A message from Peking University teachers to the struggling children
Yale University
Mindset
1. Be confident, absolutely confident, unconditionally confident , always be confident, even when you make a mistake.
2. When you are lonely, empty and bored, read some magazines, listen to music, and find something to do for yourself. It can be useless, but it cannot be harmful.
3. Don’t think too much, especially negative thoughts, and clear negative thoughts regularly.
4. Learn to forget some things, those painful, embarrassing, regretful memories, and make room for sunny memories.
5. Dare to try new things, dare to lose face, love to lose face, and have the courage to challenge. It pays to make a few mistakes when you're young. But if you can get it right in one step, don't make mistakes.
6. Every day is a new day, and troubles and pains do not last overnight. Greet the new day every morning with optimism and enthusiasm. Even if someone slapped me in the mouth yesterday.
7. Admit that you are not smart or brave, so that when you face the excellence of others, you can be calm and give heartfelt praise.
8. The highest state of being a human being is not to be blindly low-key, nor to be blindly public, but to be consistently neither humble nor overbearing.
Learning
1. Learning is always the first priority and cannot be neglected.
2. Pay attention to preview and review, and learn to study by yourself. Yes, rushing before exams can help you achieve high scores, but quick knowledge is also fragile. I don’t want to find out after graduation that I haven’t remembered anything and my brain is empty.
3. Keep up with the teacher’s thinking in class, and sit in the first row if you can.
4. Know how to cooperate and be more active in class. You are not doing it for others to see, but for yourself.
5. Be sure to complete the teacher's homework immediately. It is true that college homework can be postponed, but that is not a reason for you to slack off.
6. Never forget to study cooperatively and learn from each other. In college, there is no pressure from the college entrance examination. This simple spirit of learning is even more valuable.
7. You must have your own plan. English level 4 and 6 and computer level 2 must rely on your own silent efforts in normal times. Indeed, this also requires surprise attacks, but the risk is too high just by surprise attacks. .
8. You must have high-level requirements for yourself, and don’t just say long live.
Interaction
1. Before understanding, assume that all people are kind and treat everyone around you sincerely.
2. Discover the advantages in everyone and sincerely praise others.
3. Friends should be cast across the board and focused on cultivating (love relationships, except for male and female friends).
4. Confidants are hard to come by. Some people are used to locking others at a certain distance. It is easy to get close to them, but it is difficult to get closer. For such people, no matter how much enthusiasm you invest, it will not matter. If you use it, it will only make you depressed. It is better to keep distance and stop in moderation.
5. Sincerely take the initiative to help others without asking for anything in return. Doing everything expecting others to appreciate you is doomed to disappointment.
6. Learn to say no and don’t let friendship become a burden.
7. It is better to try to let others understand you than to try hard to understand others. Because you understand others, you feel that person is familiar, but that person feels that you are strange. It's like touching a sharp knife with a warm hand, looking for wounds.
8. For true friends, don’t be stingy with words of concern. A text message, a greeting, be proactive, don't worry too much about who is better to whom. One of the two parties in a friendship must give more. It doesn't matter who that person is, what matters is that your relationship continues.
9. Maintain your independence under any circumstances and do not lose yourself.
About love
1. Don’t fall in love because of loneliness and emptiness.
2. Don’t fall in love with people who are paranoid or do extreme things. For example, those who chop off their fingers to express their sincere love for you, or those who say they can die for you. Don't think this kind of passionate love is very touching. Even if he doesn’t care about his own fingers, he might chop off your fingers one day. He can die for you, so he naturally thinks that you must be able to die for him? Oh, the consequences are disastrous. Breaking up with such a person will also cause endless trouble.
3. The sisters around you find a good home and then take a back seat.
4. Don’t be jealous of your good friends.
5. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but don’t treat the people around you like shit.
6. Don’t mistake friendship for love.
7. You can like many people, but don’t fall in love with anyone easily.
8. Let nature take its course, and do not force fate.
Workplace
1. Never complain about anything. Complaining will only expose your incompetence.
2. Public and private matters must be distinguished.
3. Stay proactive at all times.
3. Don’t reveal too much of your emotions and feelings in public situations. If you feel emotional, talk to a friend, not a colleague.
