Dear, this is the 10th in my daily quote series (quotes 56 to 60).
I share with you these golden sentences that have been deeply rooted in my cerebral cortex, coupled with my vivid personal experience.
Golden Quote 56: Don’t let your desires be greater than your abilities
The core statement is that our pain comes from desires, or more precisely, from the sense of loss that cannot be realized. If ability is greater than desire, contribution is greater than demand, desire will be realized and life will be happy.
Personal experience My hometown is Xuchang, Henan. Xuchang Fat Donglai Supermarket is a famous supermarket in the country. Supermarket operators from all over the country go to Xuchang to learn from Fat Donglai how to run a supermarket.
I am very proud that such a benchmark supermarket can appear in my hometown, Xuchang.
When I heard Yu Dong, the founder of Fat Donglai, "Don't let your desires be greater than your abilities," I admired his wisdom very much.
When I have desires in my heart, such as getting a promotion and a salary increase, I ask myself: Is your ability greater than your desires?
When you ask yourself this question, you will focus more on improving your abilities.
Action Guidance In the Internet age, information transparency is getting higher and higher, and the possibility of talents being buried is getting smaller and smaller. As long as we focus on improving our capabilities and increasing our contributions, recognition and rewards will naturally come our way.
How do you feel after reading "Don't let your desires be greater than your abilities"?
Golden Quote 57 We must continue to grow and grow into a person of value to others.
Core Narration Many times in life, we are engaged in value exchange. Only through continuous progress and growth, and having value to others and society, can we get the things we need in life, such as money, respect, status, etc.
A personal experience was once when a senior fellow student who was a university professor invited me to tutor his undergraduate students to share my experience and suggestions for the future workplace.
I introduced the past, present and future of drug development, from chemical drugs, small molecule drugs, macromolecular monoclonal antibody drugs, to cell therapy and gene therapy drugs, and pointed out the majors needed in the future of drug development. Knowledge.
After sharing my professional knowledge, I shared my understanding of the workplace.
I believe that the workplace is essentially a value exchange.
If you can consciously learn professional knowledge that may be used in future work in school instead of just coping with exams, then your value at work will be greater, and you will be able to gain Better pay.
In addition to professional knowledge, English proficiency and writing skills are the basic abilities needed in the workplace. If you can prepare well in advance at school, your value will be higher.
Action guidance takes advantage of the convenient learning conditions in the Internet era, continues to grow, and makes our own value greater and greater, so that we can exchange for a prosperous and happy life.
How do you continue to improve and grow?
Quote 58: Leave some stories for yourself
Core paraphrase: Imagine how cool it would be if we could leave some stories of our own when we grow old.
Personal experience 007's comrade Xuemei compiled her works into a book titled "Leave Some Stories for Yourself".
This book was not published by a publishing house, but was typeset and printed by herself. This book was given to herself, as well as to her relatives and friends.
This thing makes me admire and sigh with emotion very much. We ordinary people can also write books, be our own heroes, and have our own stories.
Even if it is not officially published by a publisher, what does it matter? Comrade Xuemei’s dream of publishing a book came true and he became a storyteller.
Every one of us ordinary people can also write books and tell our own stories. When we grow old, we can tell our descendants that I am a person with a story. I will write down my story and leave it to you.
Action Director I was very inspired when I saw Xuemei writing a book.
Writing is to record true and valuable things word by word.
If I keep writing, I can write my own book and have my own story.
How do you plan to leave a story for yourself?
Golden Sentence 59 Meaning, Purpose and Effect
The source is Toutiao
The core statement of any sentence can be divided into three levels: meaning, language Purpose and effect.
Semantic meaning is the literal meaning of this sentence.
Purpose, that is to say, the motivation, purpose, and potential intention of this sentence.
Speech effect, that is, the effect achieved on the other party after this sentence is spoken.
For words that trigger our intense emotional reactions, if we break them down according to the three levels of "semantic meaning, purpose, and effect", we will gain rationality and calmness.
Personal experience: "Why are you being unreasonable!" I have been accused of this inexplicably, and you may be no exception.
When we hear such accusations, we should not be led away by the semantic meaning, that is, the literal meaning of "unreasonable" and rush to argue. Instead, first look at the "speech effect", that is, how much harm this sentence causes to you. If there is no harm and the other person is just venting their emotions, don't worry about it.
But if it has a negative impact on you, for example, if colleagues or acquaintances hear it, it may cause misunderstandings about you. You have to judge the second point, the purport, and why the other party said that.
If the judgment is not clear at once, you can let the other party finish speaking and let the bullets fly for a while.
If your behavior has caused losses to the other party and the other party wants to compensate or apologize, then take action and sincerely apologize.
If it is unreasonable, record it and ask those who heard it to witness it.
After judging the effect and purpose, finally judge the semantic meaning, that is, the literal meaning of the other party: accusing you of being unreasonable.
Semantics are the least important. Don’t get caught up in a semantic struggle.
Action Guidance When encountering fierce words that may cause harm to us, first use the "meaning, purpose, and effect" model to rationally analyze it.
When rationality is activated, emotions will not be swayed.
How do you deal with negative language?
Golden Quote 60 The cornerstone of successful communication is mutual trust
Core Paraphrase Successful communication is not based on talking more or saying nice things, but on being able to communicate well with others. On the basis of building a relationship of trust.
From personal experience, after working in a company, I feel more and more that communication skills are very important. A lot of cross-department collaboration is required within the enterprise, requiring communication skills. Outside the company, it is necessary to obtain cooperation from partner hospitals or suppliers, and communication skills are also required.
I used to think that communication skills require the ability to speak nice words, but I don’t know how to speak nice words, so I don’t have much confidence.
Later, I gradually realized that being able to speak nice words will add points to successful communication, but it is not the most important thing. Trust is the most important factor in successful communication.
So, how to gain trust?
First, you must reflect your professionalism. For example, a comprehensive and in-depth understanding of the cooperation project can answer the questions raised by the other party.
Second, complete collaboration tasks with quality and quantity according to time nodes. If the collaborative tasks are not completed and the other party's work is delayed, no matter how beautiful your words are, it will not work.
Action guidance: Gaining trust through professional and reliable actions is a good way to continuously improve the chances of successful cooperation.
How do you achieve cooperation by gaining trust?