Every once in a while, I will sort out what I usually hear that makes me feel refreshed. This habit has always existed.

I believe that these words from life and people I know will give me and my readers some influence and some thoughts.

In this era when people run away as soon as they hear the "great truth", I still believe that those thoughtful, quality and speculative words are still full of energy and can still help us form values.

It is very important to form their own values, because many people have nothing to do all their lives, mainly muddling along and living unconsciously and unprincipled.

Therefore, I hope that I, as well as my readers and friends, can consciously live our lives well.

Let's stop chatting and feel the proverbs of these wise men together.

I used to hear people say-say it to your face when others are wrong, and don't make irresponsible remarks behind your back. This is not good.

I really believe that I have always felt that I am an upright person for many years and I am proud of it.

But gradually, I found it useless to do so, but I had no friends.

The reality is-in fact, people will not be happy if you speak ill of them to their faces. Therefore, denigrating others must be behind their backs.

Don't lend it to others if you have no money, because few people can feel it. In fact, it is not easy for you, even yourself.

Most people who borrow money ask grandpa to tell grandma when they borrow money, but once they borrow money and don't pay it back within the time limit, you start asking him.

You can give alms if you have money, but don't borrow it casually.

Borrowing money casually will make you lose friends, which is more sad than not having any friends at all.

c； 38 years old, corporate executive.

After listening to 100 inspirational stories, it is better to owe 1 10,000.

For ordinary people, spur is better than motivation, and pressure is better than motivation.

Think back to your past twenty or thirty years. Which inspirational story adapted your life?

The mediocre and failed people around you are always brainwashing you-telling you to be a good person and learn to be a man.

However, how to be a man? How good is it? Nobody knows.

I think, talk less about being a man and do more business.

Look at those successful people who have never been sick all their lives. Those who are tactful in accidents and make ends meet may gain, but they will never succeed.

Remember, success is creation, not acquisition. Wang Sicong was born in tens of billions, which was a harvest, but not a success.

One day, when my wife went out, she suddenly remembered that she didn't wear makeup, so she complained impatiently that she was ugly and embarrassed to meet anyone who didn't wear makeup.

But in my opinion, the difference is not very big. Besides, whether you wear makeup or not, in fact, no one cares, so what if you care?

Of course, these thoughts are silently hidden in my heart and will never be told to her.

f； Age unknown, occupation unknown (netizen)

As the old saying goes,' When you are young, three years old looks old'. In contrast, it is called' if you don't work hard at a young age, your big brother will be sad'. But because life is particularly long, it is difficult for us to feel the sadness and regret of being sad.

However, if you shorten your life to one day-you thought of a plan last night and thought it would be completed the next day, but when you get up the next morning, you first brush your circle of friends, eat and watch a play, and then it will be noon.

Then you took a nap and got ready to start work in the afternoon. After getting up, you went to smoke a cigarette, went to the toilet and brushed the drama for a while.

Get excited at night, get ready for work, and then brush a circle of friends in Weibo.

At eleven o'clock in the evening, you begin to regret why you didn't do anything today. It's a waste of time, so you decided to give up your mobile phone and start working hard.

But at this time, you find yourself sleepy, want to sleep, your brain is out of control ... there is no place to exert your strength.

In fact, many people's lives are wasted day by day, so they are becoming mediocre day by day.

It's normal that you want to be free. Who doesn't want freedom?

But what is freedom?

It's dark, you close the door and make sure it's locked, so you can stay at home alone, do whatever you want, dance and fart, and get naked. This is your freedom. .

However, if someone else locks you in instead of yourself, all you can feel is panic and madness. .

Therefore, only by setting boundaries for yourself can you be free; It is a sin to set boundaries for others.

Reading is very important, but those who clock in every day, I have observed for several years, in fact, there is no progress.

Reading is by no means used to cultivate self-cultivation and cultivate sentiment; Reading must be useful, otherwise why reading. Sleeping is much more interesting than reading. There are many things that can cultivate sentiment. Why do you have to study?

If you are a carpenter, you should learn more about aesthetics and furniture, starting with related books-you need depth and thickness first, not breadth.

If you read a lot of books and get nowhere, you will end up smoking a cigarette at the entrance to the village to tease the children.

Do you often hear people say, "How can you sweep the world without sweeping a house?" Do you think it makes sense?

But actually sweeping the house and sweeping the world are two completely unrelated projects. Just like some people who can't speak fluently are singers; Some people can't recite multiplication formulas, but they are mathematicians.

Small houses with two or three floors may be built layer by layer, but high-rise buildings are by no means built layer by layer. If you build it layer by layer, it will collapse.

A lot of things can't be seen because of small things.

Respect others, let others feel happy first, let others get benefits first. This is not self-cultivation, it is the basic principle of success.

For example, it's a good idea for you to open a restaurant and want to make a lot of money from it. But you should make customers feel delicious and affordable, and enjoy the atmosphere.

Only by achieving others and accumulating word of mouth can you make a lot of money. Stealing and playing may be profitable for a while, but it won't be anything after all.

In the long run, the happiness of others must precede your happiness.

In any interpersonal relationship and interest relationship, worry about others first, then be happy for others. For example, in the relationship between husband and wife, in the relationship between parents and children, and in the relationship between teachers and students, this is the case.

For example, if you are a man, you should first make your wife happy, so that you can have lasting happiness.

Well, these are the ten most valuable sentences I have heard in the past two months. It seems to be absurd and heretical, but on closer reading, it does make sense, because some words have broken my inherent values.

Of course, I don't quite agree with some views, but I appreciate them.

As an adult, we should try to put aside the instinctive concept of black and white right and wrong, and try to think from different angles, so as to broaden our minds and integrate knowledge into our own opinions.

But far away, everyone can associate with smart people and live with good people.