I recently read Mo Yan's "Late Bloomer". When I saw the name of the book, I had a very special feeling of excitement. Because, I am a late bloomer myself.

People always have to mature, sooner or later, and people who mature late generally experience more pain than their peers. Being able to withstand this kind of pain is the beginning of maturity.

I remember that in the first few years after I entered society, I experienced many blows. The most painful thing was that everything around me was completely different from what I wanted. Most conflicts arise from perceptions of things. For example, I feel that both the company and society are a collective, and we should sacrifice ourselves for the sake of the collective as taught in school. But reality is not.

I don’t think you should engage in relationships in the workplace. It’s like eating and drinking. Communication matters are communication matters. Meetings should be efficient and purposeful. You can’t always chat and ignore the key points. But reality is not.

Some people advise me, but I don’t listen. I think they should be proactive like me, and be brave enough to raise problems when they encounter them. Why don’t they mention it when they clearly see that they are wrong? But reality is not.

I believe that social networking in the workplace should rely on personal efforts rather than relying on relationships to obtain resources and make money. As a collective, we should unite as one, and friendship is more important in the face of interests. But reality is not.

The above student thinking makes me suffer a lot.

I found that in decades of education, no one taught me how to socialize with others, how to chat with customers over meals, and what the principles for dealing with others should be.

In the constant conflicts, I realized that my understanding of social rules was not only belated but also very resistant.

When it was the most serious, I even wondered if there was something wrong with my outlook on life.

Looking back now, in the first few years after graduating from college, I was just making up for the missing lessons in my childhood, family, and school.

First of all, my parents are not engaged in business or politics, and they have little experience in social cognition to draw from.

When I encounter a particularly difficult problem, they don’t know what to do, let alone what good advice they can give me.

The environment where I grew up was too clean, and I have been living in an ivory tower.

Growing up, my understanding of the dark side of society was only in movies and TV dramas, and I experienced too few things to arouse my thinking about many things.

It's equally bad when it comes to schooling.

My own reading is not very good, the types of reading are not comprehensive enough, and it is completely exam-oriented education.

This caused a huge bug in the formation of my own values ??during the growth stage.

My understanding of social rules and general principles of human relations is not comprehensive, and I have not formed a framework for how to deal with others.

Cognitively, I only like to be close to people I like or people who like me.

If you feel that you can’t get along with someone, be prejudiced first and avoid it if you can.

Close oneself in a narrow way and stick to one's own strengths, instead of opening one's mind and taking the initiative to communicate with others and learn from the shining points of others.

These lessons that were left behind during the growth process were completed in a very passive manner. Every step was extremely difficult and painful.

Looking back now, it would be great if all these studies were completed actively.

It is really difficult to define what true maturity is.

The world is really a difficult place. It is certainly not a good thing to say that a person is "unsophisticated", but to say that he is "unsophisticated" "Sophisticated" is not a good word either. Mature and unsophisticated, but also unable to be unsophisticated. Maturity and sophistication are like twin brothers, sometimes it is really difficult to tell them apart.

So what is true maturity? Regarding maturity, Zhou Guoping said in his book "Nietzsche: At the Turning Point of the Century": What many people call maturity is just that the edges have been worn away by the world and they have become sophisticated. But in reality, it is not maturity, but premature aging of spirit and premature death of personality. True maturity should be the formation of unique personality, the discovery of true self, spiritual results and harvest. It can be seen that sophistication and maturity are completely different: one is cold and the other is warm; one is the dissolution of individuality and the other is the realization of self-worth. In the vast sea of ????people, each of us is like a drop of water, which will eventually merge into the sea. Sophisticated people truly integrate themselves into the sea and become a molecule of the sea, blending the two into one. Mature people hide themselves in the sea and isolate themselves. Under the sunlight, they reflect their own brilliant brilliance.

There is a poem by Fang Yue from the Song Dynasty: "Unfortunate things often happen, but they are the same as the poet." Sometimes the more people and things a person experiences, the more disappointed he will be in life. Some become sleek and sophisticated, some become cynical, or some sink in pain, but there are also people who rise up in suffering. Only those who have not lost themselves in the exploration of people and things can be regarded as truly mature people.

A truly mature person is first of all a person who knows how to accept and make choices.

Acceptance means acknowledging and allowing something or an idea to exist regardless of whether I like or agree with it.

To paraphrase Voltaire’s famous saying: I don’t agree with your point of view, but I respect your right to speak.

"Everything goes wrong all the time", this is the true face of life. Only by accepting one's own imperfections can a person give up unrealistic fantasies, learn to reconcile with himself with a smile and be kind to himself; only by accepting the imperfections of others can a person truly forgive others, understand their difficulties and be kind to others. ; Only by accepting the imperfections of the world can a person learn to reconcile with the world with a smile and treat the world gently. Once you learn to accept it, you can face real life calmly and confidently.

In the end, I hope you can go through mountains and rivers and still feel that the world is worth it

Whether a person is mature or not is not determined by age and social experience, but by countless life experiences. The expression of inner temperament.

True maturity is when you become more and more accepting of reality, rather than becoming more and more realistic.

True maturity is when you can face the world with confidence.

True maturity depends on how much responsibility you can shoulder.

True maturity means that you can deal with the changes in the world in silence, and you can deal with the changes in the world calmly. You can have a rich and broad world in your heart at any time.

True maturity is when you can admire and appreciate the brightness of things; similarly, you can also accept and understand the darkness of the world. I see the whole picture of life clearly, but I still love the world.

Finally, I hope that after going through mountains and rivers, you still feel that this world is worth it!