Dad listens to his stepmother. If you don't listen, people won't let you go to bed, forget your children, buy a house and a car for others, leave your children aside, and lead your children to get married. My mother's father doesn't walk around with her husband's family and is looked down upon by his husband's family. The end result is that the father is old and there is no one to support him, and other people's children belong to other people's families. They have no obligation to support him for free. What I want to say is that one spouse dies and does not remarry. If you have physical needs, you can find a lover. Don't get married, it will do too much harm to the children.