Be confident. Don't let inferiority affect your view of the world.
People are social animals, and interpersonal relationships are inevitable. Even if you panic, you should handle the problem well. Don't deny everything just because you have been injured once or twice. People are mutual. Let yourself trust and pay first.
You are kind to a person, and he is ungrateful. Then if you are kind to a hundred people, one person will repay you for your kindness.
Confidence is not that I believe in you, nor that I believe in myself. But my objective understanding of life. This kind of cognition is not based on beautiful and fragile vision, nor on the overreaction after injury. It is more important for people to have self-knowledge, be honest with themselves, know the boundaries of their abilities and admit their limitations.
With this knowledge, it is naturally more calm. Don't touch what you shouldn't touch, don't be familiar with what you shouldn't be familiar with, do what you should do quickly, and be worthy of being treated sincerely.
At first, you wouldn't even think that people would be so bad, but after experiencing a lot of malice, it's not bad to get the skills to distinguish and deal with malice.
If a person cares too much about interpersonal relationships and feelings, it is either influenced by popular values or lack of care in his heart.
Therefore, we must first change our cognition. The so-called social and interpersonal relationships are really that important.
A few years ago, we can find that everyone is advocating extroversion, socialization and high emotional intelligence, which is considered to be an excellent quality that a person must possess. As an introverted person, I am also pursuing this standard, trying to get along with others and trying to show a lively and sunny side in social occasions.
Finally, I found that this wrong value made me physically and mentally haggard, and I felt that no matter how hard I tried, I could not reach the standard of true extroversion. I always thought this was caused by my personality defect, and then I fell into depression.
Fortunately, because of my quiet and peaceful side, I read a lot of psychological books during my depression, so I gradually realized that I have been doing things that go against my personality and consume my heart. There is no difference between good and bad personality, but extroverts are more sociable and introverts prefer to be alone.
Read books, exercise, and concentrate on what you like. So I gradually like this state and feel very comfortable. I don't have to say hello when I meet strangers on the road. I don't have to try my best to be cheerful in unfamiliar situations.
Therefore, making yourself feel comfortable is the way to conform to your heart, calm your heart and nourish your heart.
The second point may be the lack of family care in childhood, the unmet needs, and the injury to young hearts. It may also be that after several bad feelings, I began to distrust feelings. I just answered that the Lord has satisfied these two points, which are causal. People who lack love in their hearts will pay too much to ask for more love, which will make the other party feel great psychological pressure, and finally they will be forced to break up and will be moved by themselves until they don't know why.
Do you really not deserve to be loved? Of course not, but I'm in no hurry to make others love me. Even if you really meet someone who can love me, you will be scared away by the black hole of lack of love in your heart. So we can't rely on each other or anyone, but we should love ourselves and form an independent self-consciousness.
So you also said that you have distrust of friendship, love and interpersonal communication. I think what you mean by trust is that you dare not give and depend on each other, so I feel that all parties have adjusted well, but what is still lacking is not enough care for yourself.
So don't trust and rely on each other, spend more time and energy on yourself, treat yourself in a good way to others, make yourself a meal, make a cup of tea, and let yourself try all the beautiful things.
When you can really rely on yourself, be alone with yourself and talk to yourself, I believe you will gain better feelings and be more calm.