4. Work efficiently.
5. Establish a good relationship with your colleagues and leaders, but don’t try to become close friends with them.
6. Talk less and do more.
7. Know what you should know, and don’t ask about what you shouldn’t know.
8. See through some things but don’t tell them off
Life
1. Keep your things neat and tidy and put them in their place.
2. It is better to save money than to make money. Saving modestly can save more money than making money.
3. Pay attention to fashion information and learn to take care of yourself.
4. You don’t have to wear brand-name clothes, but you must pay attention to the matching. (Work hard)
5. Eat less snacks and more fruits.
6. Keep warm, don’t be careless, no one will care if you get cold leg rheumatism.
7. Girls must know the skills that they should know.
8. Show off your smart self.
A message from Peking University teachers to the struggling children
Yale University
Mindset
1. Be confident, absolutely confident, unconditionally confident , always be confident, even when you make a mistake.
2. When you are lonely, empty and bored, read some magazines, listen to music, and find something to do for yourself. It can be useless, but it cannot be harmful.
3. Don’t think too much, especially negative thoughts, and clear negative thoughts regularly.
4. Learn to forget some things, those painful, embarrassing, regretful memories, and make room for sunny memories.
5. Dare to try new things, dare to lose face, love to lose face, and have the courage to challenge. It pays to make a few mistakes when you're young. But if you can get it right in one step, don't make mistakes.
6. Every day is a new day, and troubles and pains do not last overnight. Greet the new day every morning with optimism and enthusiasm. Even if someone slapped me in the mouth yesterday.
7. Admit that you are not smart or brave, so that when you face the excellence of others, you can be calm and give heartfelt praise.
8. The highest state of being a human being is not to be blindly low-key, nor to be blindly public, but to be consistently neither humble nor overbearing.
Learning
1. Learning is always the first priority and cannot be neglected.
2. Pay attention to preview and review, and learn to study by yourself. Yes, pre-exam rush can help you achieve high scores, but quick knowledge is also fragile. I don’t want to find out after graduation that I haven’t remembered anything and my brain is empty.
3. Keep up with the teacher’s thinking in class, and sit in the first row if you can.
4. Know how to cooperate and be more active in class. You are not doing it for others to see, but for yourself.
5. Be sure to complete the teacher's homework immediately. It is true that college homework can be postponed, but that is not a reason for you to slack off.
6. Never forget to study cooperatively and learn from each other. In college, there is no pressure from the college entrance examination. This simple spirit of learning is even more valuable.
7. You must have your own plan. English level 4 and 6 and computer level 2 must rely on your own silent efforts in normal times. Indeed, this also requires surprise attacks, but the risk is too high just by surprise attacks. .
8. Have high-level requirements for yourself, and don’t just say long live.
Interaction
1. Before understanding, assume that all people are kind and treat everyone around you sincerely.
2. Discover the advantages in everyone and sincerely praise others.
3. Friends should be cast across the board and focus on cultivating them (love relationships, except for male and female friends).
4. Confidants are hard to come by. Some people are used to locking others at a certain distance. It is easy to get close to them, but it is difficult to get closer. For such people, no matter how much enthusiasm you invest, it will not matter. If you use it, it will only make you depressed. It is better to keep distance and stop in moderation.
5. Sincerely take the initiative to help others without asking for anything in return. Doing everything expecting others to appreciate you is doomed to disappointment.
6. Learn to say no and don’t let friendship become a burden.
7. It is better to try to let others understand you than to try to understand others. Because you understand others, you feel that person is familiar, but that person feels that you are strange. It's like touching a sharp knife with a warm hand, looking for wounds.
8. For true friends, don’t be stingy with words of concern. A text message, a greeting, be proactive, don't worry too much about who is better to whom. One of the two parties in a friendship must give more. It doesn't matter who that person is, what matters is that your relationship continues.
9. Maintain your independence under any circumstances and do not lose yourself.
About love
1. Don’t fall in love because of loneliness and emptiness.
2. Don’t fall in love with people who are paranoid or do extreme things. For example, those who chop off their fingers to express their sincere love for you, or those who say they can die for you. Don't think this kind of passionate love is very touching. Even if he doesn’t care about his own fingers, he might chop off your fingers one day. He can die for you, so he naturally thinks that you must be able to die for him? Oh, the consequences are disastrous. Breaking up with such a person will also cause endless trouble.
