I said, you may have heard a saying that the splendor of spring always needs the bleak autumn to repay. Really outstanding people may be lonely or lonely, because they stand in the position that others look up to. But they will not be envied because they are excellent, and those who are envied are often ordinary people who seem to be excellent. Just like those ordinary things that are placed on high places, they are not satisfied, but because they are the same ordinary things. Why are you on high, not me?
The girl didn't ask anything, and quietly ignored me.
After all, I want to talk about this topic, why your Excellence is enviable, while others' Excellence is enviable.
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An ordinary friend I met when I was a student, except, of course? "Ordinary friends?" I really can't think of other words to describe my relationship. She came to me for the first time because of a public election. She felt that the whole class was crowding her out and she cried when she met. Actually, I've known her for less than five days.
She didn't get a scholarship that semester because she was unsuccessful in the class election. At that time, the school's regulations were that in addition to the comprehensive ranking in the top five, it must be supported by more than half of the people, but she failed to vote.
I know my light is too bright, but is it wrong to have light? She asked me.
I don't know how to comfort her, but she told me about the friction between the girls in her class and her almost overnight. Later, I finally came to a conclusion that all the girls were desperately suppressed because they were jealous of her talent.
The jealousy of girls is always ignited. You must not be too good, go my old way. At the time of parting, she sincerely warned me that I was only nineteen years old that year, only knowing that I had walked all the way in confusion, but the mystery kept spinning in my heart.
Is she really good?
I know a classmate in her class, so her answer finally made me understand the answer. As far as academic performance is concerned, she is in the class 10 or so, which is not enough to get a school scholarship. However, her achievements in social practice are surprisingly high. Every time, she will take out a thick stack of published newspapers and put them in front of the teacher. At least in our local college, such achievements can scare people. Some students in the class questioned why her articles were so ordinary, not even literary, but could be published easily. Later, many people knew how vivid the online newspapers and periodicals in a small place were, and she also got caught up in them and benefited a lot. Besides, her ostentation offended the whole class. She often shakes a pile of newspapers from the counselor's eyes to the teacher to win the teacher's favor. After a long time, the teacher will become familiar. In fact, in our college, there are many students who have published, and you can easily feel their talents, which means you won't be surprised by their publication. And she, I can only say, is an ordinary girl dressed as a phoenix, hoping to get everyone's approval.
? "You want everything, you can, but you must be persuaded. No one is jealous of her, but she doesn't deserve it. ? "At that moment, I finally understood that your achievements are equal to your Excellence, which will win the best applause.
She looked cheerful before graduation, but no one wanted to be close to her all the time. She has always been alone. In the canteen and the library, even though graduation photo was photographed, everyone was laughing happily, but no one wanted to take a photo with her.
In the case of unequal resources, you are so ordinary, and your achievements are not due to your Excellence, which is naturally not convincing.
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When I was in college, I worked as an intern in an advertising company during the summer vacation, which coincided with their selection of middle-level cadres. As an outsider, I was transferred to the personnel department and became a witness of the whole selection. At that time, I understood that an excellent person can make others feel that everything is worthwhile.
Before the election, the boss made it clear that the head of the design department must be elected by the designer. For the company, the design department is one of the core departments, and the supervisor should not only have excellent professional level, but also have enough team leadership-the results of public opinion evaluation account for 80% of the final assessment results, and the other 20% of the votes come from the board of directors, that is, designers almost have the right to decide their own team leadership.
In the afternoon, we received many application forms for the election. When I first entered the workplace, I was just an intern, but I had heard about blood shed experienced by my predecessors. The tricks in the workplace are actually more cruel. When everything may be closely related to your future and money, who can say that you are out of it?
The post's speech was on a thunderous afternoon. Everyone is very nervous, but they pretend to be idle and show their work achievements one after another over the years. Everyone is very vivid. When it was S's turn, the HR supervisor told me that she thought S would win this time. S took out its business performance in the past five years, with a total of * * * 1 1.8 million, winning the first place 22 times and ranking fifth in the worst position; She took out more than 10 courses that she studied at her own expense in these years, and spent more than 654.38+10,000; Finally, S lists the birthdays of each colleague. She said that she would like to be the first person to send them birthday wishes at 0: 00 every year, regardless of whether she can become a supervisor or not. When s walked off the platform, everyone was clapping, and this applause only appeared once. Almost without any suspense, S became a director candidate. On that day, everyone congratulated her.
