One: "A gentleman is ashamed of his words rather than his actions", which means that a gentleman is ashamed of his words more than his actions.

As a gentleman, we all have the virtue of being consistent in our words and deeds, speaking thoughtfully, and acting prudently and ethically. If you are eloquent and boastful, but in fact do not do it at all or fail to achieve it, it is a sign of exaggerating your words and exaggerating your words. Therefore Confucius said that it is shameful for a gentleman to let his words exceed his actions. It advocates talking less empty words and doing more practical work. We would rather make achievements first than talk about nice things and brag. We must do what we say. A gentleman's words are hard to follow, and win people's trust with good practical results. Get everyone's approval.

Second, "repay grievance with straightness and repay kindness with kindness." It means to repay resentment with fairness and integrity, and to repay kindness with kindness.

Confucius taught people to deal with grievances and virtues in correct and appropriate ways. He advocates repaying resentment with fairness and integrity. Compared with those who are worse than ourselves, we cannot fight evil with evil, violence with violence, and retaliate with resentment. If this continues, we will give up the principles of life. But this does not mean that there will be no punishment for the wrongdoer, but that the wrongdoer must be able to distinguish right from wrong and should be punished with an upright and selfless attitude so that he can correct his mistakes and make up for his mistakes with good deeds. For those who are kind to themselves, there is no doubt that they should repay kindness with kindness. Confucius believed that a person should be able to distinguish between love and hate, right from wrong, right from wrong, but he should not use excessive and inadequate methods to deal with grievances, but should repay with an open mind and good cultivation.