3. The sisters around you find a good home and then take a back seat.
4. Don’t be jealous of your good friends.
5. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but don’t treat the people around you like shit.
6. Don’t mistake friendship for love.
7. You can like many people, but don’t fall in love with anyone easily.
8. Let nature take its course, and do not force fate.
Workplace
1. Never complain about anything. Complaining will only expose your incompetence.
2. Public and private matters must be distinguished.
3. Stay proactive at all times.
3. Don’t reveal too much of your emotions and feelings in public situations. If you feel emotional, talk to a friend, not a colleague.
4. Work efficiently.
5. Establish a good relationship with your colleagues and leaders, but don’t try to become close friends with them.
6. Talk less and do more.
7. Know what you should know, and don’t ask about what you shouldn’t know.
8. See through some things but don’t tell them off
Life
1. Keep your things neat and tidy and put them in their place.
2. It is better to save money than to make money. Saving modestly can save more money than making money.
3. Pay attention to fashion information and learn to take care of yourself.
4. You don’t have to wear brand-name clothes, but you must pay attention to the matching. (Work hard)
5. Eat less snacks and more fruits.
6. Keep warm and don’t take it lightly. No one will care if you get cold leg rheumatism.
7. Girls must know the skills that they should know.
8. Show off your smart self.
Society is such a reality, stop being naive and read it carefully, you will grow a lot?
Whether you are a man or a woman, if you want to be successful in life, here is what you must do Things to do:
1. Don’t take it for granted when your friends invite you to dinner. Please reciprocate, otherwise your reputation will get worse and worse. -
2. Set goals for yourself, one year, two years, five years. Maybe you were born not as good as others, but through hard work, you can often change 70% of your destiny. Breaking the pot can only make friends with cowardice. -
3. This is a realistic society. Love cannot be eaten, and poor couples suffer from everything. Don't believe the storyline in the movie, it's just a place for many strangers to express their emotions. -Only irrational and unrealistic people believe it
4. Among good friends, you must cultivate a confidant. Don’t think that you are so versatile and have friends everywhere. In the end, there is only one who truly treats you. Believe me. -
5. Don’t believe in horoscopes and horoscopes. They are just for children. Your destiny is in your own hands. Sitting at home waiting for a house or a car, it is better to have a good sleep and have a good dream. -
6. Stay away from people you don’t like, but don’t say bad things behind your back. People who say right and wrong must be right and wrong. Remember, disaster comes from the mouth. -
7. Play less games. This is not Korea. You can’t buy a house, a car and still have capital. You can have hobbies, but you must grasp the scale. - Play less games such as farms, ranches, and landlords that are highly attractive to people. Maybe your level is very high, but it does not mean how successful you are. On the contrary, it will affect and occupy your success. time.
8. People are inert. This is innate, but we can change this inertia the day after tomorrow, because many people are changing. Don't wait for others to do it before I think about something or a business. Don’t wait until others have already made money before I want to do it. What no one believes in is the market and opportunities, what everyone believes in is called expansion.
9. If you know what you want to do, in the dead of night, ask yourself what your future plans are, and move in that direction to achieve them. -Instead of sitting around and doing meaningless things.
10. There is a way out, there is always a way out. Difficulties and sufferings, being stuck at home is difficult. - "Social Survey" generally believes.
11. As a woman, don’t let your old age show off, think that your career has nothing to do with you, and think that you just wash clothes, cook, and take care of children. That is a big mistake. -
12. As a human being, you must do this; put filial piety first in everything, teach children the way to behave, make husband and wife harmonious and beautiful, and live happily ever after. But these are not things you can just talk about. To do this in the early days of liberation required a lot of effort and hard work. Today’s real society requires you to pay a lot of money. Smart people all know this. reason.
13. Don’t often go online to do boring things and play meaningless games in your free time. Read some literary works, learn some business processes, management regulations, international current affairs, and legal knowledge. This will ensure you have something to talk about at any party. -
14. I would rather miss information from all sides a thousand times than miss any chance of success. -Only in this way will you not buy regret medicine.
