It is too easy for us to view life as a linear, forward, upward process. But life is precisely a spiral, with advances and retreats, and twists and turns. Therefore, enjoying a life without answers may not be an elegant and noble undertaking. ——Herne Manny
The development of anything is not a straight line. Smart people can see the curve in the straight and the straight in the curve, and seize the opportunity to grasp the laws of the circuitous development of things and respond to changes through circuitous changes. , in order to achieve the set goals.
There is a wonderful Zen poem from the Southern and Northern Dynasties: "Planting green rice seedlings in the field with your hands, you can see the sky in the water when you lower your head. The pure heart is the way, and retreat is actually forward."
A few words, but a lot of meaning. "Retreating turns out to be moving forward." While planting the rice seedlings, he retreated at the same time. When he retreated to the end, the rice seedlings were also planted. It looks like it's going backwards, but it's actually going forward.
In life, when encountering dissatisfaction, we should bow our heads and stick to the beliefs in our hearts. Even if the outside world thinks that we are regressing, we don’t need to waver. Stick to the beliefs in our hearts. Retrograde is actually forward.
There are relevant famous sayings in "Tao Te Ching Chapter 22": The crooked one is complete, the wrong one is straight, the hollow one is full, the weak one is new, the few is gained, and the many are confused. It means: bending can be preserved, but being compressed can straighten it; depressions can be filled up, withering can be renewed; singleness can be obtained, and multiplicity can be confusing.
To understand in connection with life and career, grievance and preservation, patience and exertion are reflected in the development of the timeline and in a person's mental tempering.
In terms of time development. This idea is also found in "The Book of Changes". For example, in the Qian hexagram, the first line says, "Ninth day of the lunar month: Hidden Dragon, do not use it." Let's see, even a divine creature like a dragon, which is the strongest and most yang, is in a latent state in the initial stage, and cannot function at this time. In fact, it may be in the stage of grievance and patience.
For the same reason, in the last hexagram of the Book of Changes, the Weiji hexagram, it also says, "The little fox wets its tail with water. There is no profit." The little fox wants to cross the river, but it still gets wet. If the tail is missing, there is a danger of drowning, and there is no benefit in sight. This is just like the stage of being an entrepreneur. You have to be patient and cautious about many things, and "take the easy way out". Only then will you have the opportunity to display your talents and ambitions.
To put it simply, sometimes you cannot achieve your goal directly, so you must learn to use the strategy of using detours to get straight. Just like when we are driving and there is a traffic jam in front of us, we can only take a detour. Learning to make detours does not mean that we have no principles, but that we use another method to realize our principles.
A well-known host interviewed Mr. Zhou Youguang and asked him what is the secret of life?
Zhou Youguang said: "Think openly about everything and look forward."
The host joked: "What should I do if I can't look away and let go of my obsession?"
< p> Zhou Youguang smiled and said: "You just turned a corner, you just want to open it up!"Life is like a book, you can only read the next page after turning one page.
Sometimes, it’s not that there is no improvement in life, but that one’s own concerns and obsessions are too deep.
Some people say: The road of life is nothing more than two things, moving forward and turning.
Life is never perfect, life is about giving and taking.
In the final analysis: people still have to fulfill themselves.
There is such a story.
A wise man and his apprentice went down the mountain together. The wise man asked the apprentice: "If you take one step forward and you die, and if you take one step back and you die, what should you do?"
The apprentice said without hesitation : "I'll go to the side."
Many times, the tip of the iceberg and the twists and turns are just in a thought.
Liang Qichao once said: "Change will lead to success, and generality will last."
There are many roads to ultimate success, and it is not necessary to stick to one road.
Only those who know how to turn can find the way out. When your heart changes, the road under your feet will also change.
In this life, don’t compete with yourself, learn to reconcile with life.
Turning a corner at the right time may lead to a different world.
People traveling far away, if there are high mountains blocking the road or stumbling blocks, will naturally find ways to go around them, or use their brains to find another way. When this approach is applied to the world of human beings, it means going in circles to achieve the goal. In other words, don’t follow a straight line but follow a curve.
Some things cannot be said directly, so they have to be said in a roundabout way; some people are not easy to get close to, so it is indispensable to clear the way over the mountains and build bridges when meeting the water; To find out the details; sometimes in order to make the other party less hostile and relax their vigilance, we will make detours, go around in circles, or even use the roundabout tactic of "looking around and talking about it" to trap them.
