When I was studying for an MBA at Nanjing University, the dean of the business school was Zhao Shuming. Zhao Shuming was a tractor driver in my hometown in his early years, and later he studied under Drucker. He is a famous expert in the field of human resources and strategy in China. The old man is short, ugly, likes Maotai, and has a good capacity for drinking. He often receives emails from the old man at two or three o'clock in the evening, but I often find him dozing off during class. The old man has a famous saying that he often talks about: "Hardship is the core competitiveness".

I wonder how much Li Ka-shing has suffered. But he lost his father in his early years and started from scratch, becoming the richest man in China. The hardships can be imagined. Li Ka-shing's father, Li Yunjing, is an ordinary scholar who fled to Hongkong with his family. Before he died, he left three sentences for Li Ka-shing, who was not yet an adult: Only after suffering can he be a master; It is better to ask for help than to ask for help; Don't be discouraged when frustrated, and don't be arrogant when proud. Judging from these three sentences, the younger son will eventually become a generation of giants with hardship and kindness.

A good person is one who is always hard on himself, and one who constantly pushes himself to the limit of his ability. These people even have a tendency of "self-abuse", and they will compare with others to see who hurts them more.

I think this is the bottom line of this utilitarian world. Anyone who wants to succeed on his own must be strict with himself.

Spencer wrote in his article: How hard we have to work to look effortless and lead an ordinary life in these deformed cities.

I deeply think so: indeed, the big cities of this era are the arenas for ordinary people to strive for.

First of all, suffering is first and foremost an ability. Ability is not achieved overnight. You have the ability to eat a catty, and your opponent has the ability to eat five jins. It means that the opponent can crush you as long as he drives one-fifth horsepower. Without the ability to bear hardships, even if the willingness to bear hardships is strong, it will not gain an advantage.

Secondly, we must have the will to endure hardships. We must have the will to fight hard, hard and protracted wars. It is not enough to have the ability to bear hardships, but also to have the will to take the initiative to find abuse. People are naturally lazy and hate work, and those who can form the will of self-abuse and constantly improve are easy to stand out. The suffering that people can feel is just an illusion. But this illusion is too real, even those who have the ability to bear hardships are unwilling to bear hardships.

Besides, everyone is good at eating in different ways. Since suffering is an ability, there will be differences. Some people are good at eating physical pain, some people are good at thinking pain, and some people are more terrible. They are good at eating any pain. On the one hand, we should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and try our best to suffer in our own field. On the other hand, the shortcomings with great influence must be made up in a targeted manner.

Of course, in the real world, we actually face more temptation than suffering. Under the contrast of temptation, the discomfort just now becomes very bitter, which makes people anxious to return to the comfort zone.

There is a price to pay for being willing to come. There's always a time when the pain comes to an end. Eat early and finish early. Flies that must be eaten should be eaten as soon as possible, and problems that cannot be solved by delay should not only be delayed, but also be solved first. In order to find problems early and improve them early.

There is a famous presidential saying in the American drama House of Cards: There are two kinds of pains. The pain that makes you strong or useless ... the suffocating pain. Translated into Chinese, there are two kinds of pain, one makes you stronger, and the other is worthless, just adding to the torture.

The Buddha said that the sea of suffering is boundless. But even the same pain, pain and pain are different: either choose to take the initiative or be forced to accept the pain imposed by life.

If I look back on the past, I can easily find that every time I choose to be hard on myself, I will achieve corresponding results; On the contrary, almost all failures are related to the pursuit of comfort. The ancients said: Born in sorrow, died in happiness. That's the truth.

And if the total amount of suffering in a person's life is the same, then the more active suffering, the less passive suffering. More importantly, taking the initiative to suffer hardships will accumulate more happiness. That is the other side of life.

Taking the initiative to choose hardship can reduce passive hardship and leave happiness to the future!

And the more ambitious you are, the more endurance you need. There is enough thrust to overcome gravity.

Kazuo inamori said: Pay as much as anyone's efforts. According to the law of causality, you don't even need to compare your grades with others, you just need to treat yourself more cruelly than anyone else.

As I said at the beginning, the values that stay on paper are meaningless, just thoughts that add trouble, unless they are deepened and tested in action. Take hardship as an example, every hardship internalizes this value, and at the same time, it is also testing whether this value is correct. Practice is the only criterion for testing truth and practice is the only criterion for testing values.

Only thinking for practice makes sense. So how to practice hardship? The following are guidelines for discovering abuse:

1, the first step in finding abuse: treat procrastination first. Anything with a deadline is necessary. Put it in the first place at once, and then arrange something else when you are finished. You know, you can't hide if you want to, but procrastination will only increase your troubles.

The reason for procrastination is that what you want to do is uncomfortable. However, since it must be done, it must be done sooner or later. Procrastination can only be a temporary comfort, and it will also bear more and more serious procrastination pressure.

Find the source of procrastination by intuition, lock in the action that makes you uncomfortable and kill it. The key to this step is to get the deadline items that must be completed immediately, and other non-deadline items will be postponed actively.

2. The second step to find abuse: greatly improve efficiency and bid farewell to perfectionism.

Moving projects that are unwilling to be closed to the highest priority does not mean that the work can be completed in time. Due to the pressure of getting out of the comfort zone and the lack of time limit, it is entirely possible to lead to inefficiency.

The method I suggest is to compress the time extremely. It used to be two hours' work, but now it's reduced to half an hour. The work that was originally expected to take 1 day was compressed to 1 hour.

Only when resources are scarce enough can power generation achieve the highest efficiency. So, you might as well arrange work for yourself two or three times a day and then try to finish it.

Maybe at first, extreme compression will lead to imperfect results, but don't worry about this temporary negative effect, because: 1, with the adaptation to pressure, your efficiency will increase quickly; 2, because there is no time to pursue perfection, so your work will be more practical, not unrealistic, and you can continue to improve in the future. Facebook's corporate motto: Do better than perfect.

3, find the third step of abuse. Savage physique.

You won't run out of energy, because you will always run out of energy. This is a famous saying of American bodybuilding legend Greg Plitt. The body is the foundation of the spirit. If the body can't bear hardships, let alone the spirit.

Savage physique and civilized spirit, these two words are not isolated Together, it means that the more physical endurance is improved, the better the spirit is.

Exercise can not only improve the body's tolerance to high-intensity labor, but also enhance the mental knowledge and understanding of pain. Kill two birds with one stone.

Choose a sport, stick to it and constantly improve your physical and mental competitiveness.

Always ask yourself if you can be a little bitter. At any time of pain, we should be able to see the essence of overcoming inertial resistance through illusory pain.