It will last a lifetime. Jung said that a person's lifelong efforts are to integrate his personality that has been formed since childhood.

There is a saying, "Happy people use their childhood to heal their whole lives, and unfortunate people use their whole life to heal their childhood." The term "original family" is currently extremely popular, and there are a large number of emotional and variety shows on the market, including psychological ones. No. 1, all kinds of families of origin are brought out to make trouble. It seems to be saying that the reason why you don't have a satisfactory life is because of your family of origin, which is the culprit.

As the saying goes, dragons give birth to dragons and phoenixes, and mice’s children can dig holes. It seems that you should just accept your fate. No matter how hard you try, you can't escape that fate no matter how hard your family of origin is. However, we have also heard a saying, that is, "Before the age of 30, your appearance was given by your parents. After the age of 30, you The appearance is shaped by oneself."

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"The heart is like a cage, and there are cages everywhere." The original family is like a prison called Shawshank, as shown in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption." "", most of the prisoners were not used to that environment at first and desperately wanted to get out on bail. Later, like the old cow who was slowly beaten in Wang Xiaobo's novel, they got used to life within the system and gave up the idea of ??struggling. .

Similarly, if you think that your native family is too bad, subconsciously you don’t believe that you can escape from that prison. I have no sense of value, I feel that I am not important at all, I am not worthy of being loved, I am full of powerlessness, and I cannot see the hope of life.

However, there is always someone who is "Andy" in the film. He tells us, "Some birds cannot be caged, and their whole bodies are shining with the brilliance of freedom." No matter what a person lives in the world, No matter what situation you encounter, you should never give up hope, because it is the most wonderful thing in the world.

There was a story in a documentary before, about a pair of brothers who grew up together. They had an alcoholic and a poor father. They were from the same original family. Twenty years later, the two people’s Life encounters turned out to be completely different. The elder brother became a multi-millionaire through his own efforts, while the younger brother is still poor and cynical.

Facing the camera in the documentary, the elder brother and younger brother said in unison, "There is no way, who told me to have a father like that?" The same sentence and answer give people different feelings, inner The strength is also different. It can be seen that the influence of the original family is not unchangeable, but depends on how you look at it.

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