? During the epidemic prevention and control at home, I was fortunate to read the book "Deciphering the Life Code" by Bi Shumin, a famous psychologist and writer. I am very inspired. It turns out that there is a password to get happiness, and everyone's life password is in their own hands. The book breaks the shackles of the soul that affect happiness-inferiority, depression, anxiety, sadness, fear of death and other wounds hidden in deep consciousness, thinking and exploring the harmonious and balanced spiritual art, in fact, the human heart is like the sun, divided into sunny and round, and the human heart is like the bright moon, which is different from the lack of round. The sun and moon in nature have not changed, but our vision has changed; The happiness cycle in life has not changed, but our mentality has changed!
? Happiness, the dictionary explains that life and circumstances are all happy. I think happiness is luck plus blessing, which is meaningful happiness. Happiness is a lighthouse, and everyone is willing to get it. However, different attitudes determine different views on happiness. Some people regard leisure, hate work and pleasure as happiness; Some people regard struggle and entrepreneurship as happiness; Some people regard the pursuit of wealth maximization to satisfy selfish desires as happiness; Some people regard doing more good deeds to benefit mankind as happiness. Having a healthy body is happiness; It is happiness to be admitted to your favorite school when you are at school; It is happiness to engage in the work you like when you graduate; It is happiness to meet your beloved lover at the age of marriage and join hands for life; Parents are alive, and children are healthy and happy when they are adults; A sense of security and happiness is happiness ... My concept of happiness is to be healthy, try to live a good life every day, and make my family, my students and all my friends happy because of my existence! As Emily Dickinson, an American poet, said, "If I can save a broken heart, I will live in vain;" If I can soothe the wound of a life, or relieve a person's pain, or help a fainting robin return to its nest, then I will live in vain. "
Life is like a mirror. If you smile at her, she will smile back at you. Or, conversely, Dallas goes to the auditorium to say that the rich have more troubles and the poor have the fun of the poor. One's life can't be smooth sailing. When encountering setbacks and misfortunes, we should learn to think against the trend, think about the worst and work hard for the best. If you feel happy, you will be full of sunshine, have a good attitude, meet good luck and blessings, and live a happy life! The goddess of happiness is very spiritual and will never patronize people who don't like her! Everyone feels different about happiness. Happiness is not a state that can be achieved by some external label or technical means, but an internal grasp and perception of the spiritual world. The concept of happiness depends on the mentality. Therefore, if you want to be happy, you must first adjust your mentality and live a good day!
? Bi Shumin discusses everyone's happiness from the perspective of psychology. Her understanding of happiness is: "meaningful happiness is happiness." A truly happy person means not only that every moment in life is happy, but also the whole state of life. Even though he has experienced painful moments, he knows the true meaning of these pains. He knows that after all these pains, he still points to happiness. It can even be said that these pains are part of happiness, and he is still happy on the whole. " Happy people are like the sun, where it shines; Unfortunate people are like the moon, and the fifteenth day of the first lunar month is different.
What prevents us from perceiving happiness? Happiness is the feeling of the soul, and only a healthy mind has the ability to perceive happiness. But where is happiness? This is a question that many people are asking, but in fact everyone's answer is different. In real life, we will also see people have completely different views on the same issue. Different levels of mental health have different understandings of happiness. If a person can't accept his own shortcomings and disappointments, he will always be trapped in complaints and pains. Of course, happiness is out of the question, but if we can accept everything about ourselves frankly, we will love life and strive to create happiness!
Mental health, self-confidence and optimism are the basis of feeling happy, just like the book "Breaking the Code of Life" says: applaud yourself. The German philosopher Feuerbach said that the main goal of life is to make yourself happy. Only when you are happy can you make people around you happy, because happy people are willing to see happy people around you.
China has a saying: If you gain something, you will lose something, and if you lose something, you will gain something. If we can look farther, sadness is not terrible. People will inevitably encounter things that make them sad and painful in their lives. If this sad mood cannot be eliminated and resolved normally, it will not only make people's lives dim and shrink, but also turn into mental illness. Whether it is tears or confession, it is conducive to resolving sadness. Teacher Bi Shumin taught us the key to get out of sadness.
? The most regrettable thing in life is to miss happiness, so what should we rely on to make the right decision when facing various choices in life? Since happiness is a feeling of the soul, is there any specific way to make our hearts feel real happiness? Teacher Bi Shumin believes that the first way to pursue real happiness in life is to have a sense of purpose, and the second way is to have a goal. One of the biggest puzzles in life is not knowing how to make the right decision when faced with a choice. In fact, the easiest way is to recognize your sense of purpose and goals, and the decisions made on this basis will often make your life more happy and less regrettable. We can calm down and ask ourselves, what is our happiness in life? Is it the luck of winning the grand prize in ordinary life, not worrying about the fun of food, clothing, housing and transportation every day, the success of many years of dreams, the young and beautiful confidante around you, the rebirth in the disaster of life, or the promotion in official career? I feel like I have everything. It feels so far away and so close, so short and difficult to meet, so ordinary and I have no chance to get to know each other. I feel that I am longing for it every day, but I can't understand it. I didn't even know that happiness was around me. I come and go quietly. Like the wind, like the sun and the moon, like a wandering dream, I am close to myself but I don't know how to feel it, and I don't know how to stay away from myself.
Happiness is a feeling, a feeling that you are happy when you think you are happy. In fact, happiness is more like an expectation of human beings. Everyone longs for happiness, but many people will never get it. God is fair to everything that exists, but we lack a pair of eyes looking for happiness.
In fact, happiness is around us, in every bit of our lives. Happiness means having someone to laugh with you in the face of difficulties, having someone to accompany you when you are happy and having someone to accompany you when you are sad! Happiness means never being lonely at any time! In the face of disaster and pain, the closest person can hold your hand tightly, which is happiness; When you have to face pressure because of work needs, friends are ready to stand in front of you at any time, which is happiness; When you are sick, your parents and family are always with you. This is happiness. Open your eyes every day to see the beginning of a new day, which is happiness, in other words, living is happiness! Happiness is happiness! Happiness is peace and health; Happiness is happiness and comfort; Happiness is satisfaction and hope; Happiness is learning and appreciating. Learning to be content is happiness. Someone should be happy to wash the dishes for me after dinner. Save every little happiness, and you will be surrounded by happiness slowly. If you despise small happiness, you will eventually be excluded from happiness. Happiness is infinite, only intentional. Let's join hands in self-love, self-esteem, self-improvement and self-confidence, and we will often experience happiness. Letting others get and have happiness is often their greatest and longest happiness. Let's share, understand and cherish the happiness of life together. Let the veil of happiness no longer be mysterious, and let real happiness come to us.
? Keep an open-minded and peaceful mind, set a correct goal in life, be kind to people and things around you, and learn to refuse and give up appropriately. Happiness is all around us. This is my greatest gain and feeling after reading this book. I hope all people who want to be happy in the world can grasp every happiness point in life, understand my happiness, be my master and win lifelong happiness with their own mentality!