Living in this world is not easy. Learning to speak is easy, but learning to shut up is difficult.

Speaking is a kind of instinct, shutting up is a kind of practice, and silence is a kind of wisdom.

Many people should have heard this sentence "It takes us two years to learn how to speak, but it takes us a lifetime to learn how to shut up!"

Especially In the relationship between husband and wife, we should learn to shut up and know how to keep "quiet". Note that it is not silent, nor silent, but quiet.

These three seemingly similar words are essentially different, silence With emotion, you can make the other party feel uncomfortable, with silence, with cold violence, you can make the other party angry, but with silence, with a slight raise of the corner of your mouth, you may be able to extinguish your anger and resolve your sorrow at a critical moment, even when it is hot. .

Halfway through life, I feel more and more: Silence is golden!

I remember watching a talk given by Luo Yonghao. He cleverly used the neutral word "overall view"!

Li Dan asked Teacher Luo, "Are your wives strict?"

Teacher Luo said: "Be obedient" or "be obedient" in front of your wife, and know how to shut up. You must have a strong view of the overall situation. This is not about being strict with your wife, but a strong view of the overall situation.

Seeing this scene can’t help but make people smile. Sure enough, there are many wise words. Yes, in the relationship between husband and wife, the family is not a battlefield in the workplace, but a place for physical and mental pleasure and rest. There is no need to fight for it. You lose and I win.

Sometimes learning to be silent can make people feel at ease!

There is such a couple of friends. The wife is quiet and gentle, and the husband is a passionate young man who loves rock and roll. Their stumbled love in college brought these two souls with completely different personalities together. After graduation, he settled down in his wife's city.

Now the couple is living a happy life, and the wife proudly said: The best relationship between husband and wife comes from knowing how to shut up and believe in the power of silence, which will definitely enhance the relationship between husband and wife!

A thousand words are worse than a word of silence.

1. You must learn to shut up when you quarrel. Everyone is an impulsive devil when they are angry. Compared with devils, they must be tit-for-tat. They can say any ugly thing. At this time, know how to shut up. It is a kind of cultivation and a pattern;

2. Learn to shut up when you complain. Whenever you are depressed or don’t know where to go, the words of complaint will always keep complaining. At this time, you must learn to shut up. , the power of silence will make you radiate energy from the inside out;

3. Learn to shut up when you feel superior. Everyone has different experiences and different stages of life. In the times In the tide, ups and downs are always inevitable. When you feel superior, you must know how to put yourself in someone else's shoes, learn to shut up, and respect each other's relationship;

4. Learn to shut up when there are many difficulties. Mouth, life is always changing, problems and difficulties always come one after another. In the face of difficulties, I must learn to be quiet and accepting and face them bravely, and face difficulties with the other half of my life ***;

There are various scenes that will appear in our lives. Sometimes we are happy and sometimes sad. A clean mouth can bring inner purity. Discover more beautiful things in life and let go of those small things. In that moment, my heart naturally becomes much clearer.

1. It is difficult to do a big thing because it is difficult to achieve, but it is very simple to do a small thing. Set some small goals for yourself first.

For example, every time you quarrel, be the first to be quiet. The pleasure you achieve every time will penetrate your body, mind and soul. Over time, it will become a habit that you practice. Over time, the relationship between husband and wife will gradually become better.

2. Discover the small advantages and shining points of the couple, and accumulate more words of praise. When shutting up, you can use humor or praise to resolve the crisis. Everyone likes to talk. With the words of the lotus, even couples who are close to each other hope to hear praise every day and bring each other closer to the depths of their hearts;

3. Leave more private space for each other so that each other can be in their own world Swim as much as you want, without any scruples, and know how to keep quiet and respect the other person's world.

Being quiet is the best way to live, and shutting up is the best way to cultivate yourself.

Text/Lao Xia Analyst

Sometimes, even though they have never met. But we have known each other for a long time, very subtle and very contented.