The life feeling of gain and loss 1 has never been obtained, how can it be lost?

Never lost, how can you get it?

Walking on the Long Bridge in Gusu City

Despite the heavy traffic, it seems like a lifetime ago.

Who will take me out of this fantastic city?

Who made me forget the famous saying about perseverance in my life in this city?

Why?

Walking in the old streets of Hailing City

The mood is clear, although people are clamoring for it.

Who brought me into this epic city?

Who let me know about this city?

Why?

Walking on Dongguan Street in Yangzhou

Fate reincarnation, although things are different.

Who brought me back to my hometown, a picturesque city?

Who made me never leave this city again?

Why?

In Yun Qi, the moon can fly.

Origin, how many years have you been in your heart?

In secret, follow the footsteps

The rest becomes memories, and so on.

The city has become a city for one person.

What you can't forget, what you know, and what you don't leave have become the path you have taken and are no longer important.

Fortunately, everyone is happy, fortunately, everything is fine.

What flows away is time, what stays in my heart is memory, and what grows up is years, no longer following, no longer demanding, and everything is in fate.

wait for

Wait, my city

Wait, my home.

Never lost, how can you get it?

Never get it, how can you lose it?

The gain and loss of life experience are actually the same thing, as the saying goes: "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise." . This is the dialectical theory of what is lost and recovered, and it is also the "color is empty, and empty is color" in Heart Sutra. "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise" is an allegorical story, including "Huainanzi? Human training. This shows Laozi's view that "misfortune is a blessing, and happiness is a blessing". The pain of loss makes people extremely happy. How can they see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain? Only after the storm did I think the rainbow was so beautiful!

After watching the stock market for a long time, the story of wealth is more exciting than in the movie. Looking at the broke broker, he made millions in a wave of market, and also saw the trader who once said that his tens of millions of property lost 100 thousand, and got hundreds of millions of bonuses in the new market. That person is still that person, and the story has been rewritten because of the changes in the market.

The real winners are actually those who are indomitable and strong. There are also those who seem to be smooth sailing at the moment, but only experience ups and downs in the back. Look at the ups and downs of many people in the stock market for ten years, which shows the ups and downs of life. Everything is constantly developing and changing. Good things and bad things, the opposite sides of this contradiction, are transformed into their own opposite directions under certain conditions. This is the need for a good attitude: facing the loss is just like facing it.

The creator of wealth seldom boasts. They face success as calmly and soberly as they face failure. However, some people with less than half a bottle brag about their self-realization every day. Recently, I saw an operator who didn't make any money in the second half of the year on the Internet, boasting that he escaped from the peak in the market six years ago. I really don't know what to say, but I can only say: live in the present and have a normal mentality. Success and failure are natural and normal results.

Lost the opportunity to make money, but got the comfort of no money, which may be the basis for the brave people to brag mentioned above. Why don't I appreciate his boasting? Probably, I value "gain" more than "loss". The problem now is to adjust yourself first.

I didn't know anything when I was three hours old. So live crazy, colorful, carefree and happy. But now, I am not who I was in those years. When I was a child, I knew nothing, so I lived wild, rich, free and happy. But now, I'm not who I was in those years, and it's easy to feel satisfied when I was a child. A candy can make me smile, a children's song can make me suddenly excited, and a new dress can make me happy for several days. But now, it is not so simple to get a really happy smile. Don't be sad when you are young. As long as a few words from an adult and a cute little toy, you will quickly eliminate the unhappiness just now and won't remember it. However, now I can't be as naive as before. One thing that I will never forget. Gradually, when I grew up, I found that everything was not as good as before, and I didn't have the heartless smile before. Those happy feelings are slowly leaving me. I can't get them back, and I can't keep them. I can only let them leave quietly. The more you grow up, the more lonely you get. When I was young, I looked forward to growing up, but when I grew up, I was afraid of growing up ...-My lost childhood ... When I was young, I naively thought that what I had would always accompany me and never leave. It was not until I grew up that I realized how ignorant I was when I said this. On the way, I lost a lot and learned a lot ... I looked back. However, there was no trace, and finally nothing was found. I see. If something is lost, it will never come back. As always, I smiled and suddenly found that it had lost its previous taste. It was not a happy smile, but it made me taste a bitter taste. I remember, there is a saying, "What you get is what you lose." Really, it's too realistic, nothing can last forever. Maybe everything has changed, everything has changed. What remains unchanged is the yearning and pursuit of life as always, as well as the mentality.

It turns out that some things, when lost, will feel very sad, but after losing, I find that I am actually getting something at the same time.

