First of all, we must learn to be confident. In this competitive society, women who feel sorry for themselves and are weak and helpless have gradually lost their market. Men are no longer the masters of women, and women are no longer men’s vassals. The famous saying "The ultimate pursuit of men is success, and the ultimate pursuit of women is happiness" is increasingly eclipsed. It is always most important for women to learn to save themselves and improve themselves. It is always passive and unsafe to long for a man to give you happiness. Before a young female reporter joined the ranks of reporters, she was just an ordinary young farm girl. After she failed in the college entrance examination, she refused to be depressed, studied hard, and came to a major newspaper to recommend herself to be a reporter. I split my salary and made a living by writing manuscripts. Over the years, she became a well-known reporter. Men appreciate optimistic and confident women. There are more self-reliant women in this world, and the mental pressure on men will be less. Moreover, if a man can live his life with a woman who is not only satisfied with food and clothing, life will never become stale, nor will life deteriorate. Secondly, we must learn to be noble. The nobility of a woman does not mean that she must be born into a wealthy family or have a prominent position. The nobility here refers to the nobility of mentality. Men are most disgusted by women who are loose, frivolous, and have a wretched mentality. In life, men can be women's guardians, but women themselves must provide men with a kind of confidence - this kind of confidence makes men feel at ease and is willing to entrust you with love. The master in Xiao Dumas' "La Traviata" falls in love with the maid just because the woman who is the maid is noble and full of femininity. Such women often give men confidence and courage in life, because there is a kind of human charm in their lives that purifies men's hearts and inspires men's fighting spirit. Modern women must not be kitsch, blindly obedient, or ostentatious. Naturally, they must have this kind of noble temperament that makes men appreciate them more. The third thing is to be kind and understanding. The kindness mentioned here refers to nothing more than a woman’s tenderness. But here it is better to change tenderness to kindness. Of course men like women's tenderness, because women's tenderness can warm a man's soul. However, tenderness sometimes seems to be a kind of unprincipled love. A woman's love for a man who is not worthy of her tenderness is, to a certain extent, fulfilling the man's sin. Love should be moderate and be kind. Therefore, a good woman only needs to be kind to a man. Women love too much, but men don't know how to cherish them. In this era, men are no longer accustomed to being fixed in a small living room, so women should learn to adjust themselves and not be trapped by love blindly, so that feelings replace all of life. Smart and optimistic women can often try to make their hearts understandable and let love move towards solidity and eternity in a kind of plainness. Sometimes when you look at feelings in a relaxed way, it is actually the best way to grasp it. An intellectual woman, she loves her husband deeply, but when she loves her husband, she also does not forget to cherish herself. Her husband is away on business all year round, but their relationship is very harmonious and there has never been the slightest crack. Someone asked: Aren't you worried that he is looking for flowers and willows outside? The lady replied: My love with him has always been equal. From the day I accepted his love, I gave him trust. I loved him but was not harsh on him. I wanted him to be successful and perfect, but I never mortgaged everything on him. What am I worried about? Sometimes when you look at feelings in a relaxed way, it is actually the best way to grasp it. Some women put themselves in a position of begging for affection from the beginning. The root of the tragedy is often here: If you are not confident in yourself, how can others value you? Men are often like this: if you value him too much, it means that he can easily dominate your feelings and happiness! At this point you lose first. Therefore, relationships are most concerned with respect and equality... Needless to say, men will naturally feel cute about a woman who is insightful and thoughtful. Because when a man falls in love with a woman, he does not want to lose his own world under the constraints of love. Men care about the tacit understanding, tolerance and understanding of love. Because this kind of love does not prevent men from venturing into life with physical and mental release - after all, in the eyes of men, love does not represent the whole of life. Fourth, be assertive in doing things. Psychologists analyze that women often have emotions that trump reason, and the same applies to friendships, careers, and marriages. This is a fatal weakness that hinders women's development. A working girl in Shenzhen, while other working girls have lost themselves in the impetuousness and prosperity of modern cities, she still maintains her true nature as a pure farm girl. In her dormitory, almost all the other girls have made boyfriends, but she is the only one who is still a "single noble". She told a girlfriend in her hometown that I would not like men from Shenzhen because my roots are not there. I came out just to earn some money, some to send to my family, and some to keep for myself to buy a dowry. Of course I want to find a boyfriend in the future, but I will go home and find a decent man. Some of my sisters are unwilling to be blue-collar workers on the assembly line and rack their brains to become sugar daddies. Can they be happy forever? I just want to work hard to make money, and then go home and live a peaceful life... Undoubtedly, this kind of independent woman who can clearly examine herself based on reality is also a lovely woman in the eyes of men.