15. If you want to do something, there is no need to tell others before you succeed. After you succeed, others will know without you having to say anything. This is the effect of the information age
16. Take good care of your hair, nails, and beard. Society is a receptive body, and the number of artists this planet needs is extremely limited. Please don’t take this risk. Even if you look better with long hair, you should try to give people a clean feeling. -
17. Don’t think that because you are a man, you don’t need maintenance. At least you can't be too casual about your diet. Eat more tomatoes, seafood, leeks, and bananas, which are all foods that are good for men's health.
If you don’t see the value, I can tell you. At least you can use the money saved from medical treatment to buy more cosmetics for your woman.-
18. People who strive to make progress should not always think about relying on others. People are selfish, and you are the one who is the best. The most reliable person. -
19. When faced with failure, don’t care too much about it. When heaven is about to entrust a person with a great responsibility, he must first work hard on his will, work his muscles and bones, and starve his body and skin. But he must learn to blame himself and find out the reasons. , and get rid of bad habits. It is normal to have no money at the age of 20; to have no money at the age of 30 may be because you do not have a good family background and require greater efforts; to have no money at the age of 40 is to find the reason yourself. It is possible, and likely, for a poor man to become a rich man. It is inevitable that the poor will remain poor all their lives. Existence is the reason. They just have choices.
20. When faced with choices, there is only success. If you also choose success, we will surely reach the other side of success.
N pieces of advice from a young chairman
1. Remember, those who watch TV for more than three hours a day on average must be those whose monthly income does not exceed 2,000 yuan. Yes, if you want a monthly income of more than two thousand, please don't waste your time on TV. In the same way, those who play online games or chat for more than three hours a day on average are those whose monthly income does not exceed 2,000.
2. Because there are many poor people and they have no money, they chat and complain on the Internet to kill time. Have you ever seen a company CEO or manager who often chats in QQ groups when they have nothing to do?
3. In this world, there are such a small group of people. When they open the newspaper, it is their news. When they turn on the TV, it is their news. What they talk about in the streets and alleys is their news, as if the world is for them. Prepared, they can call the wind and rain, omnipotent. Your goal should be to strive to become this small group of people.
4. If you really love your parents and your girlfriend, then work hard and fight hard. Only in this way can you have the ability, financial conditions, and free time. , to accompany them, to love them well.
5. In this society, fast fish eat slow fish, not slow fish eat fast fish.
6. In this society, winners take all and losers get nothing. In society, heroes are always judged only by their success or failure.
7. If you ask friends around you about words, if nine out of ten people say they don’t know, then this is an opportunity. If all nine out of ten people know it, it is an industry.
8. In any industry or market, those who come first have the meat to eat, and those who come later have no soup.
9. In this world, first-rate talents can make third-rate projects second-rate or better, but third-rate talents can make first-rate projects worse than third-rate projects.
10. While you are young, go out and see more. Reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles; traveling thousands of miles is not as good as reading countless people.
11. When interacting with others, listen more and talk less. This is why God gave us one mouth and two ears.
12. Remember, you have to be the last person to play cards, and play cards that surprise others when they think you are going to lose. Only in this way can you win the card game.
13. Don’t pretend to be big. For someone who is pretending to be big, the best way is to pick up a brick, follow him quietly, and knock him down from behind.
14. Don’t say dirty words casually, as this will make others think you are uncultured and less willing to associate with you. Even if they interact, it is perfunctory. Because he thinks in his heart that you are of poor quality.
15. When you want to smoke, ask the people around you if it is okay. Learn to respect others. Don't act cool and smoke in front of girls, you don't know, they are actually very disgusted inside.
16. When buying clothes, you should choose them yourself and don’t let your family buy them for you. Even though the clothes you buy for the first and second time are not very good, you will gradually become discerning.
17. If you want to make progress, you can only learn lessons. Successful experiences are distorted. If you succeed, you can say whatever you want. Losers have no say, but you can reflect on it through his examples. ,Summarize. Lessons should be learned not only from yourself, but also from others.
18. Study, study, study again. If you have something to do, go to the bookstore and read books. You can gain a lot about management, finance, marketing, interpersonal communication, future trends, etc. The competition in this society is too fierce. If you don’t study, you will be eliminated. By the end of 2008, more than one million college students in China were unable to find jobs. The competition is so fierce, so you must realize that after graduating from college, it is not that the study is over, but that the study has just begun. Also, I personally recommend a good video program, "Who's Coming to Lunch Together".
