Some parents’ education methods are simple and crude, regardless of their children’s self-esteem, and often require their children to obey them unconditionally. Some parents even believe that "filial sons emerge from under a stick" and that good children are born through beatings. It is natural for parents to beat their children, so they often beat and scold their children. If this continues, the child will become timid, withdrawn, indifferent, or treat others with aggression and hostility. Some parents discover that their children have bad deeds or have made mistakes, and they are rude and hit or scold them, causing their children to develop strong opposition and rebellious psychology.

In fact, beating and scolding children will only make them obey temporarily on the surface, but they will feel disgusted in their hearts and may even learn to treat others by beating and scolding. Using this method will not only fail to educate the child well, but will also damage the child's self-esteem and cause the child to develop bad characters such as low self-esteem, timidity, isolation, and lying.

Dr. Thompson Gershoff of Columbia University in the United States collected and analyzed years of data to study the impact of corporal punishment on children's behavior and life experiences.

Her research results show that corporal punishment can indeed make children obey the rules quickly, but in the long run, corporal punishment is not effective in improving their behavior, and may also increase children's aggression and reaction. social behavior. In particular, frequent use of severe corporal punishment as the main method of discipline will cause a series of psychological problems in children, and may even have the opposite effect. The more punishment is used, the more serious the child's behavioral problems will be.

The more important point is that corporal punishment itself cannot teach children to distinguish right from wrong. Corporal punishment can only make children fear their parents. Children may do what their parents ask when their parents are present; but they will misbehave when their parents are not present. Therefore, beating and scolding children is the worst education method.

Tolstoy once said: "All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine percent of education, comes down to role models and the integrity and perfection of parents' own lives." It can be said that , parents’ precepts and deeds are a necessary condition for family education.

Suhomlinsky has a famous saying in education: "Fathers and mothers, you continue yourselves in your children!" This sentence reminds parents that they must strictly demand themselves and teach by words and deeds. Children are enlightened and grow up under the influence of the words and deeds of their father and mother. Children will learn what their parents are like.

Indeed, every word and deed of parents has a subtle influence on the growth of their children. Therefore, parents’ precepts and deeds in daily life are an important educational method for family education. So, how do parents teach by words and deeds?

1. Parents must first fulfill the requirements they put forward for their children

Parents are the most direct objects of imitation for their children. What parents ask their children to do, they should do it first. Parents must be consistent in their words and deeds, and be strict with themselves in everything. Only with WeChat can they take the initiative in education, and only in this way can the educational effect achieve the expected goals.

2. Parents should be enterprising and constantly strengthen their self-cultivation

When mothers educate their children, they use their own personality power to influence their children. Parents continue to achieve results through their own efforts, which is the best spiritual encouragement and the best behavioral model for their children. Children will be influenced by their parents and maintain a positive and enterprising spirit. This is the biggest motivation for children to grow.