Unforgettable friendship
I have been in contact with my sisters recently, and I am very happy! Remember drifting to the first stop after leaving home a few years ago?
I checked in for the first time in 304. At that time, everyone misunderstood that I was a lady My fifth sister was still scared, but I showed my true colors that night. Am I crazy? At first, I didn't talk much because I wasn't familiar with it, so I looked very quiet. Hey, hey, I lied to you, didn't I?
The first person I met in the dormitory was Sanjie, who had packed up, sat on the bed and talked to me from time to time. Now that I think about it, it seems like yesterday? When studying in the dining hall at night, it is often the two of us hiding in the dormitory to chat and sleep. I still skip self-study now. The difference is that I am the only one.
Sister Liu, Ghost Six, haha, haven't called for a long time? "Langsha, not just attracting; Fortunately, so confident? " Our laughter, our everything? It's so beautiful, but it's a pity that it can't be caught again? One year of high school is the time I want to look back most. It dances and freezes in my memory.
Sister, Pepsi, Jay Chou? What I listened to most seriously was Chrysanthemum Terrace. I once sang myself to tears, do you remember? Hehe, it was childish at that time. I am always so happy and carefree when I am with you? But how did it pass so quickly? Now I just miss it.
Sister Qi, are you not feeling well now? I dare not ask, for fear of affecting you.
Room friendship
In our life, time spent studying at school is especially precious. We came to this world and met different people at different times. They may become life-and-death friends with us, or they may just be nodding acquaintances with us. But no matter how we meet, it is indispensable, because these are the parts that make up our lives. Therefore, I cherish everyone I meet. They add gorgeous colors to my life. Everyone says that college time is the fastest and most unforgettable. This is the final preparation before entering the society. What happened in college is fresh in people's memory.
I especially yearned for campus life in high school. From books, TV and movies, you can always see all kinds of interesting things happening on campus. It was not until we really entered the university that we found that the original university was different from what we imagined. The plot in the film is beautified, and it is precisely because of great hope that there is an obvious gap when seeing reality. Although college life is far from what I expected before, I am glad that I have had many experiences that I didn't know before. I haven't lived in school, so I don't know what my roommate is like. College taught me how to get along with people. Let me know all kinds of people. There may be sadness and sadness along the way, but there is also a lot of joy and happiness. My roommates come from all over the country.
The world is so big, we are just a drop in the ocean. The world is so small that we can meet like this. Everyone has his own personality, just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, no matter how similar people are, they are different after all. Because of local differences, we may be different in all aspects of our diet. Fortunately, we all cherish this hard-won room friendship. Seeking common ground while reserving differences may be our mode of getting along. It is precisely because everyone is an independent individual that we accept differences.
At home, it doesn't matter how crazy and noisy we are, because we know in our hearts that parents will never blame themselves. Living with roommates, we will restrain our small temper and put ourselves in the other's shoes. Learn how to get along better with roommates. Being together for a long time will cause friction more or less. Sometimes I don't like other people's behavior, but I can't say it, for fear of destroying the friendship between rooms. But real roommates don't need to be careful. Say what you want to say, point out what you don't like, and express it in a way that the other person can accept. This feeling can be deeper. You know, in school days, roommates are the people who spend the most time with us. Eat, go to class and sleep in the same room. So we should be relatives, help each other and support each other. I am lucky because my roommates are very tolerant of me. I know I have a bad temper and I am always forgetful and confused, but they didn't abandon me.
I don't know about other people's roommates, but I know my roommate is the best. Maybe after graduation, we will go our separate ways and go in different directions for our dreams. But in my heart, roommates are for life. If you are in trouble, I will try my best to help you. If you get happiness, I will be equally happy. Because of you, my college life is full of color.