Many people in life are "straightforward" and "one-sided", and in life they "don't look back until they hit the wall", and even ten bulls can't pull them back. Such people should learn some detours to make their brains have more grooves, their intestines have more twists and turns, and their nerves have more endings.
It can be said that if you don’t know how to do things in a different way, you may not only fail to achieve your goals, but you will easily get yourself into trouble. Therefore, we might as well start from another side and come up with a "curve to save the country."
Duke Jin of Qi in the Spring and Autumn Period was another Ming lord after Duke Huan of Qi. At that time, he was assisted by a famous politician in history - Yan Ying, which is what we usually call Yan Zi.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Qi Jinggong liked to raise birds. He asked his minister Zhu Zou to take care of a bird. Zhu Zou was not careful and the bird flew away. Qi Jinggong was angry and wanted to kill Zhu Zou.
When Yanzi, the Prime Minister of Qi State, knew about it, he said: Okay, kill this guy Zhuzou to apologize to the king. Before killing him, I will rebuke his crimes in front of the king and let him die. Have to rest in peace. Yanzi ordered people to tie up Zhu Zou and accuse him of three crimes.
Firstly, you let the king's bird fly; secondly, you let the king's bird fly, causing the king to kill someone for a bird; thirdly, it doesn't matter if you die, but for the king If word spreads about killing a bird, the kings and citizens of other vassal states will laugh at us, the king of Qi, who values ??a bird more than a human life. Doesn’t this ruin the reputation of the king?
Based on these three conditions, Zhu Zou deserves to be killed. Qi Jinggong laughed when he heard this and said, "Let him go quickly, I understand." This is the wisdom of Yanzi's "Qu Zequan".
Here, Yanzi used the strategy of "saving the country through curves". At this time, Qi Jingzheng was furious. If he tried to persuade him directly, not only would he not achieve the desired effect, but he would also be implicated. If you argue with reason, it may add fuel to the fire. Therefore, it is better to follow Qi Jinggong's temper first, and then let Qi Jinggong know the consequences of executing people in his way. That is to say, Qi Jinggong realized his mistake.
In 1216 AD, Genghis Khan summoned Guo Baoyu, a Han surrender general, and asked him how to conquer the Central Plains and unify the world. Guo replied: "The power of the Central Plains is great and cannot be ignored. The southwestern vassals are brave enough to fight droughts, so it is better to take them first, and use them to make money, and they will surely achieve their ambitions." Guo's lofty remarks undoubtedly inspired the "generation of geniuses" .
Therefore, before his death, Genghis Khan, with superhuman courage and courage, proposed to use the feud between the Southern Song Dynasty and the Jin Dynasty to carry out a strategic detour through the Song Dynasty, thereby destroying the Jin Dynasty and the Song Dynasty in one fell swoop. strategic decisions. This outstanding strategic concept was later put into practice by his sons Ogedai, Tuo Lei, Meng Ge, Kublai Khan and others.
In 1244 AD, according to Genghis Khan's strategic concept during his lifetime, the Mongolian army began to implement the first great detour strategy of "first going to the southwest and encircling the Southern Song Dynasty". That is to say, they avoided the Yangtze River defense line in the Southern Song Dynasty, first captured Sichuan and Yunnan, and then attacked Xiangfan, an important town in the middle and lower reaches of the Yangtze River from the rear. For this reason, while attacking Sichuan, the Mongolian army sent another force to attack Dali from Lijiang on the upper reaches of the Jinsha River, in an attempt to bypass Yunnan and reach southern Sichuan.
In 1253 AD, Kublai Khan raised 100,000 troops to begin his second major roundabout strategy against the Southern Song Dynasty. The Mongolian army first entered the Tibetan area through Linzhao, and then divided its troops into three groups to march towards Dali. In December of the same year, three armies joined forces to attack and Dali City was defeated. The invincible Mongolian army galloping across a vast area of ??millions of square kilometers was truly a spectacle of war in the thirteenth century.
There is no doubt that the war space created by Genghis Khan’s successors is unprecedented in history.
Zeng Guofan, a famous official in the late Qing Dynasty, the founder and commander-in-chief of the Hunan Army. He cultivates his moral integrity, governs with loyalty, and is well versed in officialdom. He is known as "the pioneer of China's modernization construction."
Some experts have refined Zeng Guofan's summary of the way of life into "the golden mean, both Taoism and skill, forgiveness makes you invincible, and detours are straight!"
The advantage of using detours is that they can paralyze others. When it is neglected for a moment, take advantage of it and capture it. This is a classic, efficient and creative strategy.
