When we do something wrong, we know that the thing itself is wrong, but everything we do is wrong, which means that this person is wrong and wrong.
Just like many people often say when they are frustrated, I was born a man, I'm sorry.
This sentence comes from a group of poems entitled "The Suicide Letter" by Japanese poet Kyutaro. One of them is "I was born a man, I'm sorry".
1936, the Japanese writer Osamu Dazai quoted this sentence as the subtitle of the book The Flag Bearer of the Twentieth Century.
Because Osamu Dazai's works are often full of deep-rooted melancholy beauty, people nowadays often take the phrase "I was born a man, I'm sorry" as Osamu Dazai's famous saying. Because this sentence is too infectious in a certain context, in the last part of the well-known film "The Life of Abandoned Pine Nuts", Pine Nuts left his last words: "I was born a human being, I'm sorry".
To understand this sentence, we can start with Osamu Dazai's famous novel Disqualification on Earth.
Ye Cang, a disqualified hero in the world, was weak and sensitive since childhood. He cares too much about himself in the eyes of others and always wins the favor of his family with a fake smile. At school, he always smiles and performs, just to be welcomed by everyone, for fear of accidentally leaving a bad impression on others.
Ye Cang's heart is always full of fear. He always observes other people's eyes and expresses himself according to the expectations of people around him.
At the same time, this sentence may have another meaning: man, this animal is really strange. It was born subject to the eyes of others. Everyone thinks that what they really think is not important, but what others say is the most important. But people's natural state should be free, should follow their own original heart, be born as a human being, but violate human nature. Are they still worthy of being human? I'm sorry for who I am. Maybe, if I wasn't born, or was born human, wouldn't it be better to be a cat and a dog?
The reason why many people are shocked by the statement that human beings are disqualified is because there are too many people in the society, and Ye, the protagonist of human disqualification, has more or less similar psychology.
The philosopher Sartre has a famous saying: Others are hell.
Unfortunately, many people misunderstand. It's not that people around you may hurt or even destroy themselves and can't trust others, but that they live completely in the eyes of others and in their evaluation system. When others become the subject and themselves become the object, people will be extremely painful, as follows.
When you are eager for others' response and recognition and lose confidence in judging the world, others are hell.
Now there is a word that everyone often talks about-please personality.
Indeed, some people may belong to the "please-type personality" in the category of psychology, but when they please others, they often feel real joy. Even if TA does not please others in something, it will not feel great loss and fear because of the lack of external response.
In any case, people in this world, whether external or internal, will have a bad end if they are extremely biased towards one side.
Know your real situation, consider the discretion, and consider which water level your "moderation" is at. Leave a clearing for the soul, and don't block the coming and going of others on the path around the clearing.
Son, you don't have to feel sorry for being born.