A deep understanding of making friends
Without friends, the world will become unlovable. Who doesn't understand friendship, who can't live. The best thing in life is friendship with others. Once a person gains friendship, difficulties and pains will be doubled, and happiness and happiness will also be doubled. These are some famous aphorisms about friendship. Many roots are not easy to turn over, and many friends are not easy to fall over. Roots absorb nutrients easily, and friends get help easily. Friends are backers, friends are courage, and friends are strength. Friends hate less when they use it, but enemies hate more when they are on the defensive. These are my feelings about the importance of making friends. It is important to make friends, but never promiscuous. The result of promiscuity is not only useless, but also harmful. Most of the reasons for promiscuity are because I don't know the principles and methods of making friends. The following is mainly the author's understanding of the principles and methods of making friends, and also introduces some other problems about making friends.
Many friends are not necessarily good.
As the saying goes, "many friends, many roads." The more friends you make, the better. I think this statement is inappropriate. Because: First, the more friends with bad conduct, the worse, which will make your road less and less. Second, communication can make friends and enemies.
Make friends with the right family.
In the past, marriage was about being suitable. I think making friends should also pay attention to the right family. The meaning here is: like-minded, equal personality. Because equal amount can be exchanged, equality can be exchanged. Unequal friends are not real friends, and their "friendship" cannot last long. Without the pursuit of * * *, it is difficult to have a language with * * *. Only when we are truly like-minded, can we truly appreciate, understand, care and support. Understanding is mutual, so is not understanding. It is also appropriate for people with similar smells to turn bad smells into incense.
Basic principles of making friends
Transparent people like it, sincere people love it. Things are clean and people like them, while people are pure and people love them. Only sincerity can make many friends. Look at loyalty first when employing people, and look at virtue first when making friends. The slippery road is hard to walk, and the skater is hard to trust. No one wants to live in a dangerous house, and no one wants to make cunning friends. Quality is important in shopping, and morality is important in making friends. Husband and wife are loyal, and friends are loyal. The unfaithful fox looks at the chicken, and the dishonest wolf looks at the sheep. It is the greatest regret in life to give the most sincere heart to the unintentional person and the most affectionate feeling to the heartless person. Making a friend with bad morals is like planting a time bomb beside you. Therefore, when we make friends, remember to put morality first. This is the basic principle of making friends. Only when you know the meaning of words can you use it flexibly, and only when you know the virtue can you make friends. I would rather have no friends than make friends without virtue.
Principle of neither superior nor inferior
Being neither humble nor supercilious is the principle of being a man, and it is also the principle of making friends. We need friendship, but we can't bow our heads to beg for it, nor can we bow our heads to maintain it. Of course, you can't pretend to be a big brother and be condescending. A true friend is a like-minded brother, neither respectful nor humble, neither expensive nor cheap. Hard work is not sweet, but strong friends are dangerous. Strong business is easy to lose money, and strong friends are easy to be deceived.
Look at people with heart
Only by looking with your heart can you see people's hearts. The human heart is the essence of human beings. The essence of ordinary things is hard to find, let alone the essence of people (morality)? The understanding of essence is a rational understanding. The acquisition of perceptual knowledge needs the senses, and the acquisition of rational knowledge needs a clever brain? Mind.
Making friends is heart-to-heart
Only when the heart is close can the body be close. The heart is close at hand, and the heart is far away. Making friends is making friends. True friends are mainly the intersection of hearts. If the hearts can't intersect, there will be no strong adhesion in other aspects, and the so-called friendship will not last long.
Great things depend on people's hearts.
Small things see people, big things see people's hearts, no big things you can't see the true colors of some friends. Because, generally speaking, he can do well in small things, and he will be a coward when he has to take responsibility and take risks in big things. Such a friend is not really a friend, or a "second-class" friend. Therefore, great events are the "touchstone" to verify true and false friends.
Time reveals a person's heart.
If you want to see far, you must stand tall, if you want to see clearly, you must stand close. You don't have to know the pros and cons of things, you don't know the ups and downs without eating, and you don't know the pros and cons without paying. If you don't read, you can't understand. However, really understanding a person can't be accomplished through short-term communication. The solution of a book should be compiled a hundred times, read once and handed in a hundred times. The more books you read, the more sober you will be. You know, some people are good at "selling dog meat by hanging sheep's head". Therefore, our sages taught us very early: the power of horses is known from a distance, and it is known from a long time.