Everyone must know the name of Lord Mengchang. He was from a prominent family in Qi State and had served as prime minister several times. He was a powerful figure in Qi State at that time. He also had many followers, but even this Lord Mengchang ran into trouble once. Once, he had a disagreement with King Qi Min. In anger, he resigned from his position as prime minister and returned to his fief Xue.
Xuedi is just a small land. At this time, the state of Chu, which was adjacent to Xue, was eyeing to attack Xue. This put Mengchangjun in a dilemma. Because with Xue's strength, it was impossible to compete with Chu, and the only way was to ask Qi for help. But he had just fallen out with King Min, and he was embarrassed to ask him. Even if he went, he was afraid that King Min wouldn't agree. At this time, Chunyu Kun, the official of Qi State, happened to come to visit. On the order of King Min, he went to Chu to negotiate state affairs and stopped by on his way home. Lord Mengchang was overjoyed when he learned about it, because Chunyu Kun was talented, often served the princes, and had a close relationship with the Qi royal family. I also have a close relationship with myself, so God has really helped me come here this time.
So he went to the outside of the city to welcome him in person and held a banquet in honor of him.
Lord Mengchang did not hide it, he spoke out and asked Chunyu Kun to come forward to save him. The other party answered very simply and agreed to help him.
Let us say that after Chunyu Kun returned to Qi, he met King Nong. After meeting King Min, he did not mention the matter of rescuing Xue. King Min asked him what was happening in Chu State now. Chunyu Kun replied: "Things are very bad. The Chu State is too stubborn and relies on its own strength to bully the weak. And what about Xue? He doesn't overestimate his own abilities..."
When King Min heard this, he asked again casually : "What happened to Xue?"
Chunyu Kun said: "Xue did not have a correct understanding of his own power and had no foresight. He built a temple to worship his ancestors and it was large in scale, but he did not Considering that I have no ability to protect it, I don't know what the consequences will be if the Chu army attacks this temple, so I say that Xue Zi is overestimating his capabilities and Chu is too stubborn."
King Min was shocked:" It turns out that Xue has such a big temple." He immediately ordered troops to be sent to rescue Xue. Guarding and protecting the temples of our ancestors is the greatest obligation of monarchs of all countries. Therefore, at this time, King Min also forgot about his personal grudges with Lord Mengchang. From beginning to end, Chunyu Kun never mentioned rescuing Xue, but in the end he achieved his goal and ordered King Hun to send troops by himself. Saving the temple means saving Xue, and saving Xue means saving Lord Mengchang. Chunyu Kun used this method to achieve his goal. The method was so high that it has to be admired.
In the first year of Shunzhi (1644), after the Qing Dynasty moved its capital to Beijing, the regent Dorgon began to make strategic arrangements to unify the country by force. The military situation at that time was: the peasant army Li Zicheng and Zhang Xianzhong had more than 400,000 troops; the newly established Hongguang regime of the Southern Ming Dynasty gathered troops from towns south of the Yangtze River and Huaihe River, with no less than 500,000 troops, and dominated the natural dangers of the Yangtze River; The Qing army numbered only 200,000 people. If they were to fight many opponents in the vast hinterland of the Central Plains, the Qing army would obviously have insufficient strength. Moreover, at the beginning of the capital move, people's hearts were unstable, which could lead to a situation where they were concerned about one thing and not the other.
Dorgon sized up the situation and wittily and flexibly adopted a strategy of using detours instead of directness. He first showed softness to the Nanming regime and concentrated his efforts on attacking the peasant army. As expected, the Nanming authorities relaxed their vigilance. Instead of resisting the Qing troops, they sent envoys carrying large amounts of gold and silver to Beijing to negotiate with the Qing court and sue for peace. In this way, Dorgon took the initiative both politically and militarily.
In July of the first year of Shunzhi, Dorgon made great progress in attacking the peasant army, and the rear became more stable. At this time, Dorgon believed that the time had come to finally eliminate the Ming Dynasty, so he launched an attack on Nanming. When the Qing army's high-pressure policies and atrocities in the south were thwarted, Dorgon used detours to straighten things out and sent Hong Chengchou, a surrendered general from the Ming Dynasty and a Han scholar, to appease the south of the Yangtze River. In the fifth year of Shunzhi (1648), Dorgon basically achieved the Qing Dynasty's rule across the country with his strategy and courage.
When we encounter similar situations in life, we might as well learn to use more detour strategies, which will often achieve better results.