19. If you are not a singer, a painter, or a performer of performance art, then please pay attention to your clothes. In today's society, clothing can show which group or circle you belong to.
20. If a young man doesn’t have any ideas for three years, his life will be basically the same without much change.
21. Successful people have courage and courage. I once heard someone on the train talk about the success of Wenzhou people and said these three words, "courage". In fact, this is courage, and being able to take it up and let it go is courage.
22. Regardless of whether you will be engaged in the sales department in the future, read books about marketing. Because, in life, you are always promoting yourself to others. 23. In normal times, communicate more with your friends. Don’t wait until you need help from your friends before you think of contacting them. Only when you enter society will you know how difficult it is to meet a true friend?< /p>
24. If you want to know your future annual income. Find six of your most frequent friends, add up their annual income, divide it by six, and it’s almost yours. This example can fully illustrate the point that birds of a feather flock together.
25. Set a five-year goal for yourself, and then break it down into one year, half a year, three months, and one month. In this way, you can find your goals and direction.
26. At any time, remember the word dignity. A person must have dignity, principles and bottom line. Otherwise, no one will respect you.
27. If I can only give you one piece of advice, it is that there is no free lunch in this world, and never take shortcuts!
Life skills
Kim Jong-kun's classic quotations from "Hundred Schools of Forum"
1. Those with higher status on the phone hang up first. -
2. Education is reflected in details, details show quality, and details determine success or failure. -
3. The host accompanies the guest in the driverless elevator. The host is first in, last out. -
4. Three-color principle - no more than three colors should be used on the whole body. -
5. The Law of Trinity - When wearing a suit, the shoes, belt, and briefcase should be of the same color (black is preferred). -
6. Men look at their watches, and women look at their bags (big men); women look at their heads, and men look at their waists (ordinary people). -
7. Makeup is a sign of respect for the partner and others (women on important occasions); don’t hang anything on your belt (men on important occasions) -
8. Respect your superiors It is a bounden duty; respecting colleagues is a duty; respecting subordinates is a virtue; respecting guests is a common sense; respecting opponents is a kind of demeanor; respecting everyone is a kind of education. -
9. Learn the three basic concepts of etiquette - respect, good expression, and formal formality. -
10. Guest etiquette - do not cause burden or trouble to the other party, make an appointment before visiting, and pay attention to the moderation of activities. -
11. There is a certain amount of care. Excessive care is a kind of harm. -
12. New Year’s gifts focus on conveying love and emotion. -
13. The hostess will accompany the guests, and the male host will greet them and send them off.
14. Pain comes from comparison; pain comes from unsatisfied desires. -
15. The front door is up, the right is up, the center is up, the front row is up, and the far side is up. -
16. Government etiquette is high on the left and low on the right. -
17. Harmony but not uniformity (this sentence comes from the Analects of Confucius, the original sentence is "Gentlemen are harmonious but not uniform, villains are uniform but not harmonious") -
18. There is no reason. High voice. -
19. Communication is centered on the other party. -
20. Respecting women is respecting the mother of mankind. -
21. When a man loves his wife, he loves himself. Input and output are absolutely proportional, and the benefits are relatively good. -
22. To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself. -
23. Awareness of interaction; perspective taking + effective communication -
24. I never torture others with myself; I never torture myself with others. -
25. Follow the rules when it comes to your partner, understand them and respect them. -
26. What can’t you eat? -
27. Put yourself in position (treat others well) and adjust your mentality (treat yourself well). -
28. No matter how big a thing you want to do, you will have to bear a lot of pressure. -
29. Yesterday has passed, so there is no need to worry about it; tomorrow has not come, so there is no need to worry about it for the time being; now that we are going through it, there is no need to worry about it. -
30. Many worries in life are caused by one’s own delusions. -
31. It is often impossible to make everyone like you; we should strive to make most people like us. -
32. If you have a healthy mentality, you will have healthy interpersonal relationships, a healthy work attitude, and a healthy quality of life. -
33. How to adjust your mentality - accept others (treat others with tolerance).