Make friends in peacetime.
Where there is no going, there is no coming. If there is no giving, there is no pity. If you don't spend, you won't get it. You can't get it if you don't go. Don't blame others for not coming today, only yourself for not going yesterday. Buy goods when you need them and leave them to your friends when you don't use them. We don't build roads at ordinary times, so we have no choice but to walk.
Treasure our friendship
The thread of friendship is not easy to cut, not to mention it is not easy to connect, even if it is connected again, it will leave a knot. Wounds heal easily, but scars are difficult to heal. A good tree is difficult to cultivate, but a friendly friendship is difficult to maintain. The flowers of love need to be watered with love from time to time, and the grass of friendship needs to be moistened with friendship from time to time. So we should cherish the flower of friendship carefully. How to cherish? The following points should be noted:
First, attach importance to friendship. Better lose my money than my feelings, rather lose my money than my righteousness. Lovers focus on love, while friends focus on friendship. Honesty can be bought and trust can be won. Trees are afraid of hurting their roots, and people are afraid of being sad. Love is more important than gold, and righteousness is more important than silver. Only when the friendship between friends is very important can they maintain a permanent friendship without hurting each other's hearts.
Second, blame yourself. Shoes that fit perfectly are hard to buy, and friends that are very desirable are hard to find. Things should look at the advantages, people should look at the advantages. It is a panacea to solve all contradictions among the people to examine their own shortcomings, reflect on themselves and appreciate the advantages of others.
Third, get rid of misunderstandings as soon as possible. Friends turn against each other, mostly because of misunderstanding. If the knot of misunderstanding is not untied early, it can only be pulled tighter and tighter, and the more difficult it is to solve. How unworthy it is to turn against each other for misunderstanding!
Learn to look at people
It is sad to regard friends as enemies, and it is hateful to regard enemies as friends. Treat friends as enemies, and there will be fewer and fewer friends and more and more enemies. Glass is not crystal, and acquaintances are not friends. Words can't be used indiscriminately, and people can't be confused. Therefore, you must be careful when making friends. The following are some experiences in distinguishing people's strengths and weaknesses:
First, look at people objectively. Capable people often treat the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain. Honest people often treat the hearts of villains with the belly of a gentleman. We shouldn't guess other people's hearts with our own, otherwise it's easy to see the wrong person and make bad friends.
Second, fickle people are unreliable. Cars are afraid of bumping up and down, and people are afraid of fluctuations. Fickle things are unreliable, and fickle people are unreliable.
Third, rhetoric is not good. Sugar-coated drugs are often difficult to swallow, and sweet words are often difficult to pay. Flattery is not beautiful, and words are not good.
Fourth, it is difficult to pay attention to money. People who value money too much don't recognize people, and people who care too much about money don't care about their faces. Money is more important than family, and greed will forget righteousness.
A wolf's friend is also a wolf. It is difficult to find a phoenix among chickens and a camel among sheep. It is also a wolf who makes friends with wolves, and it is also a snake who makes friends with snakes. The friend of a wolf must be cruel, and the friend of a snake must be poisonous.
Sixth, snobs are not good people. People who are in favor of the situation will inevitably have swollen lower eyelids and will only look up. People who call you grandpa easily when they need it will call you grandson immediately when they don't.
Seven, fair-weather friends are not friends. Wine and meat friends have wine and meat, and no wine and meat are passers-by.
Eight, straightforward people are more honest. The road is straight and the road is near, and people are straight and sincere.
People who help you are not necessarily good people. Those who make you laugh are not necessarily friends, and those who make you cry are not necessarily enemies. Not all the people who help you when you are in trouble are out of good intentions, and some people have ulterior motives.
Friends can be bad.
Things? Do you want to prevent it from getting worse over time, my friend? If you don't pay for a long time, you should guard against change. Many people may have encountered such a thing: a "good friend" who has not seen you for years suddenly appeared in front of you and said that he was in great financial difficulties and needed a lot of money urgently. At this time, you miss the old friendship and try your best to help him. But your money is like a meat bun beating a dog? Never look back. Later, when I asked, I realized that my former friends had already gone from good to bad, completely different.
