If you don't want to break your heart, you need to learn to control your life as much as possible-and realize that there are many things that you can't control.
Dr. Robert S. Eliot, author of the new book "From Stress to Strength: How to Reduce Burden and Save Life", said so. He is a professor of clinical medicine at the University of Nebraska.
Eliot said that there are some people in this world, which he called "thermal reactors". For these people, nervousness may cause their blood pressure to rise sharply.
Elliot said that researchers found that, among other things, people with high stress have higher cholesterol levels. "We have been working for many years to prove that excessive alarm or stress chemicals can indeed cause myocardial fiber rupture. When this happens, it happens very quickly, less than five minutes. It will cause many short circuits and lead to crazy arrhythmia. The heart beats like a bag of bugs, not a pump. When this happens, we can't survive. "
Eliot, 64, had a heart attack at the age of 44. He blamed some of the reasons on stress. For many years, he was a "thermal reactor". On the outside, he is calm, but deep down, the pressure is killing him. He is doing well now.
He said that the main predictors of destructive stress levels are FUD factors-fear, uncertainty and doubt-and the perception of lack of control.
For many people, the root of their stress is anger, and the trick is to find out where the anger comes from. "Does anger come from a feeling that everything must be perfect?" Elliott asked.
"This is very common among professional women. They feel that they must meet all the requirements of everyone and be perfect. They think,' I should, I must, I must.' Good enough is never good enough. Perfectionists cannot authorize. They are angry that they have to bear everything, and they are furious. Then they will feel guilty and start the whole cycle again. "
"Others are angry because they don't have a compass in their lives. They pay as much attention to traffic jams as family disputes, "he said. "If you are angry for more than five minutes-if you stir your juice without a safe exit-you must find out where it comes from."
"The reality is that the more people are physically stressed, the more likely they are to collapse due to some kind of heart problem."
One step to calm down is to realize that you have this tendency. Learn to be less hostile by changing some of your attitudes and negative thoughts.
Eliot suggested taking responsibility for your own life. "If there is a word that can replace stress, it is control. What you want is not the FUD factor, but the good factor-new, interesting and challenging experiences. "
"You have to decide which parts of your life you can control," he said. "Stop and say to yourself,' I'm going to take out my compass and see what I need to do.' "
He advises people to write down six things in life that they think they want to achieve most. Ben Franklin did it when he was 32. "He wrote down such things as being a better father, being a better husband, being financially independent, stimulating intelligence and keeping a peaceful mind-he is not good at these things."
Elliot said, you can list 12 things first, then reduce it to 6 things and set your priorities. "Don't give yourself the impossible, but give yourself something that will affect your identity, control and self-worth."
"Write them on a note card, take them with you, and look at them when necessary. Because we can't create 26 hours a day, we must decide what we want to do. "
Keep in mind that these priorities will change over time. "When the child grows up and the dog dies, you change your priorities."
From Eliot's point of view, another key to controlling stress is to "realize that there are other troublesome parts of your life that you have little or no control over-such as the economy and politicians".
You must realize that sometimes when you encounter traffic jams, deadlines and unpleasant bosses, "you can't escape." You can't escape. You must learn how to flow. "
This article is about a series of diseases, such as heart disease, which may be caused by stress. You can filter it yourself, and then you can search for some reports about students committing suicide because of stress. Generally speaking, it is 1. Stress will affect their physical and mental health. Stress can bring mental hazards. Excessive pressure may become a resistance to action. Anyway, a little logic in these cliches is enough.
I hope it helps.