Because, all along, the gains and losses are proportional. Not perfect, everything is not perfect. Imperfection is life.

An old farmer told me something that made him very happy. A high-end nursing home will be built next to their village, and many old people in the city will move to the village in the future.

During the period when the nursing home started, there were often buses carrying the old people in the city to visit the construction site. One day, another group of old people came. An old couple who looked like husband and wife walked into the village and kept taking pictures with their cameras. Seeing their kindness, the old farmer chatted with them. It turns out that this man is a retired professor from the provincial capital university and the woman is a retired accountant from the bank. They said to the old farmer, "There are beautiful scenery and fresh air here. Brother, you are really lucky to live here. "

The old farmer said that the environment here is good, but it is not as good as the people in the city. There are no supermarkets and parks here. They shook their heads again and again and said, "We have worked hard all our lives and have been to more than 20 countries. Our only wish is to find a place with mountains and water to live in seclusion. We have been looking forward to retiring and living our own lives. After reading the scenery here, we finally found ourselves. "

The old farmer said that he had lived here for 66 years and never felt that his village was a good place. He always thought that he was born in a ravine and could not compare with people in the city. When he was young, he always wanted to go to the city, but it was difficult to talk. Unexpectedly, in the eyes of the professor and his wife, this is the life they have always wanted to pursue and the ultimate destination of life. The environment that the old peasants turn a blind eye to is what others dream of. And what he once dreamed was what others abandoned. The old man said that he didn't live in vain until he met him in the loess.

I feel ridiculous for the "conclusion" of the old farmer. But come to think of it, this is not a life experience.

Life is busy. From the beginning to the end, everyone takes a different road. Some people are in full bloom, while others are bumpy. When the glitz disappears, the mood is calm, the noise of the city and the prosperity of the streets are not suitable for their mood. However, mountains and rivers and plain days are most suitable for their mood.

When the old farmer was young, he didn't have a heart willing to live a plain life, but when he was old, he got a new understanding of life from others.

Life perception lost gains 5 1, give up, only "give up" can "get"! Sometimes when you lose something, you will get more unexpected gains. "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise!" That's the truth. People often say, "No pains, no gains." It means that if you have to give, you will get something, but when we have it, we should also know how to share it. Give someone a good word and they will praise you; Give someone a smile and they will smile back at you. Sharing what we have, sometimes there will be unexpected gains!

2. There is a story among the people in China. My father is charitable and often donates money to people in need and treats others as relatives. On the contrary, he is rich and has many close friends. On the contrary, children are greedy for money, idle all day, and often bully the weak. In the end, natural and man-made disasters and unfortunate families have nothing to gain. So this story tells us that "giving up is gaining", and honesty is natural!

When I was in the fourth grade, I had an exam. I sacrificed the opportunity to go out with my parents during the holiday and study hard at home. Finally, God thanked those who helped me, and I got very good grades. This incident made me understand that there is no such thing as a free lunch. Although I gave up the chance to play, my efforts came at a price!

4. There is an old woman who sells vegetables. She sells vegetables tirelessly every day, and all her income is donated to people in need in society. Because of her "giving up", many children got the opportunity to go to school and helped many people stand up again. The old woman turned all her possessions into selfless love, from which she gained more happiness and priceless feedback. This is the truth that "giving is more blessed than receiving" and "helping others is the foundation of happiness".

5, the constant pursuit of the ideal of life, often think that "determined to win", but often not as good as expected. "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise." It doesn't matter if you fail. Cheer up and don't lose everything because of greed. As the saying goes: "Give up the money for profit, and the wonderful use is endless." We should be content, be charitable, always care for others, help others, make our own efforts for the society, and know how to give, and we will be rewarded.

6. When I was a child, I wanted to grow up quickly. When I grew up, I found that I lost my childhood. When I was single, I began to envy the sweetness of my lover. When I am in love, I miss the freedom when I am single. A lot of things always feel beautiful when they are not obtained, and only after they are obtained do they begin to understand, and what they get is also lost.

7. When you can understand one thing, it means that you have grown up; When you can see one thing clearly, it means that you are enlightened; When you can see through one thing, it shows that you are rational; When you can see through one thing, it means that you are mature; When you can look down on something, it means that you have put it down.

8. Only when you are down and out will you know who is the fool who always worries about you and who is the bastard of a stranger. The so-called love is that you still cherish each other after all the feelings, enthusiasm and romance have been taken away. Loneliness is that there is no one in your heart. Loneliness is when someone in your heart is not around.