Face friends and enemies calmly.
Things are easy to collide when they are close, and people are easy to contradict when they are close. When you become friends, the closer you get, the more contacts in all aspects, and the more conflicts of interest. Besides, there will be many misunderstandings. Also, I crossed friends. So many friends eventually became "enemies".
A friend who turns his face says that the other person is not a friend enough. At this time, it will make him very angry. So how to comfort yourself? Think of it this way: the rabbit is eager to eat grass near the nest, and the dog is eager to bite its master. Spending money does not necessarily lead to income, and kindness does not necessarily lead to good results. Don't think too much about the ruthlessness of others, but think too much about your own clear conscience. Anger has no good face and anger has no good words. Kindness to the wicked often leads to harm, and honesty to the treacherous often leads to deception. Only by giving good to good people can we get good results. In the same boat, there are storms, there is no smoke without fire. Knowing friends increases friendship, knowing enemies is not angry.
Get along with ordinary friends
According to the distance, friends can be divided into several types. Intimate friends are the closest friends, followed by ordinary friends, accounting for the vast majority. Not far, not close, not easy to refute. Treat ordinary friends, don't associate too deeply, too deep will easily lead to contradictions. Keeping a certain communication distance is more conducive to maintaining a good general friend relationship.
Early bad friends
The sooner the unsafe factors are eliminated, the better. Similarly, the sooner friends with bad morals break up, the better. Loyalty should be given to those who have a heart, sincerity to those who have faith, and affection to those who have righteousness. Don't be afraid to offend a friend with bad character. The sooner you offend him, the sooner you can break up with him. Otherwise, if you pay one more day, you will add one more day of trouble to yourself and bring one more day of trouble.
A friend is not a bosom friend.
A bosom friend has a heart to heart, and an acquaintance has a mouth. An acquaintance is not necessarily a friend, and a friend is not necessarily a confidant. Friends are easy to get, but bosom friends are hard to find. Giving thoughtful words to people who don't understand can only make people steal their hearts and make themselves sad. The most difficult thing for people is true feelings, and the most difficult thing for people to meet is bosom friends. Friends who talk about everything are mutual, and you are not the only one who talks about everything.
Don't indulge your friends.
Unprincipled friendship is not true friendship, but connivance. True friends not only appreciate, but also care about supervision, well-meaning criticism, timely reminders and so on. , not hello and me. Indulge in your own failures and friends' bad behavior. An accommodating friend is not a real friend.
Not jealous of friends
A true friend, what you have is what I have. One side raises the trophy and the other side hugs and shakes hands. Never ignore it, never bow your head and leave. Old classmates and good friends for decades are jealous and envious when they see that the other party is better than themselves in some aspects, which is very inappropriate. Jealousy is like lighting a fire between friends, baking others, and baking yourself, which is purely harmful to others. What is a good friend? A good friend should be: the other person dances when he is happy and tears when he is sad.
Eyes can only be bright when the heart is clear. I hope everyone can look at people with heart, make friends with heart and make more intimate friends!
Besides missing, I still miss.
High school has the most sincere friendship. Everyone treats each other sincerely. Let's share the joy, fight for high school and miss high school together?
Every class in high school is absent, and the teacher knocks on the table: Get up, everyone who sleeps. ?
I miss everyone chatting around the table. Talk about state affairs, gossip in class, and relationships between men and women. ?
I miss sleeping behind a tall pile of books in class, or hiding behind a pile of books and taking pictures with a mirror. I miss chatting with my classmates in class and being forgotten by teacher K.
I miss seeing the girl I like standing at the door of the classroom and forgetting to discuss the topic with my classmates.
I miss the days when my school and friends went to Internet cafes after self-study. We once joined the single bubble pavilion to challenge crossing the line of fire there! Miss every basketball court on campus, and miss the life of going directly to the classroom after playing basketball every time! ?
Miss the lawn in front of the boys' dormitory.
I miss the joy of coming to school in the rain after staying up all night, except for missing.