At dinner, the supervisor told me, you see, S is never the busiest in the office, and you rarely see her chatting in the crowd. I've been with her for five years, and I've never seen her get carried away when she won the first prize once. I can't see her in the busiest places.
I said, yes. To tell the truth, even after lunch, I often see her sitting at her desk alone, continuing to work when she is busy, listening to music alone in her spare time and taking a nap alone after lunch.
But if you ask everyone who has the strongest business ability, S will come to mind. Who is the most capable and willing to help you solve design problems, s; Who is the friendly person who will help you the first time after you explain your difficulties to her? It's also S, the director said. When you are good enough, everything can match you, and of course you become a winner.
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When I first entered the university, the head teacher wanted a local student to take on all the work in the class, so I naturally became that student. As a result, various forms of vanity began to flock to me-league secretaries, university student union cadres, school student union cadres, student representatives, and were pushed to the stage at once, and then enjoyed many inexplicable scenery without warning and recognition.
During that time, I could feel the surprises of my classmates. They didn't ask questions sharply, just because they probably saw that I didn't want to. I seem to be just that innocent child, suddenly taken to a position, and then played a role in a strange way, and it is the thread in the hands of university teachers and class teachers that pulls my body.
In the second semester, I removed all my original posts and left a literary and art committee member in my class. ? "Unload?" This is just a step of self-setting. In a sense, it is losing the re-election. I seem to have lost at 32: 2.
Are you embarrassed? Of course, it's particularly embarrassing.
But are you worth it? I don't deserve life. That's it. No one will give up his mind because of your feelings. And then what? "Not worthy?" Is the best annotation.
There is a saying in Borges' Biography of Tadio Isidoro Cross: Any fate, no matter how long and complicated, is actually only reflected in a moment: the moment when people fully realize who they really are.
At that moment, I began to realize that you must have your own direction in the coordinate of hard work, and in order to get the recognition you want, you must first become a person who can compete with Excellence.
So, in the next three years, I finally stopped being tired and took learning and writing as the only direction. Every week, I will sort out my notes and extract famous sayings as I did in high school. I insist on reading 2-3 books every month and have published more than 100. I became what I wanted to be when I was in college: the head of the reporter group of the school newspaper was the only position I kept, and the comprehensive ranking ranked in the top five of the class every time. In the last year, I won the highest literary prize in my school.
For four years, my relationship with my classmates has been respectful but tepid. In the limited time, most of the time, I am a lonely person. A person, because there is no time to take care of a relationship for a long time, must stand up when others need it.
In the subsequent annual public election, I found that I could pass the exam steadily, perhaps because I finally became the person who was qualified for the honor in others' hearts.
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Why are others' Excellence envied and yours envied? You need to know whether your Excellence is really excellent.
We always like to constantly enlarge our Excellence, and then want to get recognition, respect and admiration from others; This is psychologically in line with everyone's psychological trajectory. But we should always ask ourselves whether everything you have now is mutually appreciated with yourself, and is what you have really enough?
In fact, our lives are in the huge bookshelves in other people's hearts, and everyone is writing their own lives. Your book is your lifestyle, and your lifestyle will be accurately classified. I have always believed that we adjust our position because of our Excellence and are constantly being replaced, not others. You have to have your confidence, so that others will be completely convinced.
Life is a huge magnetic field. We all live in our own love and in other people's hearts. You know, imaginary Excellence is just soap bubbles. Soap bubbles will always burst if you are not careful, and if you stand in the vast sea of people, will you also feel sad behind a mirage? Because fantasy is over, life is life.
And I always hope that we are all loved because of real Excellence, not because of empty assumptions. After all, life is so long, we must always walk down to earth. Do you like this article? Share this article with more people ~
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