There is not a painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is not a person that is not discussed by others. If you are silent, someone will accuse you of being "shrewd"; If you are good at talking, someone will accuse you of "bragging"; If you praise others, someone will accuse you of "ulterior motives"; If you criticize yourself in good faith, some people will be furious and think they are "meddling".
Just look at other people's faces, you can't live, you have yourself, you are not limited to yourself.
Good mood is created by yourself.
We often can't change other people's opinions, but only we can. The bad life lies not in the sins of others, but in our bad mood. The golden key to a better life is not in the hands of others. Give up our resentment and sigh, and a better life will be within reach. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, objectively, we have not lived a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives.
Don't expect to change others and be the master of your own life.
My heart pain can only be cured by myself.
Why do you want to lose your present mood for painful regret? It is also necessary to vent your grievances once in a while. But endless complaining will only increase troubles and let others see their incompetence. Complaining is a fatal negative state of mind. Once one's complaining becomes a bad habit, one's life will be dark, not only one's good mood will be gone, but others will also be unlucky. It's no use complaining, optimism is the most important thing.
Don't always embarrass yourself.
Learning to appreciate yourself means having the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not narcissism, xenophobia, narcissism, nor complacency ... give yourself a little confidence, give yourself a little happiness and give yourself a smile. Why worry about unhappy life? !
Always give yourself a vacation and learn to find a happy mood.
Be careful not to live too tired.
People often sigh that living is really tiring. Tired, it is mental stress; Being tired is a heavy psychological burden. Tired and not tired are always relative. If you want not to be tired, you must learn to relax. Life is to relax. Mental fatigue makes people fall into sub-health state for a long time; A tired heart will make you depressed.
Don't be too tired, learn to release yourself.
Everyone has his own way of life.
I know my own pain, my own sadness and my own happiness. Maybe the hell in my own eyes is the existence in the eyes of others; Maybe the heaven in your own eyes is the hell in others' eyes. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring scenery is in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your own mentality.
Living your own life is the most important thing.
See the world with kindness.
Clear water makes no fish, while people look at it without friends. We can't tolerate the shortcomings of others everywhere, so everyone becomes a "bad guy" and can't live in peace. Look at the world with "evil" eyes, and the world is broken everywhere; Looking at the world with a "good" eye, there is always something lovely in the world. The more you look at other people's merits, the cuter you will look.
All saints should "save myself three times a day" and be tolerant of each other.
What's done is done. You must go with the flow.
It's no use regretting your previous behavior after uncooked rice is cooked. The only wise thing to do is to deal with the later things properly and not to make things worse. The spilled water can't be collected, and the wood carved into a ship can't be restored to its original state. Knowing these simple truths, we can calmly deal with the remaining problems.
Regret is no good, don't make things worse.
The important thing is to live a full life.
Living well every day is the greatest happiness, and happiness comes from being in a good mood every day. Always worried about the risks of tomorrow, always unable to erase the shadow of yesterday, how can today's life be satisfactory? Always compare those who can't be compared, always fantasize about those who can't be realized, how can today's mind be quiet? Anything unrealistic is the source of pain, and the biggest killer in life is sadness and anxiety.
Pain comes from not being full. If you live a full life, you won't think about it.
Might as well put aside your troubles for a while.
Life is too short to live happily. It is normal to have troubles, but it is not normal to have no troubles. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go to a movie, listen to a piece of music, sing a song, make a phone call and enjoy the sunshine. ...
To hell with your troubles, have fun first.
The foundation of happiness lies in oneself.
Ordinary people always pin their happiness in life on external things and attach themselves to secular identity. All aspects pay attention to status, property, treatment, reputation and other things. Once you lose these things, it will be a heavy blow, you will often feel pain, and your happiness and happiness foundation will be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is far from us.
Why do you want others to evaluate your happiness and grasp yourself?
Feeling happy is happiness.
Many people are deliberately pursuing so-called happiness; Some people get it, but the price is huge. Many philosophers have said that happiness is a feeling, just like "Buddha" in your heart and mine. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, which is closely related to people's mood and mentality. The sages said: The harder you work, the deeper you love, the happier you are, and the harder you think. A person always feels unhappy, which is his greatest sorrow.
Happiness is a feeling. If you are not satisfied, you will never be happy.
"Overcome it" makes you happy.
"Do the cause of joining the WTO with the spirit of being born", a famous saying that combines the essence of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism, makes people more cheerful, open and detached. "Dead brain" is always associated with the word "crazy", and its main crux lies in entering a dead end. "Flexibility" is always associated with the word "wisdom", mainly because it is still taking a step back. Taoism's "retreat for progress" and Laozi's "Tao always does nothing" are really great wisdom in life! Excerpted from the short message book. com
What's hard to think about? There is retreat and progress, and you can bend and stretch.
The most important thing is today's heart
Why lose your present mood for painful regrets, and why worry about inexplicable worries all the time? The past is gone forever, and it's no use regretting. The future is still out of reach, no matter how worried you are, you will be sad. Today's thoughts, today's events, and today's people are all real and feel good. Of course, it is wise to sum up past experience and guard against future risks.
Yesterday has passed, but tomorrow hasn't come yet. Today is real.
You won't fail, even a grass must have its reason. Judging from what you said, you are still very motivated. Your parents haven't given up on you. How can you give up on yourself first? Ignore the opinions of passers-by, just be yourself, why live in other people's world? Even if the whole world denies you and gives you up, you can't give up on yourself. Come on! I wish you come out of the shadows!