mean? To prosper a family must stay away.

Rural sayings are summed up after years of experience. Some of them still have certain educational significance. "A family with four things is a busy life in vain." "It's hard to get rich" is exactly the opposite. "Family has four things, and it is difficult not to be rich" refers to the family tradition of thrift and thrift, brotherly harmony, filial children, parents who value education, each generation is getting stronger, children love to read, and they are flexible when encountering difficulties. "A family with four things is a busy life in vain" refers to offspring who are extravagant and wasteful, unstable families, offspring with bad habits, and poor family tradition.

1. Descendants who are extravagant and wasteful

Even if they have extravagant and wasteful descendants, they will be ruined by their descendants. I have a classmate whose father opened a business in Shenzhen. I owned a factory with 500 people. I was a very wealthy person in the 1990s, but my classmate was a person who liked to show off. He would take us out to eat and drink when we had nothing to do. Whoever paid the bill would follow whoever was in a hurry. The pay was always 30,000 yuan. After graduation, he worked as a manager in his father's company. He still couldn't change his habit of extravagance and waste. He had luxury cars and beautiful women. During the financial crisis in 2009, the company's funds were cut off and the company collapsed. , his father’s life’s hard work was in vain.

2. An unstable family

Zhang is a well-known capable person in the village. In the 1980s, he had a household worth ten thousand yuan. He was the first person in the village to become rich because he was rich. He was just willful, like when someone took a mistress outside, and his brother told him, he broke his arm. From then on, the brotherhood was broken, the couple divorced, and the son became someone no one cared about. Until 2000, the mistress took his After all the money was defrauded, Zhang refused to accept it and embarked on a criminal path. Is he still in jail?

3. The next generation who is contaminated with bad habits

As long as every family has one next generation who is contaminated with bad habits, the whole family will almost be brought down. When I used to work in Shenzhen, I rented a house. The coworker opposite had a son who was good at eating, drinking, prostitution and gambling. Due to the influence of the family planning policy at that time, each couple could only have one child, and the boy was like a treasure. He had lived a life of opening his mouth for food and stretching his hands for clothes since he was a child. , the son of a worker almost grew up in Honey Pot Grain. When he became an adult, he didn’t want to do anything. He couldn’t afford to lose money. He ate, drank, whored and gambled all day long. If he didn’t have money, he would ask for it from his workers, and if he didn’t give it, he would beat the adults. Can a family get better with a son like this? Later I left Shenzhen, not knowing what the outcome would be.

4. Bad family tradition

The quality of family tradition directly affects the prosperity and decline of a family. There was a family in the village with 5 boys. In the 1980s, in the village He is still very powerful and often fights with the villagers. Because there are many children, they often cannot fill their stomachs. The children develop the habit of stealing. Every time they steal things back, the villagers go to the house and tell them. If the words are good, the parents will scold them. As a child, if you open your mouth and curse, you may be beaten. From then on, it will be left in the child's heart that he is not afraid of stealing things and is protected by his parents. In such a family tradition, three of the five children will be in prison when they grow up. They are regular customers, come and go frequently, and have not married a wife. Now their family is the poorest family in the village. Due to their criminal record, they cannot even qualify for the subsistence allowance.

On the contrary, there is a family in the village with three daughters. They have attached great importance to education since childhood, and all of them have been admitted to college. Now they all live in the city and enjoy happiness?

Families in rural areas have the above four things. No matter how hard they work, their life is in vain. The most important thing is to have a harmonious family, loving husband and wife, and motivated offspring to succeed in life. of.

The ancient proverb still has a lot of important educational significance even in today's society. "If a family has four things, a life will be in vain." The counterpart is "If a family has four things, it will not be rich." It’s all difficult. “If you have four things at home, it’s difficult even if you’re not rich. It refers to the family tradition of diligence and frugality, harmony between brothers, filial piety of children, and parents paying attention to education. The next generation of children will be stronger than the previous generation. Children love to read and know how to adapt when encountering difficulties. ②With four things in the family, life is very busy. It refers to extravagant and wasteful family traditions, unstable families, the next generation contaminated with bad habits, and bad family traditions.

Extravagant family tradition

The next generation contaminated with bad habits

Family disharmony

Bad family tradition

< p>I think what you mean is similar to "A family has four things, and it will perish if it is not broken down." It mainly refers to four kinds of bad family traditions, or it is a kind of weathervane that will lead to family failure and decline.

Family in the modern sense refers to the social living unit composed of relatives based on marriage, blood or adoption relationships, with emotions as ties. But in a historical sense, there are some changes from ancient times, but they are still similar, and the ancient customs and charms also exist.

From the perspective of family tradition construction, these four forms are worthy of vigilance.

First, the family tradition is not strict. For example: Yan Song was a high-ranking official with high authority, but he made big mistakes in educating his children. His son Yan Shifan can be said to be excellent in literary talent and strategy. Thanks to his father's protection, his official career is also prosperous. However, they were both insatiable greedy men, with the same insidiousness and cunning. In the end, not only did they fail to pass on the family business, but they ended up with their family ruined.

The second is discord between husband and wife. If husband and wife get along harmoniously, the family atmosphere must be full of love and righteousness, and children can grow up in a harmonious atmosphere. If a couple curses or even fights all day long over trivial matters in life, it cannot be said that their child is necessarily bad, but such a disharmonious family relationship will indeed cause changes in the child's heart, making it easier for the child to develop extreme personalities such as being withdrawn, surly, and rebellious. Appear. If it develops to the point where the couple part ways, no matter how they make up for it, the love the children receive from their parents will ultimately be incomplete, and their growth will also be flawed.

The third is the feud between brothers. For example: Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty, worked hard to govern throughout his life, wearing night clothes and eating late at night, creating the "Government of Zhenguan". Despite this, he is most criticized for killing his own brothers and removing them from his family tree.

The fourth is to be contaminated with bad habits. For example: pornography, gambling, drugs, alcoholism, etc. Although alcohol is a bridge to enhance relationships, it is also a "poison" in the intestines. Especially alcoholics, while causing harm to their own bodies, they often also do things that harm their loved ones, An act that hurts the family. Examples abound.