In 1926, on the Valentine's Day of the Chinese Valentine's Day, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman got married. Liang Qichao, as the witness, gave this speech:

Xu Zhimo, you have such a temperament. Impetuous, so there is no achievement in learning.

Both of you have been divorced and remarried, both of whom are not professional in their feelings.

In the future, you must repent and start a new life.

May this be the last time you get married.

The wedding speeches are all blessings to the newlyweds, and this paragraph is obviously used to humiliate the two of them.

Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman’s wedding

Why did Liang Qichao say such things at his student’s wedding?

What is hidden behind this short marriage testimony is the love and hatred between Xu Zhimo, a talented man of the Republic of China, and three women.

In October 1915, Xu Zhimo, who had just turned eighteen, ushered in his first marriage in his life. Arranged by the family, she married Zhang Youyi, the daughter of the well-matched wealthy businessman Zhang Runzhi.

The reason why Xu Zhimo married Zhang Youyi was to obey his parents' orders, carry on the Xu family's lineage, and continue the family tradition. This marriage had nothing to do with love, but was just a helpless union between two young people.

Soon after the marriage, Zhang Youyi became pregnant and gave birth to a child. After completing the mission, Xu Zhimo decided to study abroad.

While studying in the UK, due to the influence of the bourgeois aristocratic culture and the romantic literary trend, Xu Zhimo became a romantic poet with the style of a British aristocratic gentleman.

Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo

His poetry emphasizes romance. Of course, marriage cannot be fettered by secular concepts. At this time, he was far away from his wife at home, so he naturally became unscrupulous and began to pursue love. Really beautiful love.

In 1921, Xu Zhimo, who was already a father, secretly fell in love with Lin Huiyin, a talented girl who was also studying in London.

Lin Huiyin was only 16 years old at this time. Lin Huiyin was attracted by Xu Zhimo's romantic atmosphere, gentlemanly demeanor and poetic talent.

From then on, Lin Huiyin fell in love with poetry, and Xu Zhimo was also deeply attracted by this innocent girl who had just begun to fall in love. He also wrote many love poems for this "Sister Lin".

In this way, Xu Zhimo, who was in love with another person, filed for divorce from his first wife Zhang Youyi in March of the same year. Zhang Youyi was already two months pregnant at the time. Faced with her husband's unkindness, she did not want to spend more time. He said that he resolutely agreed to divorce.

Zhang Youyi and her family

The next year, Zhang Youyi gave birth to her second son Peter. Soon after, she signed a divorce with Xu Zhimo, ending a marriage that was wrong from the beginning.

After that, this strong woman wandered in a foreign country alone with her children.

In 1925, her beloved son Peter passed away, and Zhang Youyi was heartbroken. After returning to China, she took her eldest son with the help of her family to study, work, and start a business. She worked hard all by herself to raise the child.

Until 1953, she married doctor Su Jizhi in Hong Kong and spent eighteen years together. After Dr. Su's death, she moved to the United States.

After Zhang Youyi was abandoned by Xu Zhimo, she continued to take care of Xu Zhimo's parents and fulfill her filial piety. She has the traditional fine qualities of a Chinese woman.

Perhaps because of this perseverance, she had the best ending among the three women. She lived to the age of 88 and passed away happily with her children and grandchildren.

Lin Huiyin

After divorcing Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo returned to China in 1922 and kept in correspondence with Lin Huiyin. He wrote many courtship and even marriage proposals to Lin Huiyin, but they were all rejected. Father Lin flatly refused.

By chance, Xu Zhimo was invited to his home by his friend Wang Geng, an army colonel. In this way, he met Lu Xiaoman, who was already a married woman.

Although he still loves Lin Huiyin, it is undeniable that Xu Zhimo, who has always pursued romance, was attracted by Lu Xiaoman's delicate face and all kinds of charming gestures.

Because Wang Geng is very professional and works most of the time, he cannot spare time to accompany Lu Xiaoman. Moreover, Wang Geng is an upright person, speaks straightforwardly and does not know how to be romantic.

This gave Xu Zhimo, a gentleman and romantic "good friend", many opportunities to be alone with Lu Xiaoman.

Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo

A talented man and a talented woman, both of whom can write and draw, share the same interests, secretly fall in love with each other, and gradually cross the line in their behavior, until finally, in one fell swoop out of hand.

In order to be with Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman decided to divorce Wang Geng.

At this time, Lu Xiaoman was still pregnant with Wang Geng's child, but in order to be with Xu Zhimo, she ruthlessly aborted the child.

And the tragedy of her life also kicked off from here.

Later, the two finally overcame numerous obstacles and prepared to get married.

Initially Xu Zhimo invited Liang Qichao to witness his marriage, but Liang Qichao was determined not to attend.

But Xu Zhimo invited Hu Shi for help, and finally decided to attend after Hu Shi's repeated invitations. Then there was the scene where the mentor Liang Qichao witnessed the marriage and disrupted the situation.

As a teacher, Liang Qichao has a conservative mind and cannot accept the couple's lack of specificity in their relationship. He hopes to use this method to make his students return to their lost ways.

Does Xu Zhimo really love Lu Xiaoman? If it was true love, would he not hesitate to let Lu Xiaoman abort his child and harm his body to marry him?

This kind of love is too selfish.

So, Lu Xiaoman is also a woman blinded by love. For Xu Zhimo, she did not hesitate to divorce her husband Wang Geng and aborted her own child. The poor and hateful woman hurt herself and destroyed her home with her own hands.

However, does Xu Zhimo really love Lin Huiyin?

Maybe it is love, but his love is too narrow and too shallow. If he truly loves someone, no matter where the other person lives, he hopes that she can live happily for the rest of his life, not when he has already married. Finally, he tried to disturb her life, which was also a sign of irresponsibility for his family.

Thankfully, Lin Huiyin is the only one who has not been harmed among all the women who have had emotional experiences with Xu Zhimo.