9. The older people get, the more accustomed they are to suppressing their true feelings. They don't cry or laugh, and everything is just explosive. It seems that there is nothing more and more, and you can cry so hard that you can't find it anymore, releasing the export of sadness. It's always good to have time to cry freely; If you can shed tears hard, it means that your heart is not dry. Now I clearly feel the pain, but I can't shed tears anymore.

10, there are some things you can care about, but not too deep, too much will wear your mind and weigh your steps; Some pain, you can immerse yourself in it, but not for too long, it will lower your morale and lose your direction. Don't refuse to give up things that don't belong to you. This is actually a kind of mind and tolerance; Don't let go of those who are destined to belong to you, let self-confidence and persistence become a quality and connotation. If you care more, you will have less fun; Looking down, everything is relieved.

1 1. If people are questioned about doing something wrong, the first reaction is to deny that they are lying, the second is to find a lot of reasons to defend themselves, the third is to blame others, the fourth is to be silent, and the fifth is to say that I am wrong. This process is a process of constantly magnifying mistakes, so that it is irreparable, and even the opportunity to repent is lost. Smart people will say, I was wrong first. Unfortunately, less than one in ten thousand people can say that I made the first mistake in my life.

12, God is fair, what we lose is always gained. If there is no hard life, hard life, we don't deserve better things. When life is easy, there is no better way to go. Dear, don't live up to your dreams, the feelings of meeting by chance, the beautiful scenery and the wonderful time.

13. If you want to do something, don't show off, don't preach, just do it quietly. Because that's your own business, others don't know your situation, and it's impossible to help you realize your dream. Never show off because of vanity. Don't give up your dream just because of a comment from others. In fact, the best state is to stick to your dreams, listen to the advice of your predecessors and make fewer mistakes. Is it worth it? Time is the best proof.

14, there are always some things that make you see some people inadvertently. If you have too much orientation in life, you will lose it. In the journey of life, everyone is busy getting to know all kinds of people, thinking that this is to enrich life. But the most valuable meeting is to meet yourself again at a certain moment, and then you will understand that traveling around the world is just to find a way back to your heart.

15, we sometimes mistakenly think that what we can't get is precious and what we have is cheap. No, because of the lack of in-depth understanding, it is just a beautiful illusion, showing us a gorgeous appearance. If one day, you get close to it and know its truth, you will find that it is so similar to what we have. Don't stay in your imagination, all you have is your happiness.

16, have a good life. Learn to be content, and don't always suffer for loss, because loss is another kind of possession. Smart people know how to give up, real people know how to sacrifice, and happy people know how to be detached. It is the value of life to be content to give up and stick to a quiet life. "Nothing is difficult in the world, if you put your mind to it", we should be able to bear it and put it down. Delete yesterday's unhappiness, refresh today's mood, and the coming will come naturally.

17, no matter how you choose, as long as it is your own choice, there is no right or wrong, and there is no need to regret it. The past you will not satisfy the present you, and the present you will not satisfy the future you. If you have the courage to choose, you should have the courage to bear the consequences. The so-called maturity of a person means that he dares to face himself and the world: before choosing, he has a sincere and firm face; After choosing, there is a heart that will never change.

18, there are only a few intimate friends. Don't meet anyone. No one has to be nice to you. People you shouldn't know are passers-by in life, things that can't be realized, and take defects as beauty. Simple walking is also a beautiful way of life. To learn to be lonely, noise is the appearance of the world and loneliness is its soul; Learn to forget, the memory will eventually disappear, and the reality will continue; Learn to be independent, and the only person who will accompany you to the end is yourself.

19, in fact, only you know whether you are good or not, whether you are in a reluctant love or a reluctant single, only you know best. You control your life, all you have to do is be honest with your happiness.

20. Don't torture yourself for anyone or anything. For example, not eating, crying, autism, depression, these are all things that fools do. Of course, it is necessary to be stupid occasionally, and life doesn't have to be smart all the time. Learn to bear the pain. Some words, suitable for rotten in the heart, some pain, suitable for silent forgetting. When you experience it, you grow up and you know it yourself. Many changes, you don't have to say it yourself, others will see it.

2 1, sometimes we can't let go of not one person, but a period of time. I'm not lazy, I just like doing nothing. As long as your mind is not chaotic, it is difficult for the outside world to change anything about you. Don't envy others, don't lose yourself. No matter how good a friend is to you, one day something he does will make you sad, then you must learn to forgive.

