This is a romantic and beautiful wish, playing the piano and singing harmoniously, and growing old together.
However, things are unpredictable, and we all hope to rely on the support of husband and wife for the rest of our lives, but in the end, there are too few people who can stay with us forever.
It is said that people are separated. Even if I stay with my wife all my life, I dare not say that I fully understand each other.
Many Chinese couples stumble all their lives. When they were young, they lived in forbearance for the sake of their families, children and their own face. Even if there were contradictions between them, it was only to maintain the integrity of their families.
When children retire as adults, they will feel that their responsibilities have been fulfilled. At this time, many old couples can't live any longer and don't want to wronged themselves.
Or the relationship between husband and wife is really good, and they could have taken care of each other all their lives, but as long as one of them is sick and needs the care of another person, problems will arise.
Both husband and wife are no longer young people, and it is not easy to take care of themselves. They need to take care of another patient. This kind of work is unbearable for an old man.
Moreover, it is the same for couples who have no filial sons in front of their beds for a long time. He can take care of you for two years a year, but who is confident that his other half can take care of himself for five years and ten years without complaining?
So when you are old, don't overestimate the people next to you. This is not to say that a partner is not good, but that people sometimes need to see some reality clearly. No one is a saint. When the role changes, you may not be able to treat your spouse wholeheartedly.
So what do people really rely on when they are old? In fact, these two points are the most critical.
A healthy body is the most important thing. No matter how good your lover is to you, how filial your children are, and how strong your financial strength is, if you don't have a healthy body, everything is equal to zero.
A lot of things, if they don't happen to you, you will have no sense of reality.
When I was young, fighting for my career and family meant forgetting my body. I always feel young and healthy, and hard work is nothing.
But the body is the fairest, just like a bank. You have been overdrawing and demanding, but you have not given a rest. You may not have known it when you were young. When you are older, all the debts you owe your body will be paid off.
Remember Yu Juan, a female doctor from Fudan University? She is a typical intellectual group. When she was young, she was too busy with scientific research and work to pay attention to her health. As a result, she was warned by her body before she was old.
When she was ill, all her achievements became a thing of the past. The only thing she wants is to spend more years with her family and spend more time with her relatives, but even this requirement can't be met. Finally, she left an elaborate anti-cancer diary:
"At the critical point of life and death, you will find that you stay up late to work overtime, put too much pressure on yourself, buy a house and buy a car, and so on. , are all floating clouds.
Spend more time with your children and buy a pair of shoes for your parents when you have time. Don't try your best to change a big house. If you are with the person you love, you will be very happy in your humble abode. "
So no matter when, you can really rely on your healthy body. Don't risk your body for tomorrow, so you won't even have tomorrow.
How important is it to have a stable income after losing the ability to work? It is no exaggeration to say that you can have independent economic ability, which is equivalent to your dignity as a human being.
Some old people, after losing their ability to take care of themselves, must be taken care of by special people. At this time, children are usually taking care of them. If there are multiple children, families usually take turns.
However, in life, there are often some unfilial children who don't want to support the elderly. Some of them can't keep up with their financial ability, while others have no confidence.
Either way, there is no guarantee for the elderly in their later years.
However, if you have money or a fixed pension, the situation is completely different. Although family ties can't be measured by money, it must be said that many times when you have money, you have confidence and more choices. Even your own children will see this very realistically.
If you have money, you can not only take care of yourself, but also help them, and they will naturally be more active towards you.
On the contrary, without money and pension, it will easily become their burden. Even if they don't say it, they will inevitably have complaints in their hearts. Otherwise, how can there be a saying that there is no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed?
In the final analysis, when a person is old, what is really reliable is himself. When you are healthy and have money and leisure, you will naturally live extremely comfortably. So from now on, save money and love yourself.
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