In the Internet age, people’s reading is fragmented, entertainment-oriented, and superficial.
I don’t want to read if it’s too long, if it’s not stimulating, or if it’s mentally taxing, I gradually lose the patience to read the whole book and lose the ability to read in depth.
Please think about it, how many books have you read completely recently? Primary and middle school students are still in the period of spiritual lactation, which is when they need to read more to absorb spiritual nourishment. If a person's reading ability is shrinking, his spirit will also shrink with it.
The Chinese language test questions that cause headaches for most primary and secondary school students are also designed around the core of "reading". For example, comprehensive learning test questions mostly require students to conduct exploratory research on designated materials. read. To some extent, reading ability is equal to test-taking ability. Reading more is the fundamental way to improve your test-taking ability. Look at the Chinese language masters around you, which one has risen to the top by not reading more? Some people say that graduating students are too busy to finish their homework, so how can they have time to study?
Reading is a roundabout strategy. The more books you read, the easier it will be to take various exams.
While you are still young, read a few more books, which will help you prepare for exams and make achievements throughout your life.
As the saying goes: "Change will lead to success, and generality will last." In the face of some things that cannot be solved for the time being, we should learn to be flexible and not be stubborn. If one way doesn't work, we should find another way. If there is a better opportunity, seize it as soon as possible. You cannot go all the way. Life is not static. Sometimes when we turn around, we will find that there are opportunities hidden behind us, but we were in a hurry and ignored those beautiful things.
When we usually solve mathematical problems, we usually start from the front, that is, starting from the known conditions and reaching conclusions through correct reasoning and operations. But sometimes only thinking from the front will get blocked and put the problem into trouble. At this time, if you think in reverse, you can often get enlightenment and achieve unexpected results.
For example, one of the obvious characteristics of the college entrance examination questions is that "it is easy to get in, but it is difficult to get out." When solving the college entrance examination questions, knowledge and ability are important, but examination technology is also indispensable. Therefore, one technique in solving segmented college entrance examination questions is segmented scoring.
① Decompose step by step - missing step solution: When you encounter a difficult problem that you really can’t solve, a wise strategy is to decompose it into a series of sub-problems. , solve part of the problem first, and reflect this situation, maybe it will have the effect of "a bright light in the dark", that is to say, in the college entrance examination answer, you can do as many steps as you want, and express it to the extent that you can solve it. Finally, Although you cannot get full points, you can always get partial points.
② Retreat in order to advance --- Retreat in order to solve the problem: "Retreat in order to advance" is an important problem-solving strategy. If we cannot solve the problem we are facing immediately, then we can go from general to special, From abstract to concrete, from complex to simple, from the whole to the parts, from a stronger conclusion to a weaker conclusion, in short, to a problem that can be solved. This is called "taking a step back, and the sky will be brighter".
③If it is difficult to go forward, do the opposite---The backward step is called "to do the opposite if it is difficult to go forward". It is also an important problem-solving strategy. When there is difficulty in reasoning forward, use reverse reasoning. When there is difficulty in direct proof, prove it from insights. , push from the left when it is difficult to push from the right, and when the conditions are difficult to start from the conclusion, this way of death is called reverse thinking, and the effect is very good.
④Clear the periphery---auxiliary answers: A complete answer to a question must have both main substantive steps and auxiliary steps. If the substantive steps cannot be found, look for auxiliary answers. Steps are also wise, and time is even essential. The content of auxiliary answers is very wide, such as accurate drawing, conditional translation, etc.
⑤Bold guess-answer seriously: Guessing is a kind of ability. In the end, there is really no way and no way to start during the solidification process. You might as well use guessing to "advance to attack and defend completely, and retreat to score points step by step." ".
When solving problems, you often encounter this phenomenon: starting from the known conditions and continuing to think about it, you may fall into a problem-solving dilemma due to many "misdirected paths". In this case, you might as well change the direction of your thinking. , think about it backwards, maybe your eyes will light up.
Someone once said that there are three days in life, today, tomorrow and yesterday.
People who live in yesterday are sad, people who live in tomorrow are frivolous, and only those who live in today are the most practical.
In this case, you might as well not pay too much attention to the gains and losses in life.
In life, there are no obstacles that cannot be overcome, only corners that cannot be turned.
Only by following the trend and being flexible can you see another blue sky.
Life is not about the end of the road, but about the turn.
Many times, as long as we look back a little or think from another angle, we will have unexpected results. Life is like a game of chess, with advances and retreats, twists and turns, and you can win only if you play with your heart.