22. Many people are deliberately pursuing so-called happiness. Although some people got it, they paid a great price. The wise man said: happiness is a feeling, just like the Buddha in your heart and mine. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, which is related to people's mood and mentality. The harder you work, the deeper you love, the happier you are, and the harder you think. A person always feels unhappy, which is his greatest sorrow. Happiness is a feeling, never satisfied, never happy!

23. Not all pain can be shouted out, and not all love can be expressed. Experience mistakes, you will make better choices, experience failures, you will be better. Only after experiencing loss will we cherish it more. Only through experience can you truly understand that there is nothing you can't give up and let go. Life is like this, you won't be tired if you follow simplicity, and you won't regret if you are moderately satisfied!

24. Generally speaking, the labels we attach to all beings and things in the world are based on our own desires. What we like is good and what we don't like is bad. This is all invented by ourselves. If beauty can exist objectively, then all of us will be involuntarily attracted by the same existence and the same thing.

25. Any mediocre person just misses the nearby scenery, craves worldly luxury, finally forgets to hurry, is comfortable and complacent, and finally achieves nothing; All outstanding people, who walked alone in the silent time, endured calm and loneliness, never complained, never complained, set foot on the ladder of blood and sweat and climbed to the height expected by others. The pain and fatigue of the past are not suffered by others, but the background of your dormancy and the flash of your looking back.

26. Those seemingly insurmountable bumps at first, and then remembered after the end, are like passing clouds, as if they didn't exist, never existed, and everything is just a fantasy of self-deception, a dream that can't wake up after tossing and turning. What I have gained from those past times is only my more complicated self, and even my memory seems to have completely dissipated.

27. Giving up is an option. Give up one kind of burden, and you choose another kind of ease. Sometimes giving up is to have something better. As long as you have the wisdom to move forward in life, giving up or owning is an excellent thing for life. Don't be too picky about everything, perfection is always within reach. There is nothing really perfect in the world. What you should do is to make your life better.

28. You are lucky to have someone to help you. Learn to be happy and grateful. No one to help you is fate, learn to face and bear it calmly. No one should do anything for you, because life is your own and you are responsible for yourself. The compulsory course of life is to accept impermanence, and the elective course of life is to let go of persistence. When life falls, please remember that you must fall to the bottom you have never experienced before to reach the peak you have never reached.

29. Grasping yourself means always having a clear heart and a clear feeling. Look at the problem as high as possible, look farther, and learn to put yourself in other's shoes when dealing with things. Be a man, not greedy or jealous; Deal with the world without flattery and arrogance. Is to always keep a normal heart, don't aim too high and don't go to extremes.

Maybe, when we grow up, we will finally give in to fate. We will no longer have too much feelings about our own gains and losses, and we will look at our own destiny as others are watching coldly. Seeing ourselves struggling in the world of mortals and wandering on the edge of confusion, because we know that from the unknown day on, when we choose to give in to fate, our life will no longer belong to us.

3 1, life needs to wait. Waiting for a gust of wind, waiting for a flower, waiting for the arrival of Iraqis, waiting for the strong voice of life. The mind also needs to persist in waiting. Stick to the windless sun and moon, stick to the loneliness of falling flowers, stick to the emotional blank, and stick to ordinary life. Only by knowing how to wait and stick to it can we take our time, laugh at the sea of flowers and end the sacred fruit; In order to bathe in the breeze, love belongs and life has no regrets.

32. Everything is mine, and nothing is mine. People struggle in losing or owning, gaining or losing, and eventually they will get tired of life. What you get will be lost, and what you lose will be recovered. As Buddhists say, "To gain is to lose." The cause and effect of this need us to understand slowly. Only by feeling that "everything is mine" can we generate a steady stream of motivation; Only "everything is not mine" can we enjoy the happiness of freedom.

33. Know its gains and losses, and give up its gains. A simple sentence contains the wisdom and truth of life. Because, a truly open-minded person knows how to be detached; People with true feelings know how to pay; Happy people know how to let go; A wise man knows the gain and loss. When you look for something in life, you always have to pay some price. If you can correctly understand the gains and losses, you will know the inevitable losses at the same time. At the same time, I will know how to find myself from the loss.

34. You can't have everything that appears in life, you can only experience it. Those who know this well will understand that there is no loss, just passing by; There is no failure, only experience. Look at life with a browsing heart. All the gains and losses, hidden and obvious, are landscapes and customs.

35, we cherish a person, it must be moved; You must be disappointed when you give up someone. People can only see clearly when they are down and out. Who poured cold water on the pots and pans, who was worried. People who accompany you can't do without a warm heart and an exchange of affection and righteousness. People who know you are irreplaceable, because they cherish you, so they don't leave. In fact, happy people don't get the best things in the world, but cherish the people they already have.