Sometimes I even miss the teachers and class teachers I hated in high school. They imprison our freedom, measure our value by scores, and often wake us up when we sleep at our desks in class. I even have an idea that I will go out to work without saying hello to them in the future, but I miss them very much at this moment. ?
Think of the lovely Chinese teacher YQL, although she sometimes criticizes us, but we are bored all day! But think about it, is everyone okay?
And the cool geography teacher DCH who rides a bike all day. He is lame when he walks, but his class is very good! We don't know much about him, but we still want him to be happy. ?
Now think about it, our English teacher Lao Yao always thought it was my misfortune that made him teach. Now think about it, it should be his misfortune that the English teacher teaches students like us. I hope he can smile more now, instead of pulling a long face all day. ?
Of course, there is a lovely history teacher, who has always found his history class very interesting. It was just abandoned to enjoy life! Lovely. How is he now? He should be very happy now. ?
At that time, there was JZW, a political teacher and head teacher who regarded him as an enemy. His youthful spirit contradicts our rebellious thoughts. We have always regarded him as an enemy who killed his father, and even some classmates fought with him. Now think about how naive we were then. We used to look down on you in the list of "excellent teachers", but now we feel fine, nothing! ?
Now think about it, I was really happy at that time, piled up in the pile of "books" all day. Although I am bored, I feel very happy now. Although nervous, but very substantial, especially the kind of relationship between classmates, very pure. I remember hearing a sentence before, there are two kinds of relationships in a person's life, very pure and iron, one is a comrade-in-arms and the other is a high school classmate. ?
I am a person who doesn't like to recall the past, and I never like to go back to the past. I have been living in the present and looking forward to tomorrow, but high school is a big exception. If you give me another chance, I want to go back to the past?
Classmate, are you okay?
More than two years have passed in an instant, and now I often think of the situation in high school at that time. I am unrestrained, free and easy, no pressure, no hard work, just happy, and time has passed. Now that I think about it, I don't know whether I regret it or I am glad that my life has come to the present. I wonder if you are all right now. I really want to talk together and tell the story at that time.
We all come together for the same ideal, and then go our separate ways for different goals. We come from different directions, different places and different families, but we are like sisters.
In my mind, she is a very kind girl, very sensible, very steady, very cute and good at dealing with people. We have known each other since the third day of school. Up to now, our classmates' friendship is still so good. From the day we met, we never doubted her, quarreled or contradicted her. I feel very intimate and help each other together. No matter how difficult it is, we have made rapid progress in our studies, which is also the envy of other students. I learned a lot from her, I learned patience, I learned maturity, I learned consideration, I learned to help others, I learned to cherish everything. Maybe we come from different families. On this basis, I deepened the management. Really.
I still remember that at that time, our head teacher, Mr. Xiong, asked us to write a weekly diary. At that time, we didn't know what to write, and the pens were all bitten off, so we just talked casually. Now think about it, we write almost every day. I am a nostalgic person, and I will not show my feelings easily. These words have never been said. Laughing on the surface, but hiding a lot of words in my heart. If someone asks me what kind of personality I am, I will definitely tell them that I am a dual personality, occasionally quiet and occasionally lively. We all have the same characteristics, hobbies and even spiritual understanding.
The school is so big and there are so many people I know, but in the end it is her who deserves to be remembered. At night, in the dead of night, a person is used to lying in bed with earplugs, silently thinking about those people and things that are most worth missing.
Time has diluted the years, and we have all grown up and have our own future. Students who have been with the window, are you all right? We used to live under the same roof, and this friendship is deeper than the sea. Dawn? Forever in my heart
Now I finally know that there is a kind of friendship that can overcome the love between men and women. Do you know Mao Zedong's two sons? Knowing the story of the two brothers, you will know what is affection and friendship. We may have been a family in our last life, but we will never forget it in this life. No matter where she is, I will sincerely bless her. I don't know when, when we will have a chance to meet again. Time is not distance, distance keeps friendship, and friendship cannot be separated from missing.
Dear classmates, you must take good care of yourself. If you have the opportunity to meet again, you must recall the past over and over again to find and cherish those lost memories.