It is wrong to do to others what you don't want them to do to you, and it is right to do to others what you don't want them to do to you. After careful study, the answer is no, but people often don't know that they always impose their hobbies on others, thinking that this is great love. Think back carefully. In real life, few people don't do to others what they don't want them to do to them, while most people want what they don't want them to do to them. It happened that such people are very close to you, maybe your parents, maybe your relatives, maybe your friends. They will treat you with joy and care for you according to their own preferences, making your hospitality difficult and painful.
An old couple just spent their golden wedding anniversary with everyone's blessing. When I got home, there was a contradiction. It turned out that when the bread was divided, the husband cut a piece of bread and gave it to his wife as always, not wanting to attract his wife's roar: "That's enough, I've had enough. I have put up with it for fifty years. Why do you always give me bread? " The husband said in surprise, "But, honey, I always think this is the best part of bread. I never want to eat it!" " "
Think about how much wishful thinking and taking for granted we give in life. We thought we did it for him (her), and sometimes we felt great and even moved to tears. But have you ever wondered if he (she) really likes it as a user?
Some friends drink a lot of good wine. For him, drinking is a great enjoyment. Therefore, persuading people to drink on the wine table is great love, and they don't get drunk every time. You've had enough on the wine table, but he hasn't. Drink it yourself if you don't have enough. No, he insisted on finding various reasons and saying a lot of compliments for you to drink together. As a result, he drank very comfortably and had to endure his stomach and listen patiently.
When you visit a relative's house, there will always be his favorite dishes on the table, such as salted fish, bacon and braised pork. He will boast while holding a dish, regardless of your preferences, your mouth, and your appetite. You can't refuse them with unquestionable pride and touching enthusiasm, you can only bear it silently and alone, but you can't say it.
Welcome and send are often sent according to their own preferences, often ignoring each other's preferences. Give a good cigarette to those who like smoking, two bottles of good wine to those who like drinking, a catty of good tea to those who like drinking, and a bunch of flowers to those who like flowers, and forget to choose gifts that suit their needs. Parents enroll their children in interest classes, choose according to their hobbies, and force their children to study, regardless of their feelings. This is especially true for references. "I think this girl is very good in all aspects. Why not? " I completely forgot that I was not talking about myself but someone else.
People look alike, but in fact, the difference between individuals and thoughts is very huge, especially the gap above the neck can be as big as between heaven and earth, so there will be many unreasonable places. Some people like to pursue material things, while others like to enjoy the spirit. What you like may be hated by others, what you strive for may be what others want to get rid of, and what you think is priceless may be worthless in the eyes of others. ...
"Different people have different views, and wise people have different views." In fact, many things are not completely right or wrong. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" and "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" should be the basic principles of interpersonal communication in the whole society. Everyone should live according to his own wishes within the scope permitted by law.