36. Don't wait until you lose it to know how to cherish it; Don't wait to be hurt to forgive; Don't wait until you get wet to know how to shelter; Don't wait until you have a terminal illness to know how to maintain it, because there is a lot of waiting in life and you can't start again.

37, some things, knowing that it is wrong, but also insist, because unwilling; Some people, knowing their love, have to give up because there is no ending; Sometimes, knowing that there is no road, we are still moving forward because we are used to it.

38. When we believe that we are already quite important to the world, in fact, the world is only ready to forgive our naivety.

39. "Cherish" gentle and beautiful words and cherish time; Cherish life; Cherish everyone we meet; Cherish every morning; Cherish every rain; The beauty of the four seasons, plain pen to write soft poems, I borrow the hand of words, let the mood to be released dance with words. Time flies, I plant flowers, raise fish, listen to birds, write poems and articles when I have nothing to do, and let my happy mood wander between the lines.

40. Because I know, I cherish the time of traveling and flying. All flowers bloom for a warm reason, and all fallen leaves fall with deep concern. Stop asking, where does it feel? Don't sigh. Love is a little lighter, and it will last a little longer. Love is not beautiful, but happiness is not beyond words, so I don't entangle, don't think too much, just write blessings and thoughts, this life, this feeling. This scene is faint, warm and far away.

4 1. Please remember that when I cherish you, please cherish me. I can spoil you and change you. Cut clothes, sew clothes, cut body, sew clothes, sew heart. Pain, don't wait for me to leave before you say you really love me. Silence is better than talking too much. If you think too much, you will be sad. I don't know who loves me the most until I am sick, and I don't know who loves me the most until I am drunk. Good friendship! Love it or not, if I leave, I will never be there.

42. Love is not to cherish when you have time. It was fate that we met. For this fate, we may all be trying to adapt to each other, and everything just wants to let nature take its course. Life should be easy, don't give yourself too much pressure, and what kind of life will be given to you. No matter how much you believe in fate, please don't cherish love after it is lost. Love doesn't wait until it's free to touch.

43. Cherish the happiness you have. People's life, ups and downs, happiness and happiness are with us every day, and the happiness you have is the most worth cherishing. But sometimes people can't feel the happiness around them until one day they lose it, only to know that the happiness they once had is gone forever. Cherish the happiness you have, and happiness will always accompany you. Cherish the happiness of home. From the first day we were born, home has been inseparable from us.

44. We seem to forget that the teacher taught us to cherish time like gold, but we learned to cherish money like life. We seem to have forgotten the oath that brothers cherish love as life, but we have learned to cherish words as gold. Life is too short to have deep feelings. Learn to cherish what you really need to cherish!

45. Be kind to fate, and you can last long; Cherish your feelings, you deserve it. He who thinks of you all the time is the one who has you in his heart; Those who are always with you are the ones who love you the most. What treats you hot and cold may just be loneliness; When I am far away from you, I may just need it. The worry that can't be concealed is sincerity; I can't hide my missing, that's my feeling.

46. Because you know love, you are tolerant; I cherish it because I know it. Love is beautiful because it is cherished; Affection is gentle because of dependence; There are many beautiful things in life, but we keep missing them; There are many agarwood in the years, but we don't know how to collect it.

47. Life is fleeting. Cherish every day of your present life! Life is a song, singing the rhythm and melody of life; Life is a road, extending the footprint and hope of life; Life is a glass of wine, full of mellow and sadness of life; Life is a mass of hemp, intertwined with the troubles and happiness of life; Life is a painting, depicting the red, green and blue of life experience.

48. "Send you a ray of sunshine to evaporate your sadness. May you cherish it. Send you some Mao Mao rain to wash away your fatigue. May you cherish it. Send you a meteor to relax. May you cherish yourself in busy days! "

49. Only when you are injured do you know how to cherish, and only when you are injured do you know how to be strong. Give the past a saying, leave what you lost as a memory, and let your heart rest when you are tired. Only when you let it go from the bottom of your heart will your heart be truly freed. Give a hope for the future, work hard for what you want, and cherish what you have; Don't regret making a choice; Grasp it with your heart, there will be new stories to show and new people to accompany you.

50. Spring has gone and come again, and the flowers are blooming again. However, you don't know how to cherish what you have, and you don't know how precious it is until you lose it. When life can't find the dock anymore, a broken heart has to wander silently with regret.

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