When Teacher Yang first came into contact with Borui Chi, she felt that she was too clumsy to give lectures to everyone. In order to help parents learn, she needed to invite teachers from other places to help teach. The lecturers he trained all left after they grew up. Later, Teacher Yang finally raised his confusion with Teacher Dong about how to face this problem. Teacher Dong said: "You can just give the lectures yourself. Good lecturers are all good teachers." A story told." From then on, Teacher Yang started giving lectures and eventually became a lecturer at the current family training camp.
Teacher Yang can see Teacher Dong every year, but he has waited for several years before raising this question to Teacher Dong. In fact, the question raised to the teacher was also raised to himself. Why not ask this question earlier? Woolen cloth? It's because the time is not there. This has given us great inspiration. When faced with complicated problems, the important thing is not to find answers, but to ask questions. When facing the problem of children's education, it is not to tirelessly find the answer to educate the child, but to learn to ask questions. Once the questions are asked, the answers are waiting there.
When her child was in first grade, a mother listened to Teacher Dong’s report and felt that what the teacher said was very reasonable. She recognized this educational concept and paid for the parent training camp. , but has not participated in the study. The next time I saw this mother was in the second semester of the second grade of junior high school. When the child was about to drop out of school, the mother was desperate and came back and participated in a family training camp. This mother came into contact with Bo Ruizhi at about the same time as Teacher Yang. The mother was just looking for a way to educate her children, while Teacher Yang was asking questions, how to be a good father, how to be a good lecturer, and how to help more people. These three questions have pushed Teacher Yang to continue on the road of family education.
When Teacher Yang first started working, she went to the mail room every day to get letters from the department. The teacher in charge of letters was rude and had a bad attitude, which made people feel angry. Teacher Yang asked, why is she so angry? what to do? Later, every time I bought breakfast, I helped the teacher buy a pancake and fruit. Within half a month, the teacher's attitude changed 180 degrees, and he greeted me with a smile every time. This is a methodological question, 1. why, 2. what is the situation, and 3. what to do. This is the process of raising questions. From an observation point, when looking at family education issues, we have spent a lot of energy looking for methods and answers. Research skills: If you want to make things simpler, just ask a question. The person who asked the question will basically know the direction and the answer.
A new parent once came for consultation and asked a lot of questions. In order to help her clarify her thinking, Teacher Yang asked her a few questions. After asking her, her mother said angrily: "Teacher, I’m here to seek help and ask you questions. Why are you asking me? If I can answer it, why should I come to you?” Parents have not yet reached this level and cannot understand the real purpose of the questions raised by Teacher Yang. , Therefore, when asking questions to parents, you must first see what level they are at before asking corresponding questions.
A famous saying of Saramague - Everything in the world is answering, and the time to ask questions is delayed. All the answers in the world are already there, it’s just a matter of asking the questions first. We participate in family training camps and high-end courses, and each time we retrain, we have different gains. This is because our own level is constantly improving. As our background knowledge expands, the level of knowledge we can receive is getting higher and higher. Can absorb more knowledge.
Some parents just go back after attending the salon and listening to the report. If they do not realize that they need to learn, they will not ask the next questions, and the answers will naturally not appear. The child's problem is still unresolved, the parents are still worried, and when you don't realize it, the answer has nothing to do with you.
When we reach a certain cognitive point at the level of understanding, the answers will naturally open up to us. The most important thing is not the answers, but the ability to ask questions. To simplify the matter of educating children, that is Keep learning to improve yourself, ask questions, and the answers will appear naturally.