Deep down, I am very resistant to causing trouble to others (probably related to family education). Whether I am a stranger or a family member, I don't want to "trouble" others with what I can do, so I always keep my distance and humility from many people carefully. Maybe this is one of the reasons why I can't "expand" my contacts, haha.
There are two reasons why you don't want to cause trouble to others. First, you pay great attention to other people's feelings and feel comfortable. Then when you think that others may feel uncomfortable, you will feel uncomfortable and have others in your heart. The second level is to pay attention to what others think of you. When you give others trouble, others' opinions and comments on you become very important. In the final analysis, this is also a very self-expression, because what I want from others is the evaluation of "I am a very independent and capable person", so I try not to cause trouble to others.
Therefore, my view on this debate is that "not disturbing others" is a virtue, independence is self-control and respect for others, but it is also stupid. You don't know that "human feelings are trouble", that "bothering others is essentially a kind of cooperation", and that you pay too much attention to yourself, which is stupid.
The following are the wonderful contestants who entered this issue:
Viewpoint: People get along with each other in daily life. Many times our friendship and fetters are established by giving each other trouble and solving each other's troubles.
This view was put forward by Xin Qiji and discussed repeatedly in different ways:
Ma Weiwei explained this view in another way. She said:
I think Victor Gu Chian Peow put it better when he said:
Xu explained more specifically that these two societies are Japanese and China:
Ha ha ha ha!
Viewpoint: Not disturbing others is the mother and foundation of all virtues.
Argument: She said that honesty and modesty are well-known virtues, and the goal of these virtues is "not to cause trouble to others."
For example:
Such as static baby's argument method is very interesting. Although it sounds far-fetched, there is nothing wrong with it! Put your point into a well-known argument that doesn't need to be proved, such as "honesty is a virtue", and then as long as it is proved that "honesty doesn't cause trouble to others", "don't cause trouble to others" is also a virtue. Put the opinions that have been recognized and don't need to be proved into the subset of her own opinions, and then her own opinions will be established, just as "honesty" she said is actually a subset of "not disturbing others"
1. Not giving others trouble is an advantage, not a virtue. Virtue is essentially a social contract;
2. Is it the difference in ability to give or not to cause trouble to others:
This argument is absolutely poisonous and describes the struggle of many people, including me, about "causing trouble to others" Of course, we don't want to cause trouble to others, let alone ourselves, but when we are in trouble, we very much pray for others to help us solve it.
In view of Ma Weiwei's view that "not giving others trouble is the difference in ability", Cai Kangyong refuted it in a questioning way. Let me restore the scene and let everyone experience the "superb" way of speaking:
Cai Kangyong came from the right, and his surprise attack returned to his point of view. It is a virtue not to cause trouble to others.
1, he thinks that "not causing trouble to others" is essentially a kind of cooperation. I gave you trouble, and you gave me trouble. In essence, we have completed the cooperation;
2. There are already many lists of virtues. Be careful when you put "don't cause trouble to others" in it, because it may not conform to the basic wisdom of human society, because one of the basic wisdom of human beings is "cooperation" and "learning to ask for help"
Finally, Luo Pang ended his argument instantly with two wonderful comparisons. Great!
Think about why you are so afraid of "causing trouble to others". Many times, you don't know how to "ask for help" or "cooperate", largely because parents and their older generation taught us the same thing. If you think that "causing trouble to others" is actually a kind of cooperation and a kind of human relationship, then boldly "trouble"; If you still think that "not disturbing others" is a virtue, then you should be more independent and self-controlled, depending on how you know, choose and do it!