When I first entered the society, I always felt that the social interaction between people depended on touching feelings. As long as you are sincere, others will be willing to make friends with you. With the growth of my age, I gradually realized that sincerity is only the basic condition of interpersonal communication, and the factor that determines high-quality social interaction is strength.

If you don't have some abilities and are not an excellent person, then even if you know the best person, even if the opportunity is in front of you, you can only watch it slip away, and you have no choice.

Only by working hard to improve your own strength can you choose the level of your friends one day and not become a dispensable person for others.

This world is like this sometimes. Socialization has always been based on its own value, not to say that human nature is snobbish, but that the essence of socialization is equivalent value exchange and enjoyment.

I have read such a story:

Miss Tao Zi enrolled in an international English class after work, and the tuition fee for the training class was very high. Because of the general family conditions, she used all her savings to borrow a year's tuition from her friends to make up for it.

She said: The training course is aimed at some business owners and industry elites who want to go abroad for further study. In fact, whether they have learned anything is secondary. The most important thing is that they can meet more people, increase some contacts, and maybe change jobs.

Later, she said helplessly, I can hardly fit into the circle of those people in my class. She has little contact with what they talk about, such as stocks, exchange rates and MBA. Because she couldn't answer the phone many times, the atmosphere became very embarrassing.

Really, if you are not good at yourself, it seems useless to be sincere and know more excellent people.

I like what Li Shanglong said: "If you are not strong yourself, those social activities are actually useless. Only equivalent exchange can get reasonable help. "

So, don't spend too much time socializing before you are strong enough and excellent enough. Instead of trying to fit into a circle that doesn't belong to you, spend some time improving your professional skills.

Turn head-up into head-up, turn Excellence into Excellence. Let yourself live with confidence, perseverance and dependence, so that you can calmly choose the circle you want to integrate into and the life you want.

02

Every poor student's life is bleak, and Danzi is no exception.

Although Danzi is in the bottom five, in her subconscious, it's no big deal. She still goes her own way and dozes off in class, and the novels in the drawer are updated every week.

Danzi said: At first, I thought I could spend the whole high school "smartly". Later, my mother made me understand that there is a price to pay for living without food.

"She took me to a hotel and let me experience it. If you don't study hard, you will work hard to death here.

I didn't believe it at first either. I thought the life without thinking was actually quite enjoyable.

A friend my mother knows has arranged a fairly simple job for me: folding the washed towels neatly.

In this way, I have been folding towels all summer. From morning till night, even if your fingers are sore, there will still be a steady stream of towels.

At that moment, I suddenly realized that this is really not the life I want.

After the summer vacation, when I sat in the classroom again, I began to study hard and study hard. At the end of senior three, my grades gave me many choices.

For so many years, whenever I want to stop and be lazy secretly, I always think of that summer vacation. It is precisely because of the accumulation of so many years of hard work that I have a calm choice for life now. "

It's really good to work hard.

Perhaps in the life of every "poor student", there will be: Hey, that classmate with glasses sitting in the back is you, please get up and answer this question.

So, you were at a loss, standing there awkwardly, shaking your head. The teacher looked at you and shook his head helplessly, telling you to sit down and listen carefully.

Because of the definition of poor students, you have learned to deny yourself.

You may think: answering questions is the business of top students, not "poor students"

However, life can't tell good from bad. Every question life gives you is compulsory. You have no choice but to run away.

03

Miss cup has a famous saying: because you can't be born beautiful, you can only be born inspirational.

Talking about feelings, Miss Cup said: Although it is still a little regrettable to think about it now, because of him, I try to be beautiful, excellent and excellent, and I can "choose" from feelings to later feelings.

She said: This boy is excellent in all aspects. One-meter-eight tall, tall and handsome, she holds the post of outreach in the school student union, and is the "Gao Fushuai" among many female compatriots and a "good student" in the eyes of teachers. Because he plays basketball well, he is called a sports boy.

I remember that I was just an ugly duckling, and that public face was thrown into the coffin without any recognition.

She said: Universities recruit students from various associations. Because of my ordinary appearance, I applied to three interested and not unpopular clubs, and all of them were unsuccessful in the end. The blow was fatal at first.

In this era when everything is valued, the way out for "ugly women" is to make themselves beautiful. Of course, this kind of beauty is not only external, but also extends to connotation.

By chance, Miss Cup met a sports boy and was moved.

Some people are born with their own light, such as sports boys. His appearance is always accompanied by flowers and applause, and he is always surrounded by people.

Miss Cup was attracted by his dazzling light, but she also felt inferior. She knows that compared with the girls around the sports boy, she is "ugly" and gray, and can't stand any waves.

In order to attract him, Miss Cup started to exercise and ran early every day without interruption. Apply a mask before going to bed, sign up for a makeup class, and learn from a makeup artist. At the same time, she began to read books to enrich her heart.

Gradually, Miss Cup found boys around her, such as "Let me invite you to dinner", "Let me invite you to exercise together" and "Let's go to the library together". At first, Miss Cup tried to change her original intention: to be an equal girl with sports boys.

"When I became beautiful, excellent and meaningful, I suddenly found that it didn't matter if I could be with that sports boy. He is no longer my only choice, but he is still the person I am most grateful to. He gave me many choices. "

"Today, I still insist on reading and fitness. Besides, I work very hard. My state is that even if I am old, I will not be forced to get married by my parents and will not be chosen by others. This is the confidence I have won through hard work. "

Some girls work hard just to stand at the same height as their beloved one day, shoulder to shoulder with you, turn to look at you, and outline your appearance in their hearts.

The goal of hard work is to "have a choice" one day, have the confidence to persist in being yourself, wait for the right person and marry love.

There is an old saying: hard work is not necessarily useful, but it is definitely useless without hard work.

I hope that one day, when you want to change your direction, there are other roads behind you that you can choose calmly.

If you can only die in one way, it is not because you are incompetent, but because you are lazy and don't work hard.